What do men find attractive in a woman. I know all men have different tastes, but do men find the larger woman attractive, as a lot of women are very self conscious of their bodies, me for one.
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You would be surprised how much i enjoy the eye candy on offer everywhere.
As a man (or perhaps a pervert???), i find thin, normal, chubby or large ladies very attractive. I love women and the women forms, and have many (unfulfilled) fantasies with many women of mixed ages and shapes.
I’m married so no acting on them… but i would love having sex with with a very large number of ladies, some of them pretty large.
One of my main office fantasy is a rather large lady, with a beautiful smile and incredibly large breasts… thinking about it gets me all hot and bothered!!!
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This is a very complicated question and it is so varied by person that I don’t think there is an answer. I can say that everyone is beautiful in their own way. I think we are all self conscious about something but we have to accept some things that we cannot change.
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I know that most people will say personality is the thing that they look for, but personality is not the first thing that attracts a person, a person shape or looks is the very first thing that’s noticed.
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I have preferences but none are show stoppers. For example I’d prefer blue eyes / blonde hair. Big boobs / English rose phsyique with or without a few extra pounds. Yet my wife is the first to meet those preferences.
For me, it’s the whole package. It’s more about whether someone looks after themself, their personality is a huge factor too. I find my wife stunning. Her personality though, throw that in and she’s irresistible.
Well I can safely say, it was hubby’s personality that I noticed first and fell in love with. And how he was towards me, his actions and words, not his looks or shape but his personality.
Hubby was the first and only partner that never ever judged me for what I looked like and treated me amazingly. And not a shallow a hole. The confidence that he’s given me over the years, has helped me accept the body I have and embrace it.
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Personality. Too shallow to judge someone purely on body shape. I guess another great attribute is body confidence, regardless of shape, if you own it and are confident that is very sexy.
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I understand that personality is a big thing, and it depends on how you met that person, but you don’t look at someone for the first time and say look at the personality on that, your first impression would be on looks/physical appearance.
Well not for me, I’m afraid you’re totally wrong. It was his personality and not his looks or shape. I know what it was that attracted me to him and that’s all that matters, and I don’t need to be told, that it was his looks/physical appearance that was the first impression of him or attracted me to him 
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@Loopylane . Speaking for myself, i do not find women who are stick thin attractive.
I like women to have curves in all the right places.
This said , the sexiest thing irrespective of shape is personality…it cant be quantified .
If you ouze sexiness in your personality it is intoxicating
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My wife is a larger lady and I’m very attracted to her, skinny minis aren’t my cup of tea, I prefer curves. Hour glass figure is great, but love a great muffin top too
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@Loopylane by asking what do men find attractive, you’re excluding a lot of people with valid opinions. I’m sure it’s not intentional, just something to consider
My previous long term partners - one male, one female - were not necessarily what I find physically attractive if I were to describe my perfect partner, but their personalities were what shone through. The rest is just packaging 
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I think that initial meetings are driven by confidence and personality, someone who effervescent and confident tends to make them stand out and appear interesting. I think that individuals are drawn to that.
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@Loopylane . I have looked at many larger woman and thought( hypothetically, im happily married) , wow i bet she would be amazing in a sexual situation . Youd be surprised how much the sexual aspect of someones personality, can be given off subliminally.!!
@Loopylane I’m definitely a larger lady, I prefer calling myself curvy, I think it sounds sexier. I’ve fluctuated most of my life. Recently I took a look at curvy women porn, there’s lots of them for free. I also look at the photos of curvy woman lingerie for plus size, while they have more of an hourglass figure, its the confidence on their faces that encourages me. Getting your hair done nicely instead of the bedraggled look i typically have 
helps me to feel sexy. I also bought a couple of pieces of shapewear that helps with the overflow lol. I really think sexiness is a frame of mind. I have quite a collection of lingerie to boost me in my bedroom. My husband and I have been together a long time and I find we go thru blah times and varying how I dress, buy a new piece of lingerie goes a long way to feel good. I’d focus on what you like the most about yourself, physically and personality wise and go from there. Do you love your eyes? If you do or dont, get some extension eyelashes. Buy a new lipstick. When I feel confident I find people respond to that
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Maybe I’m wording it all wrong, I’m new to this forum and don’t usually express myself. I’m not saying that personality is not a big factor, I’m just asking what men prefer apart from the personality, I am not a small woman but wouldn’t say I’m a large woman either, but me personally am not a confident woman in my own body. I wish I was.
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Just a gentle reminder, it’s against the forum rules to aim a question at just one gender, the topic has to be open to everyone
Before I got with hubby I literally had zero confidence (due to my past relationships) it took an awful lot for me to get that confidence growing, it’s still not 100% but it’s getting better. I wouldn’t even let him see me naked. Sex would be in missionary position, lights off with my clothes on 
but now I’ve got all sorts of lingerie, even got piece’s that show off my mum tum, toys and bondage. And that’s all down to him. I must do something for him, cos it shows every time 
and he says to me
‘I’ve got to have something to grab hold off’ and I love it when he grabs my fatty bits (love handles) during our sessions.
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For me, I’m attracted to both sexes,
For me, a man with a cheeky grin, sense of humour, and respect of women far sexier than any shape or size.
For women, I like women who ooze confidence and sex appeal, one who is confident in her skin would drive me to my knees!
We’re all beautiful, big, small, it’s not about the size, it’s about the sexual chemistry x
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Welcome Basically I think what I said in a roundabout way is that… confidence comes from yourself. I know when I feel confident I put that across and not everyone is going to be attracted to me, obviously. I just try to make myself feel good and it goes a long way. I got into therapist and mental health meds, these things helped my brain chemistry to work alongside myself.
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I apologise if it seems that way, question is open to both male and female, no offence meant.
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