Hello everyone, sorry if this has been asked before. I've been trying to achieve a more powerful orgasm through prostate massage and have tried various toys of different sizes, although I enjoy the sensation of being full and moving the toy, it's not mind blowing as I've heard about. So I was wondering if anyone could offer any advice? Many thanks.
have you tried vibration? also, if you stimulate the perianum as well as the prostate you can often get better results :)
I have tried vibrators but I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. Thanks for the tip about the perineum, but if I have never heard of that. Where should I aim? What does it do? I do sound stupid lol
Hey Dax
The perineum is the area of skin between your balls and your anus. It can be quite a sensitive area to play with. Try stroking, tickling or firmer pressure and see if anything tickles your fancy. :D
Also, just because a "lot" of people rave about anal stimulation or P-Spot orgasms, doesnt mean it will be everyones cup of tea. In much the same way some women enjoy G-Spot orgasms and others just dont. Pleasure is very subjective. Experimentation is great but do not feel bad if something just isnt doing it for you.
I dont think you are doing anything wrong but if you are completely new to anal stimulation it can take a bit of time and experimenting with different positions, toys, and techniques to find your preferred stimulation. At first you are not completely relaxed and laying back fantasising because you are focusing all your attention on "Does this feel good" "why doesnt that feel good" "ouch that hurts a bit" "is it too far in, or not far enough" and so on. So naturally you are not in exactly the right frame of mind and on top of that, your bum is experiencing totally new sensations and stretchings which can all just be a bit much at first.
I would say, dont give up, keep trying to relax and go with the flow and try different toys or positions and maybe one day you will be going "oh wow" which is fantastic but maybe it just wont be for you and thats fine too, and definitely doesnt mean your doing something wrong, just that you just dont enjoy it as much as guy X. Good luck
Hey fluff bags. Many thanks for the advice and I will certainly give that area a try. See if it makes a difference. I have a new toy so I will give that a whirl with new positions. I'll see if my Gf has any ideas so thanks.
Hello all,
I have been looking forward to anal play for awhile and finally got my first dildo after getting used to a butt plug for a few months. I tried the dildo out but barely felt any pleasure from it. It went in fairly easy because I was pretty relaxed but again not much pleasure at all. Am I doing something wrong? Help!
Thanks.
Just enjoy the sensation and avoid touching your penis as it will distract from the anal pleasure. It takes time to achieve and everyone is different so I’m sure you will find what works best for you!
I find that for maximum enjoyment from solo anal play I need to give myself plenty of time, be warm and comfortable, be relaxed and have no distractions, so I makesure to block out some time rarher than making it a quicky, pop my earphones in to listen to relaxing music or some porn, and do some breathing exercises to relax. Once you’ve figured out what you need to do to tune in to your body it does get easier. Hope this helps you and good luck!
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Hi @AJ,
Welcome to the forums!
Have a search about, there are plenty of topics and advice around prostrate, whether massagers, dildos, whatever.
As mentioned, the biggest part of prostrate pleasure is relaxation. Like @mikeormick said, book some time in where you won’t be disturbed, have a bath, meditate, whatever to get you nice and relaxed, and allow time. It is a process, there isn’t a quick fix of do this and you’ll be reaching for the stars.
One of the good guides I found on here that may be worth a read is this post:
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