Hi all,
Not sure where to start, been a strange old year, for many reasons.
I’ve been a bit of a stranger on here, realised spent less and less time - I associate LH with the time I was with Mrs Kink, and although I feel I have probably moved on emotionally from that relationship, I still miss her a lot.
I thought sex, or lack of, would have been an issue as time went by. It strangely hasn’t been. I’ve never enjoyed sex for the sake of it. There’s been times really felt I needed or wanted it, but those have passed, and focused more on whats going on for me.
As you can gather from above, still single, and I’m OK with that a lot of the time. Happier being with myself and getting to know me, although been a lot of moments over the year I have felt lonely and isolated. Oh, I’m still sober and clean too, 5 years now. Not been smoking since the 14th May.
I guess in that sense it has been a huge year for me. Never thought I’d be able to stop smoking and vaping - been like a chimney since age of 15/16. Never thought I’d be OK being single. If I’m honest, I’m not sure I am OK being single, but getting on with life.
Christmas has been miserable, second year running I’ve done feck all about it - this year I did less than last year. I’ve worked out what that’s about, something else to work on and fix.
As I type that I wonder whether my approach of looking at self and reflecting on feelings etc., is actually the right thing. Would it be more fun to just hit the Fuck It button, get wasted become selfish and do what the fuck I want?
Haha it probably would be, but wouldn’t last long before I’m a mess in the gutter, so I’ll pass on that for now.
What does 2024 hold in store? Who knows. More self reflection, starting to enjoy life in different ways. Maybe become open to finding a partner, or perhaps a ‘FWB’ type thing, which always sounds a great idea just impossible to actually find.
Me and Sulley, the little monster in my head, seem a lot more at peace with each other. He is not rattling his cage so much, we talk to each other more. I still find myself irritable and my head automatically wants a ‘feel good’ fix. Slowly but surely they’ve been taken away though, alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, shopping (to some extent). So I think 24 will still be about understanding what I enjoy in life and how to do things a little better, certainly Christmas. Lots behind that little door though.
Apols it’s not the usual in depth long winded post, just a little over view of where things are at. Was feeling a little down this morning and thought I’d say Hi.
I hope you’ve all had a great Christmas, especially those that have been there each time I’ve crawled out the woodwork this year.