Hey everyone! It seems like for ages I've been trying to achieve this, with no luck! I know its a debated topic whether every woman can or not, but I'm willing to try! I've already read many Lovehoney (and other) blogs about how to achieve it, and basically what I've gathered is achieve clitoral orgasm, have some g spot stimulation, feel the urge to pee and push out (I know its a bit more cthan that!) but still I've been unfortunate! I'm basically asking if anyone who has been able to achieve squirting, how did you do it, and is there any tips or tricks that bring you there every time? Thanks in advance! x
Hi. At nearly 50 years of age and many many years of trying to do this you will probably have read in another thread that we have finally achieved this.
I can only go on my experience. Yes a clit orgasm first certainly helps me. But the two most important things for me are my husband listening to me regarding positioning of his fingers and where I need pressure. And the other is me being able to relax passed the feeling of needing to wee. I think that was a mistake I used to make. I used to want it so much and try and force it and it just didn't happen. As soon as I learned to relax - my goodness - what a difference.
It doesn't happen every time but that is good because it makes it great when it does.
As for the how's and wherefores I am sure it is different for each individual. But generally start with fingers inside pointing up towards your tummy. Most describe the movement needed as a come hitherto motion rather than in and out. I personally find it is more about pressure in the right spot.
Most of all you will need to relax. The natural reaction to feeling the need to pee is to tense. Mentally you need to get over this and I am sure in time it will happen.
I hope this may help and reassure you. We had given up - then all of a sudden it just happened xx
Hey Rachel, the biggest issue most people face is trying to relax. The stress of trying to achieve it will actually slow things down so you basically need to try and push aside the feeling of frustration that comes with it. As the old saying goes “practice makes perfect” and the best way to achieve squirting is to get yourself or your partner to insert two or three curved fingers facing your pubis (your finger tips will be applying pressure to the front wall) and do a “come hither” motion. Don’t do fast and gentle strokes, you need pressure and deep long strokes which you slowly build up into a faster pace. I like to insert my fingers with a slight curve and by the point my partner has reached orgasm I’m almost touching the centre of my palm with her pubis between. It takes a lot of practice and the two keys are communication with your partner, make sure the rhythm is correct and not over the top “porn” style, and relax.
Unfortunately I don't think there is a universal method that is guaranteed to make every woman squirt. Some women can squirt from clitoral orgasms, some G-spot and some from anal. For us it's G-spot. Position has to be on her back with her heels as close to her bum as possible. Toy- steel will make her squirt every time Glass toys are a bit hit and miss. So she certainly needs something weighty. Then when the orgasm starts to build it's a case of going hard and fast in very short thrusts and keep going with the orgasm. I think the first time is always going to be the hardest to let go but once you have experienced it and you know what is coming then you don't try and tense up.
Hey hun, as everyone has said above. Take your time, have patience and above all relax. You for sure have to ignore that ' I am going to pee myself ' feeling and just go with it. I found watching porn really helped me to get in the moment and ignore anything else around me.
I recently learn to squirt, but have only been able to do it a couple of times, on my own with toys. Much to my husbands saddness sex just won't make me squirt, even with multiple totally mindblowing orgasms.
Like LNT's said, she totally gave up trying and then it happened - this also happened with me!
For me, It has to be clit and G-Spot stimulation at the same time or it wont happen!
I think everyone is different, for me I have to achieve clitoral orgasm, and if I try to do it I can’t, in my opinion in order to achieve squirting your body needs to be really relaxed, I have found that I orgasm and climax and want to stop there but it’s when I work through that and keep going I squirt. My partner has only made me do it once or twice using his tongue and sex doesn’t achieve it either, I use my fingers and they have to be really wet, I think that helps it become far more sensitive, or a wet powerful toy will work too. I don’t really have too much advice as I I’d it out of the blue and almost by mistake and once you have done it once it’s easy enough to do again, don’t put pressure on yourself and enjoy trying x
I would definitely agree that you need to be really relaxed. Try not to think of that as your end game. I have found ( not through trying) that if I have all over stimulation (clitoral, nipple, vaginal etc) then it tends to happen more. While having sex me on top with the above stimulation it tends to happen but not when I think about it. Good luck and enjoy x
Thanks everyone for all your wonderful and very helpful advice! xx
The key is patience and relaxation.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=39565 this toy makes me squirt every time 
I was going to start a new topic on this subject but after reading other comments in this thread, my question has been answered. I too discovered I could squirt a couple of months ago after years of wanting to. I read some tips on the LH blog which obviously helped but it happened completely unexpected using the Happy Rabbit G-spot vibrator and it seems now I've done it once, the flood gates have opened. The first time I was alone, completely relaxed and having the g-spot stimulation aswell as clitoral with the rabbit, it did the trick. Since then I've discovered that sometimes I squirt without even having an orgasm and last night discovered I can squirt with just clitoral stimulation on it's own (which was my question as I didn't realise that was possible). I bought a Tango a few weeks ago, I've had an orgasm during sex using it but wanted to see how good it was on it's own without penetration.....it turns out it's very good, so much so I made an unexpected mess lol.
