Advice or recommendations for disabled guy ?

Are there any devices ( ideally hands free ) that do not vibrate but give a realistic feel that any one could recommend ?

I was thinking of an automatic pump or something like the Autoblow , but they dont have that realisitic interior of things like the Fleshlight or other realistic snatches.

Also thanks to my physical issues I have a lot of problems maintaining my pecker or getting aroused ( I have organ prolapse ) so although I can maintain for a while I need a lot of stimulation to keep it that way. ( which is fun when you have am entry hole too tight you cant penetrate )

I might be able to get away with a very light vibrator or something that moves slow but in general I dont respond well at all to vibrations for the reasons above. I suppose this doesnt leave me with many choices but I thought Id ask and see any way given this will probably be my first, and last , hope of sexual simulation.

hc

I'm sorry I can't be of help, but I wanted to reply to keep this high on the board for a while and to let you know that you're not being ignored.

Hello Hoodedclaw

Welcome to the forums,sorry i cant help you being a female, i dont know much about male toys,i hope that you manage to find someone on the lovely forum to help you,and guide you to the right toy for you

Hi Hoodedclaw,

First of all, welcome to the forums.

I too am unable to offer any advice, but we do have such a diverse range of members, that i'm sure someone will be able to offer some help. I just apologise that I can't!

But still, I wanted to welcome you to the forum, and hope you would continue to use and browse the forum as it is a fun, friendly and judgement free place.

Okay. You are right, you are quite limited with what has been designed so far, but there is one toy right now that sticks out at me. The Rends A10 Cyclone:

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21289

(Watch videos on youtube etc for more visuals of how this works)

At the moment, this is the closest thing that jumps out in my mind, but I am going to do some more research and get back to you.

There is also a machine called the Humpus, but I dont think that would suit because it doesnt have fast pumping action and it doesnt have the interiour you require. The Rends (Linked above) is the cloest I can think right now, but I am going to have a longer think.

Without giving away more information than you are comfortable sharing, it may help others to help you if you go into a bit more detail about your physical limitations. You say you'd prefer hands free; how essential is this? I don't think this will leave you many options unfortunately, but hopefully someone here knows otherwise.

Welcome to the forums by the way

Forgive my ignorance on organ prolapse, its something i know absolutely nothing about - is prostate massage possible?

Here is a Youtube video of the Rends in action (Writing is in chinese but it shows how it works) and the benefits I can see for you are as follows:

Hand held controller, so no fiddling with buttons on the toy itself. It will need to be held on though.

No movement required, simply apply it and it does the work for you

Fast intense movements (The only issue is that it spins rather than pumps up and down...still looking into this one for you)

It has a soft interior

Anyway, video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i9M2W7-gdWE

Hi and welcome. Unfortunately being female I can't offer much help, however after looking through the products on here I could only think of the same toy as Fluffbags has mentioned above (the Rends A10 Cyclone - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21289) It may be an idea to get in touch with customer service though as they may be able to offer some more help. I do hope you find something though. :)

as daft as it sounds but would your local spinal injuries unit be able to help, part of the rehabilitation process is advice regarding sex etc (my sister was a sister on a specialist ward and they spend a great amount of time going through what is possible sexually etc). also you mentioned that you find it hard to maintain an erection - would viagra help?

do you have a partner or are you single?

Hello and welcome to the forums :)

I don't know much about male toys, but as well as the forums I'd make use of the customer service live chat function and see if they can offer any more advice :)

Hi and welcome to the forums. My post is going to be rubbish because I know nothing about your medical condition or really the item Im going to suggest but have you considered electro stimulation? I know some people from lovehoney have reviewed the machines and Im sure lovehoney customer services could possibly give you further advice if you contacted them and explained in more detail your medical condition. Sorry Im so vague but Its something I haven't tried myself.

Hi and welcome to the forums. My post is going to be rubbish because I know nothing about your medical condition or really the item Im going to suggest but have you considered electro stimulation? I know some people from lovehoney have reviewed the machines and Im sure lovehoney customer services could possibly give you further advice if you contacted them and explained in more detail your medical condition. Sorry Im so vague but Its something I haven't tried myself.

LilMissFrustrated wrote:

Hi and welcome to the forums. My post is going to be rubbish because I know nothing about your medical condition or really the item Im going to suggest but have you considered electro stimulation? I know some people from lovehoney have reviewed the machines and Im sure lovehoney customer services could possibly give you further advice if you contacted them and explained in more detail your medical condition. Sorry Im so vague but Its something I haven't tried myself.

