Happy Sunday everyone!
I’m interested to hear everyone’s thoughts about what they like to achieve when having sex. For me when it’s with Joe it’s about being close and when I’m with other guys it’s purely physical and I want an orgasm.
What are your thoughts?
For me it’s fun and games and using your imagination to push barriers
Start to relax with a massage and then enjoy your partners hands over your body - then hands enter intimacy areas and take close to orgasm- but don’t
Then play - I enjoy spanking / pegging and dress up -
Personally I can have a play taking 2 -3 hours and I can enjoy up to 3 orgasms in that time
It is for connection, for fun, for stress relief, certainly not for procreation at our age.
Happy Sunday to you too @emandjoe
For me it’s about being close too, as we are monogamous in our relationship I can’t comment on what it’s like with other…
But we like to have close intimate sex, I am the dominant one so to speak but meaning I like to be in charge and dictate… we love to get close but I also love to make my wife orgasm at least 4 or 5 times before I let myself… often the way I cum is dictated by my wife depending if she wants me in her mouth, on her face / stomach / breasts or inside her and she just wants to get fucked… but often we always start slow and sensual but often leads to hard sex to climax
With my husband it’s emotional and having a togetherness our bodies as one. Pleasing and pleasuring each other.
With others, both men and women, we only have a physical relationship it’s about enjoying the sex together without any emotional attraction.
My recent lesbian experience was great but I didn’t fall in love with the girl, I just enjoyed what we shared. It was brilliant to experience a bisexual adventure with my husband.
It varies each time.
If we’re masturbating for the other to watch it’s about giving them a good show.
If we’re masturbating each other then it’s all about giving them as much pleasure as possible for as long as possible.
PIV is all for her. I want her to enjoy every second. PIA is more about me as she sees it as a submissive act on her part.
Pegging with the smaller dildo is intimate, with the bigger dildo it’s her dominating me.
Oral sex and rimming is all for the receivers pleasure (although I have orgasmed once while rimming her).
Same here, I often try to avoid sleeping with someone more than once to keep it physical.
Closeness, tenderness, enjoyment, fun…
Commenting to come back on this later…
For me it is about feeling a connection to my partner and making them feel good.
We have been married for 35 years and for us it’s the intimacy at times, but we are also very playful and kinky, so there are times it’s just the physical or carnal pleasure we crave. It just depends on the moment. Like earlier this week, we had a long crazy pegging and anal session that was all physical pleasure. Then yesterday it was more intimate and making love.
Totally agree - some days I want raw animal sex - other days I’m kinky (spanking / pegging) other days I just want oral and other days it’s love making - slow sensual
I however find my sex mood follows my cycle (at this stage men turn off) after I have finished I just want to be fuc*ed
having an intimate and good and enjoyable experience together
It’s always about connecting in a warm and loving way for us. Perhaps the most intimate way of saying ‘I love you’.
As we have got older, it still means the same but also it’s a time to play and experiment together. We use toys, sexy lingerie, porn. Things we would never have done when younger. 
Right now, sadly, sex almost seems like an itch to scratch for us both (no pun intended) after a week or so of no action. Work, stress and little time alone all factors for it being less frequent than I would like. My OH never has been very adventurous or the one to initiate sex very much and at my age I am now starting to think enhanced satisfaction and new experiences may have to become a solo pursuit. Has anyone else been in the same boat?
Connection, pleasure and giving yourself to the other person.
Ultimately its about pleasure, mine and his. Recharging the passion and closeness.
It’s s exciting and being creative and coming up with new things.
Theres an element of sexual freedom that I have now that I’ve never had before.
So many different answers to this question! I’m married happily to someone I love more than the world. When making love to her and simply on top between her legs feeling so close is the best. Yet I love dirty fucks, having a dirty night in a hotel without the kid with lots of lingerie n dirty sex is something I need, way more than she does! Need that dirty fuck when you get into a zone n do things together that you never would if wernt in a hotel.
I’m curious. What things would you not do if you weren’t in a hotel? And why not?