I’m no expert at this like @rockstar but I can definitely verify the totally different headspace experience. Knowing you can’t orgasm from your penis in itself makes you infinitely more aware of the weight, the incidental stimulation, and in cases of the (more so metal ones in my experience) that have the ability to be touched through the cage but don’t allow you to grow…are like lightning bolts through your body. It also makes you desperate to orgasm to the point you’re willing to do almost anything if you have a Libido like mine. Being caged and pegged is kind of the holy grail of being caged in my opinion. It’s actually how we started caging me, way back when, as an exploration into role reversal dynamics.
I can also state that from an “always in control and decision making perspective personality type,” when I’m caged I’m liberated in a way. It naturally puts me in a much less stressed headspace because I know I’m not in control. I don’t have to stress over making every minute decision while out in public, etc. Things like road rage (by other drivers), that would usually irritate me on long drives didn’t when I was caged, as an example. The whole experience is as much psychological as it is sexual, for me at least.
If I could find the right Cage combination that would allow me to keep my ball stretcher and or other CBT related toys on, I would be in heaven while caged. We don’t do it as much as we used to, but now you’ve gotten me thinking about surprising her when I pick her up from work in a few hours.
I love that you do the whole experience @rockstar ; from caging, denied, cleaning naked and or dressed up and the whole servitude experience. I think it’s a beautiful way to show the partner in your life you’re willing to reverse roles, especially if you’re naturally dominant, and that you appreciate what they’ve done for you. The surrender of control/power is a sacred thing In my mind. Either from the Dom accepting it, or the sub offering it.
Dom/Sub used as base terminology, I know this doesn’t apply to every dynamic like what I understand yours to be. Or what I was trying to let my GF experience in terms of role reversal. But by simply doing something, more than just thanking your partner/my GF, to show your partner/my girlfriend that You/I appreciate everything they do that at least in my GFs case, has been basically forced to do all of her life and had essentially been taken for granted as a result before we met.
Well, in my case, the old adage “If you want to turn a woman on…clean,” is carried over and more when I do things like you’ve described while caged for my GF, anyway. It’s…precious, in an emotionally priceless kind of way, to share that experience with someone you really care about to show them you know, care, understand, and appreciate them, to me, and I suspect you would agree with regard to your partners libido increase. Am I correct in that @rockstar ?
@Oldman see if that adage proves true in your partner’s experience? If you’ve never tried it, I would encourage you to do it just for one day and tell your partner she decides when/where/how it’s taken off or how you’re able to orgasm. I would suggest an “achievement/reward,” scenario to propose to her and see how that pans out for a little at a time? I would Just make sure to keep one key in case of emergency/re: discoloration until you find the right fit - unless you find you like making her realize you’re doing everything you can to earn her participation/attention/permission?
Who knows. It might be the spark that’s new and kinky for both of you to escalate her libido when she knows she’s is in control rather than (I’m not stating this is true in your case, just generally), expected or wanted to be horny/sexually involved, etc. it’s a way for her to be involved without much expectation is what I’m trying to (and falling at) eloquently attempting to say. Kind of takes the pressure off her and puts it on you to earn it, however she determines “it,” is. Does that make sense?