Now my wife is a very good squirter. So many small things make the whole story.
Firstly foreplay and being turned on really help. Lots of massages or tickling or porn or me telling her erotic Lesbian stories start.
Next some kissing around the genitalia but no touchine. Gentle tease.
Then the toy...and I mean THE TOY. A clitoral stimulator. We have a womaniser that is sadly on it's last legs (or last clit). I have ordered her and received the Satisfyer Pro2 for a Christmas eve pressie.
Then wait wait wait until she's so close.... then a light flick of the tongue over her lips or anaus and boom she squirts.
Now the last bit. She has to let go at the urge to pee moment. Plus she get's so turned on doing it, as I gentle tease her labia at the last moment I then drink her squirt. This is so damn hot for both of us, but she gets turned on so much by it that it actually helps her to squirt more.
OMG! He made me squirt. First time ever; earlier this afternoon. I was totally shocked.
We’ve been trying to make me squirt on and off for most of the year, and I’ve been getting tense about it. About 3 weeks ago, after another failed try, he told me that he thought I was stressing myself out, and therefore I was less likely to succeed, so he thought we should stop trying for a bit and maybe try again in January. I was disappointed, but he was probably right.
But he had a plan. He knew on his birthday that he’d be playing with me quite a bit, so he thought he’d see if he could get me there without me realising what was happening. I thought he was just having fun with my pussy and toys and fingers. Even when I got to the “need to pee” phase, I didn’t twig (we pee in sex quite a bit anyway, so I have learned to embrace such feelings). And then, wham, I squirted. His face and neck had a liberal coating (he was tonguing my clit at the time), as did the protective towels he’d put on the settee. It was the combination of clit and g-spot stimulation that Mrs L mentioned that did it for me. In all the penetrative sex I’ve had, I don’t think I’ve ever felt anything like it, so I suspect I’m a g-spot only squirter, but I’m happy with to be able to squirt at all!
I’m still a bit shocked too. I’ve wanted to squirt for years and thought I never would, but now I have. We don’t do Christmas presents, but he certainly gave me the most amazing one!
KinkyMira wrote:
OMG! He made me squirt. First time ever; earlier this afternoon. I was totally shocked.
We’ve been trying to make me squirt on and off for most of the year, and I’ve been getting tense about it. About 3 weeks ago, after another failed try, he told me that he thought I was stressing myself out, and therefore I was less likely to succeed, so he thought we should stop trying for a bit and maybe try again in January. I was disappointed, but he was probably right.
But he had a plan. He knew on his birthday that he’d be playing with me quite a bit, so he thought he’d see if he could get me there without me realising what was happening. I thought he was just having fun with my pussy and toys and fingers. Even when I got to the “need to pee” phase, I didn’t twig (we pee in sex quite a bit anyway, so I have learned to embrace such feelings). And then, wham, I squirted. His face and neck had a liberal coating (he was tonguing my clit at the time), as did the protective towels he’d put on the settee. It was the combination of clit and g-spot stimulation that Mrs L mentioned that did it for me. In all the penetrative sex I’ve had, I don’t think I’ve ever felt anything like it, so I suspect I’m a g-spot only squirter, but I’m happy with to be able to squirt at all!
I’m still a bit shocked too. I’ve wanted to squirt for years and thought I never would, but now I have. We don’t do Christmas presents, but he certainly gave me the most amazing one!
Yes yes YES
Congratulations. Like you we have only recently achieved this as in my post above. BUT, now I can't stop lol
In my opinion it is all about relaxing into it. Getting over the peeing sensation. So, taking the pressure off yourself worked for you. Fantastic. Well done.
lovingnewtoys wrote:
Yes yes YES
Congratulations. Like you we have only recently achieved this as in my post above. BUT, now I can't stop lol
In my opinion it is all about relaxing into it. Getting over the peeing sensation. So, taking the pressure off yourself worked for you. Fantastic. Well done.
