Hi
i did anal a few times but not done it for about three years.
Has anyone got any tips on how to make it more enjoyable and less painful?
i know lube is a good idea but has anyone used them things to clean the butt out?
thanks
Hi there, when you say "them things" I assume you mean a douche.
We did for our anal play and it does help reduce any potential mess, however don't over use them it can cause more damage than you realise. Once or twice half an hour before sex in enough.
Remember to wait for a bit before sex to ensure anything you put in using the douche is back out again.
As for a 3 year break, i would start small, buy an anal training kit and work your way through them so you are ready for something larger.
We used: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22285
As you say, lube is crazy important, but not just any lube, buy an anal one. This is because it is thicker and lasts longer than normal lubes.
This is what we use http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22575
It like butter at first so you can put it where you want then it melts after a while and stays there.
There are always the numbing oils etc which we tried and they do work to a degree, however if you are unaware of the pain then you don't know about any damage done or that you are doing.
So only use these after you are experienced and know what you are doing.
Hope this helps :)
Thanks very much for your advice :)
No problem, good luck with it :D
Just remember to keep a towel handy just in case :S
Take it slow.
No slower than that.
No even slower!
Some people seem to happily drop trou and whack something up there, others wince at a lubed finger for a while.
The worst presumption when couples try is that 'slow' means 'slowly insert your cock'. NO!
Not only does the stretching to accomsdate hurt, but the sensation once in can be intense and not always enjoyable when unaccostomed.
Arousal helps. Orgasming first helps (for a woman, if its the man receiving he might just fall asleep ;-) ). Then a lubed finger SLOWLY. That might be all that's comfortable in the first few sessions. If it feels OK though try a second or maybe a toy. SLOWLY. We're talking a good wait, not a few seconds here.
Go from there. Basically if it hurts, you're going to quick. Lots of threads on here if you search. I'm on my phone so can't ramble on any longer or my thumb will fall off.
If you put the effort and patience in though it can feel great for both parties so don't despair ;-)
hahaha thank you 
Hi Chocoholic, here is an older thread that may help. There are many others just type Anal into the search bar to find them. Good luck.