@teacake @forwardghoul52 was thinking the same thing 
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Never really got if the woman has a high number shes a āslutā the man has a high number, heās a "legendā
If you like it, do it as much as you can because life is seriously short.
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Iāve always had an issue with women being put down for their number. Terrible double standard. But my number is either in the high 50s or low 60s. If I had known I liked men during my divorce in my first marriage, that number would be higher.
Have you never considered discussing it with your wife about getting other people involved?
I know itās not for everyone but just thought Iād ask
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Not having others join but she has suggested letting me have an experience with a man. Once sheās emotionally ready we will discuss it more
That makes sense. Hope you find an arrangement that works for both of you 
Yep, for me number doesnāt matter, I couldnāt tell you mine.
I do know when I met my OH she was āconcernedā about how I would judge her number, and we talked about it. Her number is higher than mine, and I think she had more of a thing around it than I have. All that matters is that it is me she wants to be with and that she enjoys that part of our relationship.
Our views at the time we met were very different around sex (and still can be, but to a lesser extent now), for her it was always more of a wham bam both orgasm, done! outlook. For me, itās more about the complete experience, build up, teasing, sensory, exploring boundaries, just being with someone in that most vulnerable state.
I could have 100 hook-ups or one-nighters with strangers, Iād learn nothing and get very little from it.
One night with Mrs_Kink being blindfolded and dressed up and all that involves, that is an experience I like and love to remember and repeat, that level of intimacy and all that goes with it.
So yep, numbers for me are nothing, however, appreciate they can mean something to others.
Me too. We have discussed visiting a glory hole as well. I think the idea of watching me turns her on.
Aha I genuinely think thereās a bit of a voyeur in everyone
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For me, itās a bit of a mixed bag - my number is 7 which may be considered low for a male in his 40ās but Iāve never had a one night stand so with each of the 7 it has been multiple times. OH is considerably more than mine (over 50 I think) Do I wish my number was higher? Sometimes yes, but ultimately for me sex is about the connection with someone and learning what someone likes - can you get that from a one night stand 
I canāt answer that! Does her higher number bother me - definitely not - we have the best sex of my life here and now so who cares what she or I did in the past!! As the saying goes - we might not have been each otherās firsts but hopefully weāll be each otherās lasts!!
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I never kept count as it was not important to me, every new partner was the first in my mind.
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I never kept count, and by now Iāve probably forgotten some of them, but it would certainly be well over 50, maybe double that (oh my wild youth). My husband, on the other hand, who was almost a generation older than me, had a count of 2 when we met (his first wife and a one-time partner swap with their neighbors). It never bothered him that I had more experience. He was glad that I knew what I liked, and could articulate it. I think he was unusual for his age though. Plenty of men would probably have considered me a slut. But if they want to sleep with a lot of women, then a lot of women have to be sleeping around. Otherwise, theyāre going to be spending a lot of nights with their right hand. So the double standard really doesnāt make sense.
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This thread has definitely made me try and work my number out of curiosity now 
Just the one. Married to my husband for 17 years
11 or 12 for me I think
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Lost count around 70 mark. Damn you gay saunas
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It shouldnāt matter, My OH has only slept with me so for her itās one, she knows I had quite a few before we met but has never wanted to know, which in a way suits me because my quite a few is actually quite a lot, I was very experimental in my teens and rightly or wrongly slept around with as many and who ever I could, men or women, to be honest mostly men.
I donāt know the number its big, getting on for 3 figures! Iām not proud of it but Iām also not ashamed of it too if that makes sense.
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Hubbyās is only 2 including me, but by christ did he know what he was doing 
left me begging for more and still does 
Iām going by consensually then hubbyās my only one
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Mrs Horny at 50 and myself are swingers so I guess not
Just two for me, funny thing is my previous partner thought i had been with loads of women, I think she thought that because I was definitely a bit of a party animal and a flirt, She did question me because she said I do so much but no Iām just adventurous when it comes to sex and donāt mind trying anything or making myself look a tit.
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