A weird question, I know (please read, though)

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I'll try to get straight to the point, even when it sounds creepy or something like that.

Lately (this is, since a few years) I found myself prefering petite girls (and women) with small perky tits or even flat chest, over girls and women rather voluptuous and with big boobs (either enhanced or natural).

Turns out to be that my mother (yes, here comes the WTF bit) is a petite, small breasted woman. Matter of fact, I recall being so curious about the female body as a kid, that I would take a peek down her shirt or whlist she was changing her clothes.

Same thing goes for underwear. I spent hours home alone in her room, rummaging the drawers where she stored her panties. It was like a hidden treasure for me! Nowadays, I expect any girl or woman I meet to match up her taste in underwear fashion.

So... I was wondering how deep is the mark our first erotic impressions leave in our minds, in our behaviour, in our sexuality, and in our lifes. What do you all think?

If there's any need to say it, all these events happened in my childhood years until part of my early teens, and I never had any incest related fantasies nor the slightiest twinge of lust after my mother whatsoever.

Believe it or not, it's the first time I ever put this outside my head, into words. And I'll appreciate it if any of you can relate.

Thanks for reading.

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Its actually well documented that men seek partners like their mothers and woman seek partners like their fathers.
So what your saying isnt actually that weird.

Yes its not true for everyone but its true for a lot.

Some people who have been in violent relationships find themselves craving it. People who get cheated on, cheat on others.

Love and sexual desires are all based on life experiance. Personally I dont beleive that one person is made for another, I believe that life moulds us into who we are and makes us desire certain things.

Personally, my first proper love was a small, black haired, emo style girl who cheated on me. I let woman treat me like shit because of that, I still fall for emo style girls eaiser than I do others.
So yeah we are most definatly effected by our first encouter with love and sex.

Rant over.

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I think Steve pretty much answered that one (and very well too)

Maybe because you look up to your mother because she has brought you up, provided for you etc that now when you look for someone, you are looking for someone with her standards maybe in terms of looks?

However if let's say you were to start talking to a woman with totally different characteristics, but someone you just clicked with. Do you think you would then be attracted to that person?

I can't say I ever used to go looking through my mum's underwear. To me that would be a no no
I mean yeah I would been curious about stuff just like any person whilst in puberty about the female body.
Me and a friend used to take his mother's, boyfriends smutty magazines and his tobacco. But that was more as a laugh (well was funny at the time)

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I heard once that the firt person any boy is attracted to is his mother.. I don't know where I heard it though :/ From a womans perspective though my partner is just like my dad.. So much so that once my friend saw a pic of me and my partner and thought it was me with my dad lol His personality is really similar too. I am also quite similar to his mum. Personally I think this is really normal for everyone :)

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Cat Lady wrote:

The theory about a young boy being attracted to his mother comes from Freud's theory of the Oepidus Complex!

Yeah that would make sense.. I read a lot about transference recently due to something in my therapy so that would have been where I had heard it from, thanks :)

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Cat Lady wrote:

The theory about a young boy being attracted to his mother comes from Freud's theory of the Oepidus Complex!

Yes, the idea that subconsciously all men want to kill their father and sleep with their mother. Im not too sure about that. Maybe your over analysing things. You said youre not harbouring any incestual fantasies so don't creep yourself out by trying to find a link where none exists.
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I think your first sexual experiences are rooted very deepy and do often encourae what you are 'into' later in life, and I think that can be where some fetishes end up coming from.

If we are doing WTF confessions ;) then I would say my watersports fetish stems from how loud the toilet was in my childhood home and how I could hear everything that happened in there from my bedroom

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Yep. Forget your Freud, or your own pseudo intelectual theories. If you go out looking for a woman just because she is petite?? Good luck... Don't think too much about these things. Love is not a science.

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Thank you so much for your responses. I'd like to reply now some of them:

Mr Gooner wrote:

However if let's say you were to start talking to a woman with totally different characteristics, but someone you just clicked with. Do you think you would then be attracted to that person?

I would definitely feel attracted to a person whose physical traits don't resemble my mother's! It can happen, of course. It happens, actually. No way it's not a sine-qua-non requirement. But, given the chance to chose, I would pick the petite small breasted girl instead of the big racked one.

xmorningxgloryx wrote:

I heard once that the firt person any boy is attracted to is his mother.. I don't know where I heard it though :/ From a womans perspective though my partner is just like my dad.. So much so that once my friend saw a pic of me and my partner and thought it was me with my dad lol His personality is really similar too. I am also quite similar to his mum. Personally I think this is really normal for everyone :)

I'm not speaking of overall looks, but these particular "features", so to say: i.e., only breasts, weight and taste in underwear fashion. It's not that I'm looking for either a mother figure or someone who resembles her in every single detail including personality, demeanor, "way of being", etcetera.

There are plenty of things I never liked about my mother, and which I don't want to find again in any other woman.

Nonetheless, I get your point.

Ron Burgundy wrote:

Maybe your over analysing things. You said youre not harbouring any incestual fantasies so don't creep yourself out by trying to find a link where none exists.

I do tend to over think things. But I brought this up because it was such a shock when I realized about it. And then I began to wonder how deeply our first impressions regarding sexuality root into one's mind. As if they leave an imprint that lasts forever. I won't go into any debate about abuse and rape aftermaths. I'm just looking it from a less complicated point of view (although human sexuality it's complex per se).

I obviously get so very aroused at the mere sight of a pornstar-like bombshell with massive boobs and a breathtaking silhouette. Still, nothing compares to a slim, petite, small breasted woman. It moves something very deep inside of me. I can't describe either it, nor the expectation of finding out what kind of undergardments a girl puts on. It's like if I was trying to repeat the same excitement when I used to explore my mother's drawers out of curiosity. No words can explain it.

Truth be told: I felt relieved when I first wrote about this, and I felt even more relieved after reading your opinions. I was affraid, I admit it, that there was something wrong and wicked with me. Keep in mind that I've been thinking of this whole thing from quite a while, and couldn't help feeling somewhat dirty and guilty.

Thank you so much once again! And please, I'd love to read further input from any of you!

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I read some research years ago about fetishes and the age at which they get fixed in the psyche. There are certain fetishes that are very easy to work out because they are limited in time. For example, in the fifties some people had gas-mask fetishes, and then following on from that were rubber mac fetishes.

The really shocking thing about this though, was that eight was the average age that you learn about what turns you on. So, the things that you see when you're around eight probably influence what works for you in later life.

Also, at that age, the most likely person to see on a regular basis (naked or not) would be your parents!

HTH

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Looking back, I can honestly say that there hasn't been any sort of resemblence with any of them. Really none at all.

Part of that may be the fact that my parents are both quite tall, so duplicating that narrows the field down considerably. I'm slightly taller than the average height for men and most of the men I've dated have been average height. I'm going to go with the average part being the most salient. I'm not fussed about height and there are a lot of guys between 5'6" and 5'9".

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I have heard that men do end up with women who are more like their mother, this is probably because its the 1st unconditional and true love they ever experienced, so they spend the rest of their lives looking for the closest thing they can find. its also said about women with their fathers. personally i cant confirm nor deny this as i have never met my father. xx