How many people out there have friends who don’t share your sex drive?
I can only speak if my female friends here but not one of them craves sexual contact like I do. I feel abnormal sometimes for having an incredibly large sex drive.
I even have 1 friend who was engaged to be married, they have kids together, but are now separating because she hates sex. So much so that she pretends to be asleep when he’s on top. She actually wants him to find anyone to have sex with, she really doesn’t care who but just wants the cuddles and relationship side with him. He refuses to do so. I see that as just being friends/room mates.
Another friend told me the whole thought of someone shooting on her makes her feel physically sick.
I have a large number of female friends who tell me they are constantly turning down their partners and I get each to their own… people can do what they want, but I find it such a waste to not have that physical side to a relationship and if a man craves sexual content with their partner who constantly gets turned away, how does that affect their relationship? Do they have affairs, paid sex?
I’m just curious how many out there have friends that just don’t enjoy a sexual relationship or how it makes people feel when they crave it, but it’s not returned by their OH?
Clearly anyone who’s got an account on here loves a good dose of sexual magic
I have 2 friends(male) who in the past I’ve shared/swapped girlfriends with. These days my wife isn’t into the idea and the wife and long-term girlfriend of my friends aren’t into it either so it looks like that part of our lives are over.
So we’re very much on the same wavelength in those terms but we’ve moved on from it as our lives took different directions.
I just have lots of happy memories of my 2 mates coming over and the 3 of us absolutely devouring my ex and the sexy but more civilised date nights i used to have with one of their girlfriends.
It’s so interesting to hear that from a male perspective.
When I talk about it with my girl friends, it’s never serious convo, just something everyone laughs about
I’m lucky that my close friends are quite similar in taste in sex as I am - we share ideas and show each other lingerie / toys we buy and since I began pegging they have started too.
I have had friends in the past who were more conservative than me and thought my sex life was a taboo subject- and it’s not a discussion topic- but I have noted their points and moved away as it’s not for everyone
My perspective is possibly not the norm because from high school i had a very small but very close social circle which included 2 girls who were sexually active with all the guys in the group. So i was introduced to sex in a non-exclusive context.
That carried on in my university years where my then girlfriend was really into the idea of two of my friends joining us, one of those guys briefly had a girlfriend who dipped her toe in but they split up after a few months and the 2nd friend then had a relationship with a girl who liked the concept of being non-exclusive but didn’t do the group stuff, anytime i was with her it was like an actual date, drinks and dinner, then dancing and back to mine. I had to romance her into bed each time.
The three of us still talk and reminisce about those days but the relationships we’re all in now aren’t conducive to that type of sex life anymore. All our respective partners are off limits and our talk of current sex seldom goes beyond pointing out how nice a barmaids arse is or if anyone saw the latest celebrity sex tape leaked online.
The most recent conversation i had about a friends sexlife was with an older colleague i was having a drink with and he said for the last few years his wife was going through the menopause and as a result sex was off the menu but she was now at a place hormonally that their sex life had restarted. I got the impression that he was just really happy to be sharing physical intimacy with her again and just wanted to tell someone.
I don’t have too many lady friends and the ones I do have are all wives of my husbands friends so they don’t really divulge too much. One friend I’m really open with, others I have a good idea, others I wouldn’t have a clue. Of all the friends I’m certain of, I definitely have the highest drive. This time last year I probably had the lowest. Friends that I have spoken with about sex, their libidos range from ‘don’t even look at me’ to ‘quick the baby is asleep’. All my friends have different amounts of kids, different work loads - all things that play a part, so I’ve learnt to never compare, and just be there when they come ask for tips and tricks
I often feel like I’m wired a bit differently. My interest in sex has always been sky high. My libido hit 110% in my teens and never came back down again. My closest male friends are all fairly quiet on sexual chat, but I’m positive I desire sexual contact etc more than they do.
I had 1 relationship prior to my marriage where my sex-drive was matched … and it was easier on me emotionally. I didn’t love her though.
I absolutely love/adore my wife. I often wish her interest in sex matched mine. Our love-making is superb when it happens, but after 20 years together I’m still trying to find ways to inspire her to want it more often, and with more spice to it.
Hopefully you’ll find lots of inspiration on here to spice it up. From my perspective as a wife, to know my husband is wild about me makes me crave sex all the more. It’s a big turn on to see him want me all the time. We’ve been married 10 years and it’s still amazing.
Maybe buy her some luxury underwear? Maybe nothing too much, but something expensive like pure silk? I once had a beautiful plum velvet set bought from competitor and it made me feel a million dollars.
Go on, spoil her and maybe you’ll be rewarded
@Shhh-busy I spoil her. I crave her. I have done and continue to do whatever I can …
I’ve bought her lingerie, and toys, suggested watching porn, taken her on holidays, I cook, do laundry, clean the house … I’m active, stay fit, at 45 I’d say I’m in great shape … I sing/play instruments, have a ‘sexy’ job and have won a national award as best in my field.
I research ideas, psychology, relationship and sex advice. I instigate talks with her, and I’ve tried to grow as a person and adapt. I’ve tried to better myself in the hope it would inspire her.
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate advice.
But I’m no noob. I’m a f*cking great husband and a very generous lover. I have been told plenty how great I am at pleasuring a partner …
I feel you @Lucas04 - i’m in a similar situation…but I think at the moment my OH has a lot of stuff on her plate (as do I) and she doesn’t have the mental capacity to meet me halfway most of the time.
We still have great sex, but not as much as i’d like for sure…and like you I often feel like I’ve tried everything I can and get nowhere…but sadly you can’t magic away stress, fatigue, children, dogs, cats etc…
I just hang in there, provide cuddles when needed, step back when needed (well sometimes if I remember) and take those fleeting moments when I can…
I have friends to drink with and chat about things - very straightforward
I have others where we discuss sex and play with each other (my sissy friends)
Over the years , especially after about 30 pretty much all my friends quit talking about sex . But as far as I can tell , most older couples I know appear to have little interest in sex . Being a super horny man of 65 I feel I am in the minority . Due to my wife’s disabilities she participates extremely little . Even before she was unable to have sex , she was no where near as horny as me . I have only had one girlfriend that was a perfect match for me and we had a heck of a run for a couple of years . We talk about what we could do if she gets to feeling better , but that is mostly dreaming . Yay for this site and all members , it is about the only place I can communicate about sex . I may be physically isolated , but this site makes me feel connected .
for effort there !