Thanks LNT. I hope I can't stop, I loved it (once the shock wore off!)
I think you are totally right about relaxing and getting over the peeing sensation. My husband's devious little scheme worked superbly at taking the pressure off (I love him for even trying), but I'm eager to try again (but really won't be putting pressure or a deadline on now I've done it once).
KM - honestly the next time we tried it didn't happen and I think it was all about the wanting it so much again.
But when I do and it is most of the time now the poor guy gets drenched.
I don't know if it's just me but I find this a mixture of very exciting and bloomin hilarious xxx
KinkyMira wrote:
OMG! He made me squirt. First time ever; earlier this afternoon. I was totally shocked.
We’ve been trying to make me squirt on and off for most of the year, and I’ve been getting tense about it. About 3 weeks ago, after another failed try, he told me that he thought I was stressing myself out, and therefore I was less likely to succeed, so he thought we should stop trying for a bit and maybe try again in January. I was disappointed, but he was probably right.
But he had a plan. He knew on his birthday that he’d be playing with me quite a bit, so he thought he’d see if he could get me there without me realising what was happening. I thought he was just having fun with my pussy and toys and fingers. Even when I got to the “need to pee” phase, I didn’t twig (we pee in sex quite a bit anyway, so I have learned to embrace such feelings). And then, wham, I squirted. His face and neck had a liberal coating (he was tonguing my clit at the time), as did the protective towels he’d put on the settee. It was the combination of clit and g-spot stimulation that Mrs L mentioned that did it for me. In all the penetrative sex I’ve had, I don’t think I’ve ever felt anything like it, so I suspect I’m a g-spot only squirter, but I’m happy with to be able to squirt at all!
I’m still a bit shocked too. I’ve wanted to squirt for years and thought I never would, but now I have. We don’t do Christmas presents, but he certainly gave me the most amazing one!
Congratulations  Me and my girlfriend were trying for years in the end we gave up, then a couple years later it just happened definitely unexpected soaking her panties and living room carpet, as it was something special for both of us she gave me her soaked underwear to keep as a reminder of that day.
It happens most times talk about christening every material in the house and car lol but I love it when my clothes gets soaked.
KinkyMira thats better than any bought xmas present 
Totally jealous KM, very happy for you, and as Teacake said, what a Christmas present!
I'm still hoping we can do it, I have only tried once but now I know after talking to my significant other about what other sexual fun we could enjoy together I have found out she really wants to embrace squirting so I am hoping she gets to enjoy the sensation one day soon. I'm just hoping I can get it right, we have a book on the subject & I brought some educational films as well, I look forward to the day it happens as I know she is looking forward to it too & as I love her so much, I hope I can fulfill this particular intimate pleasure for her. When we tried it last time which was for the very first time ever she reached a point where needed to pee she then rushed off to the loo, I said it may be possible you where going to squirt, she said no I needed a wee, so we both still have to learn what to look out for. Sorry for the essay.
KinkyMira wrote:
OMG! He made me squirt. First time ever; earlier this afternoon. I was totally shocked.
We’ve been trying to make me squirt on and off for most of the year, and I’ve been getting tense about it. About 3 weeks ago, after another failed try, he told me that he thought I was stressing myself out, and therefore I was less likely to succeed, so he thought we should stop trying for a bit and maybe try again in January. I was disappointed, but he was probably right.
But he had a plan. He knew on his birthday that he’d be playing with me quite a bit, so he thought he’d see if he could get me there without me realising what was happening. I thought he was just having fun with my pussy and toys and fingers. Even when I got to the “need to pee” phase, I didn’t twig (we pee in sex quite a bit anyway, so I have learned to embrace such feelings). And then, wham, I squirted. His face and neck had a liberal coating (he was tonguing my clit at the time), as did the protective towels he’d put on the settee. It was the combination of clit and g-spot stimulation that Mrs L mentioned that did it for me. In all the penetrative sex I’ve had, I don’t think I’ve ever felt anything like it, so I suspect I’m a g-spot only squirter, but I’m happy with to be able to squirt at all!
I’m still a bit shocked too. I’ve wanted to squirt for years and thought I never would, but now I have. We don’t do Christmas presents, but he certainly gave me the most amazing one!
Congratulations KM, that sounds like a fantastic christmas gift.
Take care & have a great day.