Hi all. You don't have to read this, it's more of a rant that people can help with if they feel that they can.
I'm very sorry that I keep starting threads that bring the mood down a bit, I realise that all I've done lately is a lot of moanig and moping like a sulky teenager.. I just need to write everything down and if anyone has anything to add, then great, but if not, I'll just be glad to have gotten everything off my chest.
So, as you may know, I've been struggling a bit lately with my relationship and generally feeling a bit rubbish.
As suggested on another thread, I seem to have a bad case of the winter blues and I'm feeling really low at the moment. I've been thinking of leaving my boyfriend as well for a good couple of weeks and I'm just a big mess.
I know I'm not going to leave him or break up with him, because I love him like mad, which is annoying me more because I know that deep down I do want to go and be by myself for a while, but at the same time, I don't want to leave him. In a way, I'm kind of annoyed at myself that I love him and care for him so much, as if I didn't, then it would be easier for me to actually do something, not just sit here in the middle.
I know that he is completely obvlivious to how I am feeling and it would absolutely crush him to know that I want to leave him- which is why I've kept all this to myself and haven't plucked up the courage to talk to him about it. I don't know how to say "things aren't right" without hurting him. Plus, I don't really know why I want to leave.
I want some time to myself even though I know that if I did choose to take a break from the relationship, I would be lonely and miss him terribly. We've been planning on moving into our first house together for months, and now that it was finally getting to the stage of deciding on the final few that we loved, his hours have been cut down in work and we're not going to be able to move afterall. I know it's not his fault but he doesn't seem to be doing anything about it, which is really frustrating for me.
I feel like I've grown apart from him over the past few months. Things just aren't the same. We've been together for 5 years since I was 15, and obviously I've grown up a lot since we started dating. I think maybe I've just outgrown him.
It's really upsetting for me to even consider leaving him, and everytime I think of the perfect thing to say, I imagine saying it and can't go through with it. I know I love him and he loves me, so things should be great. I don't know what to do.