Hi guys,
I have never received anal before and I was wondering if I could get other female's opinions on whether to try or not! It's always been a bit scary to me and my current partner is quite large down below..
Thanks x
Yes please!
Er.. *ahem*. I mean, you're going to want lots and lots and lots of preparation. It's not like in the movies where you can grab a bit of hand soap (looking at you, Bad Santa 2) or something similar, or in porn where he can just plow on in and it be instantly orgasmic.
So, start small and slow and work your way up to it. Get him to use a finger first. Then two. Then use a small anal toy. Try and do it whilst stimulating the clit and after you're already fully aroused and/or had an orgasm already. Stop immediately as soon as anything becomes particularly uncomfortable or painful, take it down a notch and try again another time.
Don't forget; lube, lube, lube and more lube! The anus isn't self lubricating, so plenty and often is the way to go. A good quality one that isn't going to just be absorbed or evaporated within ten minutes.
Good luck, and have fun! 
Only try it if it's something you want to do. I think you can't know if you like it until you've done it a few times.
Do you use any anal toys? You can get anal training sets which will help you to work up to his size.
I recommend using a douche an hour before hand so you don't have any hygeine concerns and use lots of anal lube!
I like it when I've had a drink as I can relax but sober it's too painful for me. I have colitis though which worsens things.
Yes I love it and I do orgasm from it, it is just different.
What everyone else has said I agree with. Slow and steady wins the race 😊 You may love it but it's not for everyone. Whatever you do if it hurts stop, and I don't recommend you use any numbing lubes to desensitise you as they can mask any pain and pain is a warning sign to take it easy. There is delicate tissue which can easily be torn, fingernails must be short with no jagged edges and lube (lots of it) is your best friend.
Fingers first then probes/beads then butt plugs gradually getting bigger until the girth is the same as your oh.
When inserting take it slowly and breathe out (this helps loads) relax then insert more breathe/blow out and it can help if you push your bottom muscles out as though you're trying to have a bowel movement as this relaxes the anal sphincter. It can take many weeks/months but not always, but if it does don't worry, only do what you are comfortable with.
Whether to try anal or not is entirely up to and you should not feel pressured to do so.
There is no harm in trying something new but there are some simple steps you can take to make the experience less scary and hopefully therefore a pleasurable experience.
My advice would be to introduce a toy that is suitable for anal play with a circumference of approx 3.5", don't rush to go large be that with a toy or with the real thing. Before inserting the toy get yourself turned on, for example use a bullet for clitoral stimulation, I find this helps me relax and be ready for anal play. Lube up your toy and just take your time with insertion. I also try out toys by myself first so that I don't feel rushed or put myself under pressure.
Alternatively get your OH to run his lubed up finger around your anus and then he can gently insert his finger.
Once you are comfy with one or both of these options than you can introduce a bigger toy or a second finger. If you find you enjoy anal play then over time you may find the prospect of anal sex not at all scary.
Time, patience and lots of lube is key.
Mrs TB149 was always unsure about anal but once she tried it she loved it. She actually prefers anal toys to me being in there. The best bet is start with a little bit of anal play with a finger or small plug, but it will take time to get the hang of it.
If he is big then you will probably prefer viginal Sex while wearing a butt plug, it will drive you while and he'll love how tight this makes you feel.
Thank you everyone, all of your comments have been helpful! I think I will definitely take your advice and work up to it. I'll try anything once! :)
Thanks x
I didn't enjoy it with my first partner however I love it with my current one. Take it slow and you'll be fine. X
It's something that if you're scared of it won't go so well as your muscles tense-up, so make sure you're relaxed beforehand (this is a great excuse to get your partner to give you a massage).
As others have suggested, start small, use lube, even maybe try out a butt plug.
I personally like anal. Sometimes it can feel a little uncomfy at first but shortly afterwards this feeling goes and leads to intense pleasure. I often can orgasm stronger, and I must admit it does make me feel very primal and loud. When it comes to sex I'm all for experiencing different sensations, although I know not everyone is. Just be yourself and go with your gut instinct.
All above advice, plus lube,lube,lube.
Try some specific Anal Lubricant, as it really does make a difference to trying to use normal lube.
I agree with everyone. It takes time to work up to but once there it can be amazing.
We dont do it every time but when we do I really like it. And yes lube is a must.
And it seems to go in better after a few g & ts not that im advocating getting plastered! x
Hi I am relatively new to anal and my Husband is quite long and girthy and I was desperate to try but I was nervous. All I can say is that you need to be fully aroused and work up in size with his fingers, I actually had a tickle in my throat when he was about to push inside and I coughed and just swallowed him up. Amazing ! So now when we are going down that route again I cough at the strategic moment, the feeling is so good. We use Maximus lube as it is thicker and longer lasting than other types.
Penny26 wrote:
Hi I am relatively new to anal and my Husband is quite long and girthy and I was desperate to try but I was nervous. All I can say is that you need to be fully aroused and work up in size with his fingers, I actually had a tickle in my throat when he was about to push inside and I coughed and just swallowed him up. Amazing ! So now when we are going down that route again I cough at the strategic moment, the feeling is so good. We use Maximus lube as it is thicker and longer lasting than other types.
Haha my OH did that viginally and good god that was some squeeze, thanks for jogging that memory 
Ok I feel as gross as this is its apparently very common but no one talks about it often... passing gas after is highly likely and its a bit... gross if he finishes inside you.
But anal is nice build up sizes and use plenty of lube
Go slow build up to it. Solo play finger then p!ugs. If you don't enjoy it then don't go any further.
Only try it if you want to.
I'm new to anal over the last year or so after getting just to my OHs wandering fingers! I now love it and like the other ladies orgasm from it too.
I particular like using my Fifty Shades steel wand at the same time but my OH really love it when I'm using one of my love eggs internally at the same time as he can feel the vibrations through me.
If you want to try it build up from fingers to a slim silicone butt plug and beyond. plenty of lube, relax (deep breaths), take it slow and slow down/stop if anything hurts.
Maybe try using a plug when you're playing solo to get used to the sensation. This slimline silicone plug is good for beginners as its small, Slim and super soft.
Yes, that reminds me I am incredibly windy after anal sex it's quite bad, and there is some follow through if he has cum inside of me! I don't know how to get round that any ideas of how you get empty afterwards ?
Penny26 wrote:
Yes, that reminds me I am incredibly windy after anal sex it's quite bad, and there is some follow through if he has cum inside of me! I don't know how to get round that any ideas of how you get empty afterwards ?
Have you tried jumping up and down :)
If he's pushing a lot of air in you might want him to slow down a little.
There is no glamourous or ladylike way of cleaning up I'm afraid. Either bare down is if you going to the loo or easier option is to douche. Although they won't necessarily help the wind but if your OH wants to go there he should act as if he hasn't heard an occasional trump!! Haha
Ms Young wrote:
Hi guys,
I have never received anal before and I was wondering if I could get other female's opinions on whether to try or not! It's always been a bit scary to me and my current partner is quite large down below..
Thanks x
Just take it slow, start with a small butt plug, use lots of lube and Im sure you will enjoy it :)