Also, if your partner struggles with ED or PE don't show it bothers you, it'll only make it worse, if sex is not good, don't lay there like a sack of spuds, HELP. Your quality of sex is in your control, don't just lay there like a mardy child when your partner isn't doing it for you, you're probably not doing it for them either! Sex is team work.
innocent-fun wrote:
LadyS wrote:
I pretty much agree with the laughing and the talking, I think all the physical tips in the world are no good if you feel uncomfortable with who you're with.
+1
couldnt have said it better.
Agree.
And my favourite quote I have found whilst making my own wedding scrapbook is "Happy wife. Happy life" haha, it always makes me laugh
I agree with most of you guys. Laughing is a very important part as it shows that both are comfortable, which is important if you are playing away from vanilla sex.
Love, laugh, communicate and enjoy ! Also care about what you're partner is feeling both during sex and 24/7 - emotional feelings are as important as physical ones :)
Haha, yes I tell my oh this frequently but he still takes no notice.Never know wrote:
innocent-fun wrote:
LadyS wrote:
I pretty much agree with the laughing and the talking, I think all the physical tips in the world are no good if you feel uncomfortable with who you're with.
+1
couldnt have said it better.
Agree.
And my favourite quote I have found whilst making my own wedding scrapbook is "Happy wife. Happy life" haha, it always makes me laugh
Young and fun95 wrote:
Also, if your partner struggles with ED or PE don't show it bothers you, it'll only make it worse, if sex is not good, don't lay there like a sack of spuds, HELP. Your quality of sex is in your control, don't just lay there like a mardy child when your partner isn't doing it for you, you're probably not doing it for them either! Sex is team work.
100% agree with this. ED in particular is made massively worse if your partner is worrying about disappointing you. And if you're not satisfied - speak up! I can pretty much guarantee your partner isn't a mind reader, and although they may feel initally disappointed that you're unhappy, they'll be glad to be pointed in the right direction.
trial and error.
simultaneous clitoral and g-spot stimulation.
relax
Listen to what your partner says, but also to what they don't.. Sometimes silence says more than a thousand words.
Be thoughtful, not just in the bedroom but out of it.
Never be scared to let someone know how much they turn you on.
Don't be half hearted!
visit Lovehoney and buy buy buy
play together come together stay together
Learn To love yourself, cosif you don't, how can you expect anyone else to!
Talk laugh trust relax enjoy & wear a blindfold if your having a self conscious bloated belly day lol x
Use a vibrating butt plug in the other orifice, it makes the man's orgasm last longer anyway. It also drains him dry.
LilHorror wrote:
#Dana wrote:
Umm talking would come before sex! and I'm not sure laughing would be ideal. But thanks for commenting.
haha like you just done! I said thanks for commenting. TBH that was pretty rude to say. Should not dismiss other peoples comments like that. :/ I also agree that talking and laughing are an vital part of a comfortable and happy sex life.
I think that being comfortable physically and emotionally is the most important thing.
Physically - I've never been able to climax in an awkward, uncomfortable position
Emotionally - I've never came with a stranger or someone I didn't trust!
And as for laughing and talking, I for one love a good giggle before/after sex about toys/lube/sex/positions/porn with my OH :)
AgreedBoogaloo wrote:
Sum Sub wrote:
TBH I think both of those are better advise than your one :p#Dana wrote:
Umm talking would come before sex! and I'm not sure laughing would be ideal. But thanks for commenting.
Haha same!
Mine are: Good communication, respect, and trust. Listen to your partner (and your body!), and learn to be adventurous from time to time.
I know that sounds like advice a parent would give haha, but as a 21 year old it's been the best key to a fulfilling sex life, as opposed to the usual stuff you'd read in Cosmo or whatever. You can learn to be an amazing lover by opening the lines of communication between you and your partner, in my opinion.
Communication communication and communication .
If you both can discuss things with each other then you will have a great sex life.
Be happy together out of the bedroom.
Same as everyone else - talk, laugh, be open.
Understand your needs might be different to your partner's, but both be open to work at things.