Me and my partner are lookin at gettin into swingin and lookin for the best way to start. It's somethin we have talked about for a while now and have decided the time is right. And tips on where to start
The Internet is a good place to start that's where we started,you will find lots of info on groups to Join, places to meet, people's experiences,I can't remember the site we used but we just did a Google search
I know where I live they have a club that holds swinging evenings and you can go along and just have a drink and meet people ;) without going into swinging straight away
Cheers will have a look we were thinkin of goin on cam to start. What anyone think?
cam sites can certainly offer you both excitement if that's what you are looking for ;) whether it's being on cam or watching cams,my friend cams she gets paid for being on cam and she loves it,although she gets many a strange request one man pays to watch her have a number two lol I'm so in the wrong job lol
Lol how do you get paid to do it I would love to try that ha 😉😉
The thought of bein watched to start with is a big turn on for both of us so we gonna try it tonight
Fabswingers.com is the best place to start. There are cam rooms on there too and plenty couples use them.
Thanks will check it out now
Oooh we are in the same boat but not 100% sure about it so we have decided to go to one of the London swinging clubs with the intention of just socialising, observing and maybe, if we feel brave enough, having some play just between ourselves.
Just in case though, we have also set some ground rules between us for what we will and won't accept on this first visit if situations develop and some coded communications to either agree or decline certain things.
Bloody scary though and I can equally see us getting to the door and deciding to run back to the hotel.
I'd recommend taking a look at fab too.
I'd also say you should have a conversation regarding what you will and wont do, what's off limits and what you are happy for your partner to do.
If you don't want to full swing you can start off soft swinging (a term for those who will do most things but penetration).
You might also want a word or signal that says to your other half "I'm uncomfortable, get me out of this place!"
Swinging is all about trust and respect as long as you don't push your partners boundaries or let anyone push yours then you should have fun 😊
Cans are good for voyeurism but I do recommend club or a swingng event .at these you more of feel of the people then sitting at a computer.the internet is great but you could find in person one of you don't like the person you choose to join you. At club you also find you won't feel need to participate or do anything then if you have them at your home .plus great excuse for night out
*****BREAKING NEWS*****
The OH and myself are going on our first club experience tomorrow night. Excited and scared in equal measures.
Mainly an observing and testing the water visit really but I'm going to dust off the old bottle of Brut and get out the Peter Stringfellow pants just in case. #cannotfail
Hotel booked nearby and toys will be taken just in case plan is abandoned due to lack of balls.
Wow! Which club did you pick? If you make the hostess/host aware its your first time they will take more care to explain all the rules and make you feel comfy.
Just go with no expectations and have a giggle 😃
M-J wrote:
Wow! Which club did you pick? 😃
After loads of research and review reading I felt the best venue was ourplace4fun in North London.
It just seems to get so many positive reviews especially from first timers.
Our expectations, if we make it through the door, are that we will have a few drinks, watch and learn and run back to the hotel for a steamy night.
If there is a second time however.......
I will give an update on Monday about the experience.
Ok so ha ha that was an interesting evening. I will err on the side of caution and try not to be explicit at all so the review might be a little boring but here goes.
I was far too keen and got us there way too early at just after 10pm. It was ok because we got a personal tour of the club and we just settled into a seat, had some of the wine we bought and watched the videos that were playing in the background.
Shortly after another two couples arrived and settled into different seats and it seemed people were chatting about every day life to their friends. A couple of single guys then arrived and were looking around a bit. One kept sitting close to us a staring, my OH and I just talked between us until he got bored and moved on but he kept popping back every now and again. More couples arrived and it started to fill up a bit.
My OH was a bit nervous and inititally it seemed it was all a big mistake but we wandered around a bit just after midnight but there was no action so we settled back into our seats and carried on drinking and watching.
Not long after you could see people all of a sudden making a move to the group areas so we followed along to see what was happening. One of the original couples that turned up with us we're having sex with each other on one of the beds and then fairly quickly the other couple had invited one of the single guys into a threesome in the adjoining room. Up to that point my OH hadn't been at all interested and didn't really want any kind of contact between us in front of anyone, which I could understand, but as the atmosphere and wine took a hold she started to warm up.
We watched things going on in several little areas. Two lots of threesomes, stuff going on in the viewing areas. We watched and had a little petting but discreetly so no one could see as we didn't want to encourage the guy who had been watching. By this time stuff seemed to be going on everywhere but we went back to our seats and had some more of our wine.
After a while I suggested maybe we should call it a day as I didn't think my OH was really enjoying it but all of a sudden she said come on lets go and we went into one of the little rooms where you could lock the door and wasn't open viewing.
We were only in there a few moments and something popped through the glory hole. At first we were a little shocked but after a bit of playing between us we thought why not and my OH started working it with her hands. Condoms were used at all times and I think we were in there about an hour and probably had about six appendages pop in through the glory hole and after about the second my OH gave up with the hands and actually started riding them doggie style from the glory hole.
It seemed better than being in the public areas because it was if there was no face or body attached to them so they were just like a sex toy to be used whilst we played too.
All the staff were very friendly, some couples were interacting a bit more than we were but it was clear you could do as little or as much as you wanted, or nothing at all and just watch. Everyone was polite and not at all pushy.
We left the club at 4am fairly exhausted but got back to the hotel and made love before going to sleep and then again before going down to breakfast. We didn't have time after.
Would we go back? Probably, yes. I don't know how soon though and I think we'd prefer a couples only night next time as my OH found the attention from the single guys a little off putting. However once in the lockable room the game changed and I think we'd have more of that for sure.
I am happy to explain more or answer any questions for any other's curious about the club.