I’ve had a mixed bag. My long term partner (now ex), I had a sexual awakening of sorts so far through our relationship and the tamer stuff I did tell him but didn’t go very far, and one of my biggest kinks (DDLG) I brought up to him and his reaction said it all; I didn’t tell him anything else. Since then I’ve only told one sexual partner everything, as he’s the only one I fully trust with my body. The others I’ve told about the DDLG but not much else. If I was ever in a relationship again, I may open up about everything, but probably not.
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What is DDLG?
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I like to think we share most things, but some tend to be those lock and key fantasies which are just that fantasies.
Without a doubt we have unlocked some of those over the years and still unlocking with recent desires both sides for wipping / being dominated and being the dom. So I have no doubt over time we will keep things alive with trying out our fantasies.
It’s about knowing each other , being comfortable and sharing your wants… but I can admit I’m still not at full disclosure stage 
and some stuff I just keep as fantasies in my head.
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DDLG, or DD/LG, is an acronym for daddy dom/little girl , a sexual relationship where the dominant male is the daddy figure and a woman plays the role of a young girl.
I had to look it up also… 
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Most of them I have told her and we have done/ are doing - wet look, she wears; nipple clamps , I wear; cock rings/ ball stretchers - I wear; riding crop - we share; cock cage - I wear/ sort of share. Two things I haven’t shared yet is a secret thought around pegging and a visit to a dominatrix with her watching.
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10 years with my OH, she very prudish, loves lingerie n tried anal even but hates the thought of a vibrater
…I have massive fantasies of getting golden showered on and fingered. Iv told my very close girl friend (completely plutonic). She has said she has same thing with her husband. I guess we fall in love with who we do and jus have to accept it
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I know, me too, it has been a mixed bag. Certain people you think you know, you really don’t. I am at the point in my life when masturbation is the best. And I try to be imaginative and try everything.
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I can’t think of any fantasies that I haven’t shared by any intention. Maybe stuff that’s not top of mind and hasn’t come up (like, I don’t know if I’ve ever explicitly stated that I’m into forced orgasms or tease/denial, but we’ve definitely dabbled that direction without explicitly discussing it).
I have had one or two erotic dreams involving real people we know that didn’t feel healthy to share about in the morning after, and now it would feel awkward to bring up. They’re not things I dwell on, so I kinda feel like I can just let them sink to the bottom of my subconscious and if they bubble back up again I can share if it comes up.
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No we tell each other everything
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No not alone at all @funny_bone
I have alot which I keep to myself which I think about when I have my solo time…
I don’t think they’d be appreciated if I shared them with my bloke…
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You might be surprised! But then, you know your bloke better than us I suppose. I think the only fantasy I’d have a hard time hearing from my wife would be if it involved other people we know in real life without me (i.e., fantasizing about a threesome that included me and one of her girlfriends, or me and the neighbor chap down the street I think I could get behind, but only being left out would be a turnoff for me).
I would love for her to give a double blowjob to me and another man. When we have spoken about things before she always says fantasies should just be that and that the mind is powerful but she probably wouldnt actually live them out.
I know she has a fantasy to be with 3 men but I am not sure she knows how much it would turn me on!
Im totally straight so not interested in anything other than the BJ, and the thought of her on her knees, topless, sucking two hard cocks really does it for me.
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I’ve had fantasies that I’ve never told my wife, but in the last maybe 5 years or so I’ve got really turned on by sensual pegging but always kept it to myself as my wife is a bit of a clean obsessive. I couldn’t keep it bottled up and had read lots about opening up to your partner so I sent her a fairly long email asking her if she would consider pegging me, she thanked me for being so open but said it’s not something she would want to do but can do other stuff, baby steps etc, but since then I’ve asked her to put a finger in my ass while we’re having fun and she said no. Now I feel sheepish for ever asking about it and kinda feel like a perv, when all I wanted was to feel pleasure
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@Wantingtolearnmore69 You shouldn’t feel that way. you like, what you like and you wife don’t like, what she don’t like unfortunately not everyone can match perfectly, but to still communicate with each other is key, as is compromise. Could you not maybe use a butt plug that you could insert yourself before play. You can still get the pressure you want and she doesn’t have to do anything she is not yet comfortable with. Which In turn could also change how she feels about it in the future maybe.
(Mrs)
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I am guessing there are a number of fantasies I would never tell my wife . She is much more closed off to a surprising sexual activities . She accepts that I am a non practicing nudist and was the one to suggest I go try the nudist camp out . She slightly objects to lesbian activity on screen , but freaks out over men in any sexual activity . So all my orgy and sex party fantasies are off the table , especially myself servicing or being serviced by another male . She will not even watch or participate in my sounding activities . I could probably write out a list of fantasies I would not tell her about . It would not be much larger than the book War and Peace .
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I think my hubby has a heeeeeaaap of fantasies he won’t tell me, when I have told him some of mine and I ask him he says things like ‘nothing we haven’t done’ or ’ what we do is enough’.
He knows my fantasies of sex with him and another woman, have kept to myself the fact I watch porn from time to time
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We’ve pretty much got each others fantasies nailed and there are no secrets. We are very explorative though and often text each other ideas, suggestions etc
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For many years I never told mrstoysrus about me liking my ass played with, thought it seemed “gay” but since disclosing it, our sex life has been better than ever
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Thanks for your reply, only just noticed it! I have since used a butt plug while having sex, I didn’t tell her at first and as I was on top she obviously couldn’t notice, but as I finished I did tell her and she didn’t seem to mind and was quite open that if I wanted to do that it didn’t worry her. I do plan on using it a bit more and she may change her mental ‘ickiness’ of it, but if not that’s also ok. I love my wife and wouldn’t want to force anything on her
I haven’t discussed any of my past/present solo play fantasies with my OH, I don’t want to be potentially judged or ridiculed.
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