So I mentioned this in the good morning thread but don't want keep bringing it down with my problems, I just need to get something off my chest.
Im having trust issues in my relationship, not because my man is untrustworthy or gives solid reason for distrust, but because I'm convinced I'm worth nothing, he can do a million times better and at times I genuinely believe he hates me. I know it's not true but I can't stop it, because I genuinely believe it and you can't just change your thoughts. I've been going through a bad few days and really putting some thought into me and I've come to a pretty scary conclusion.
ive been self harming since I was 12 obviously not cutting or burning to start but inflicting pain to cope with stress. Moved onto major stuff around 14. Stopped when I was 18 and met OH, he really did help me so much and for ages I was almost normal, but you know how relationships settle down, he used to text me constantly, and be so excited to see me naked, now he isn't as much, and I think that's what set me off thinking he was sick of me, and why wouldn't he be I'm annoying.
but I've started looking further back, trying to figure out where all this came from, reading about self worth it turns out I have 0 and I've concluded its because of a few things, I've never fit it- my sisters are twins and very alike whereas I'm totally different, and I never spent more than two years at primary school as a break down 1.5-0.5-2-0.5-1-1.5 so I was always the new kid and never made any friends, now I'm so antisocial and still don't have any. My dad never wanted me, he always used to insult me to my mum while I was stood right there, I was a tramp because I didn't have nice clothes, he didn't know what to do with me because I'm a girl, I'm hard work, I'm a brat, I was never good enough yet my younger brother was everything.
I've gone all the way back, and I think I've been depressed since I was 6. 6! When my nana died and I moved from my first school, I don't remember ever feeling happy or comfortable in myself from 6 until I met OH.
my question is, if I've always been this way, it's the only way I know, how the hell am I meant to find myself when the last time I was myself I was 6?!
Sorry for the looooong rant, I just needed to say it all