I love it when my fiance plays with my bum and slips a finger in, and we always use plenty of lube but after a few minutes i get very hot around my anus when its being penertrated, its a slight feeling like friction burn or like using deep heat (and no we're not mixing them up, OUCH!) this lasts for about 10 mins after we finish.
i love the feeling of the penertration and the deepness but have to stop cause of the heat situation getting a little uncomfortable.
any ideas what this is or how to stop it?
and then also after this is sorted how do i aproach the idea of her using a strap-on on me with out scaring her off or her thinking im gay?
First i'd like to say hello FTA and welcome to the forums =)
There are 2 reasons I could think of for the burning sensation...
1. You could be allergic to the type of lubrication you are using or
2. You may not be relaxing anough and therefore your partner could be stretching u a bit to far OR maybe being a little too rough.
Obviously these are only examples but with anal its always best to start small and gradually move up to larger and longer butt plugs. My first one was http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13662 which for me was rather small but feel that its easy to insert, wont get lost and not intimidating in the slightest.
Let me know how you get on and good luck with enjoying the great sensations u get from anal =)
well must admit i have just purchased two items from your selves to use on my own till i can get my fiance ok with the idea of using more than her fingers. i purchased:
so hoping these will ease me into some great anal toy action. and cant wait for them to arrive!
might have to rethink my lube and buy some from you then, its ok on me when i enter my fiance but we are using a durex one so wouldnt have thought its primarily designed for anal.
Yeah I have to admit that durex isnt the best and most probably why u were experiancing discomfort as could be drying out too quickly. This is what I use http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13085 and as it states :- From the makers of Liquid Silk, a clear, water-based, non-glycerin lube that's essential for safe anal play! Its high glycol content helps retain any naturally occurring moisture and makes the lubricant last longer too.
U really dont need to use much either and lasts ages =) Let me know how u get on.
Oh plus is a good idea to use the plug and wear it about the house for a few hours or so... allow your anus to get used to somthing being in there. Also as move up in size with the plugs u will start to enjoy the fullness they give you =)