Thanks for the advice, I will try to get him to slow down, it is not glamourous at all, but fun!
How are you getting on Ms Young?
Couple looking to spice things up wrote:
I didn't enjoy it with my first partner however I love it with my current one. Take it slow and you'll be fine. X
This is exactly my partner's experience. As the cock-wielder, you need to be very careful to ensure your eager recipent is fully warmed up and lubed up.
Often, I get inserted before I'm fully hard and grow inside her. As I do get big, we only do very small movements until her insides have relaxed to accomodate my size. By the end, she wants me to be as vigorous and fast as I can.
I've only just started experimenting with anal using toys and love it.
Sorry i man so i cant comment on this but what i can i say if you don't want to try anal then don't. Its your body after all. If you want to try it ones then go for it but you will need lube and sex toys like a glass dildo and slowly try an anal. You can try this solo to see if you like it but use lube for sure. in real life is not like the film or porn films. Also cleaning up might be tricky but not impossible but i would use http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16485 or similar in the shower to clean up. I hope this helped.
Like everyone says, you need loads of lube and patience. I personally enjoy anal beads and these would allow you to pace yourself according to bead size. Feels amazing when they are whipped out at point of orgasm and give a great tight feeling with vaginal sex.
Like most people have recommended, start small and work your way up. Try a finger or a small toy to see if you like it. My partner finds anal easier when she's worn a plug beforehand, try and build up to a plug of a similar girth to your OH. It's best to be relaxed as it makes penetration harder and more painful. Make sure it is something you are really willing to try. Anal isn't for everyone so don't worry if you don't want to try it or enjoy it. There are plenty of other of other things to explore.
The first time my wife tried it she said he almost blacked out so we didn't bother again for ages.
Tho she still enjoyed getting her bum fingered.
Jump forward a few years and we tried again, plenty of lube and this time it went much better. She reckoned this time it felt much better than normal sex, tho a bit painful getting it in. So we got a beginner buttplug to warm her up, tho that kept falling out during sex.
So we got a medium one that stays in a lot easier. She really enjoys the feeling of fullness it gives her. Added to me pounding away while it's in, she loves it A LOT and she actually experienced one of her first orgasms during sex.
The use of the buttplug really have relaxed her and now we can jump straight into anal sex with hardly any warm-up.