That is a really good idea LMF - I have done a quick search and LH did have a guide - but the link is not working. Here is a selection of the Electrastim products on LH:

http://search.lovehoney.co.uk/search?w=electrastim&p=Q&asug=&view=grid

This is the paragraph LH use to describe it:

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=7748 use the same technology as toning belts, but the attachments are much more interesting with everything from dildos, butt plugs and bullet vibrators to electrified gloves, penis bands and nipple clamps. The sensation of http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=18119 is akin to vibration with a deeper-penetrating feeling. The levels are variable, so you can start off very gently and work your way up to ensure you’re always comfortable with the levels you’re working with.

Hi Everyone , thanks for your kind welcome and suggestions.

@ Scorpius12 : I actually tried that product years ago and really didnt feel much ( prob due to my neuropathy ) I actually used it with pads though and not any of the attachments so not sure if it would make much of difference .

@ Sum Sub prostrate massge would be difficult , it good idea because I've always been sensitive there but the vibrations alone would just raise hell , as would the size given my weak connective tissue / joints.

@Citygirl2810 My problem/s collectively are quite numerous and revolve a condition known as EDS ( Eheler Danlos Syndrome ) I do rehab everyday and have too, but Im pretty extreme case as I have CSI ( Cranial Spinal Instability ) too which affects speech ( i cant speak ) ,ability to open jaw etc . With my ligaments and tendons being so weak any movement puts me and risk
so this is the problem because there is no way you can avoid or strengthen connective tissue like that when its so widespread. In fact I havent been able to walk now 10 yrs because of it , and have spent the last 4 bedbound . No partners and never did the whole dating thing , I was into sport and mediation / spiritual path until I could no longer do that . I think its safe to say any relationshops are impossible being like this which is prob both a blessing and curse ( depending on how you look at it ) :)

@Fluffbags I think your suggestion has the most promise , its pity it doesnt go up and down or suck but it does seem to go slow so theres a chance i think it could work . I asked LH about the Autiblow which does go up and down , but LH said they stopped stocking because it was badly made , so now Im curious as to why .

thanks again folks,

hoodedclaw

I know there are actual sex machines out there that you can attach a Fleshlight (or other) to and it will move it up and down as fast or slow as you wish. You may have seen these machines in porn, but they are expensive and you would have to find a specialist store to get hold of these. (I don't trust people who make home made ones and sell on ebay or something) Stores that basically specialise in sex machines or sex furniture. In the sex toys market, there are a few that may kind of suit, like the ones mentioned in this thread, but nothing that I can think of that would be as perfect as an actual machine would be for you. I did try to find out what people thought of the Autoblow for you. I googled lots of reviews but most of those reviews seemed to be quite "sales pitchy" than proper reviews with pros and cons, so I did not trust them as genuine reviews. So, yeh, I can't help you but if Lovehoney stocked it and said they stopped due to it being poorly made then my guess is that it got a lot of reviews back from customers complaining of certain faults or breaking etc.

@Fluffbags

i noticed the Autoblows price was down too , which might be related to poor sales.

Are there any pumps that combine realistic interior / sensation of pushing through ?

I did try a meiki http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21613 which supriginsly seemed to help exercise my pelvic muscles ( which was a pleasant suprise ) but perhaps did not quite give me the full effect given my issues mainting full length. I read they were superior to fleshlight and must admit I did find the overall shape far more appealing than just a tube , but you cant exactly lie over it as I thought .

hc

Off the top of my head, I personally cannot think of any penis pumps that also contain an inner texture/sleeve. It seems to be one or the other on the market.

There is the option of getting a penis pump and some cock rings, pumping your penis until hard and applying tight cock rings to hold blood into your penis for a longer period of time after you have stopped pumping. Few issues with this. 1) It is going to be fiddly to apply a cock ring if you have low mobility in your hands/fingers 2) It isn't fail safe. What I mean is that my guy wears cock rings on occasion and it is still possible to lose the erection, it just takes longer and often is slower to go down. At this point you could then use the Rends machine or similar.

However, I did find a cheapo version of the pump/sleeve combination here:

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26707

I assume you already know about the hands free masturbation sleeves that come with suction cup bases? I am guessing these won't be entirely suitable either, but have you seen these:

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22419

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=27453

There is also the option to buy the Fleshlight insert cushion, which was a large , solid cushion type thing with a hole in it, to insert your Fleshlight (Don't know if it also fit other toys) and could then lay on it and thrust into your toy. I can't seem to find this on LH anymore.

Unfortunately the link you provided came back to an empty page for me. So I am not sure what the meiki is. I know I am not being super helpful but like you said, there is limited options. Hopefully something will turn up suitable for you though. We all deserve a happy sex life!

Apologies, just noticed the pump/sleeve combo I linked you is not what I thought. The pumping action pumps up the sleeve, not the penis. Oops! Apologies.

No worries FB, was this what you meant by insert cushion ?