So. I'm hoping this is okay on here, as I don't know where else to post this too... so here goes...
I'm really worried about spending Christmas and New Year alone as my bf is going away and he told me this months ago - but I did my usual silly thing of saying I'll start saving and never did. So now I have about 2 months to save enough to buy my passport, flights and spending money or be alone over Christmas and I don't know what to do.
I have no one to talk to on this one and just feel so worried it's making me ill...
Do you think (given your current income) that you will be able to save enough in the 2 months? It's also worth remembering passports can take a while to process so get onto that early if you wanna commit. Instead of worrying about it, try putting that worry into sorting it out! :)
I spent a Christmas and New Years alone a couple years ago and it wasn't great (more xmas than new years which i dont really give a toss about!). Bt it is a really good experience on being alone and being ok on your own. It is pretty hard but (sounds cheesy) makes you stronger! Xx
I agree with Miss Char don't know what more can be said really. Have you got no one you could lend some money off and pay them back in the new year when uve saved up!
I agree with Misschar that you should try and stop worrying and get busy sorting it out. Is there not any chance he can help you with the expenses? Also as Misschar said make sure you sort the passport out asap. Is there any way you could celebrate your own little christmas a few weeks later if there is no way of you getting the money in time?
Do you own anything you can sell on ebay? Whilst trying to raise money in the past for something I sold anything and everything on there lol!
Is there not anyone else you could spend it with?
Whatever you do hun I hope you manage to spend it with your man. I couldn't imagine having to spend christmas alone :( *hugs* xxx
I usually spend the late afternoon of xmas day and xmas night alone and 9 outta 10 times stay home alone for new years too , its not so bad , i wake up xmas morning with my little dude , then my mama and pops come over or i go there for a couple hours then kiddo goes to his daddies in the afternoon and i watch telly or read or .. whatever ! i am a bit of a loner as a rule though so i dont mind my own company ,
i do hope if its what you want to do , you find a way of scraping the funds together to spend it with your boyfriend , but if you cant , youve almost 2 months to ask family or friends what their plans are so maybe you can arrange an alternative plan . best of luck :)
My family live too far away for me to go and visit and they don't really celebrate christmas anyway. It's not like I'm just worrying without trying to fix it all, I have put stuff on Ebay - no-one is interested in the items so far, and it's not like I've priced them too high, they all are less than £3 including P&P. I'm not sure what more I can do.
I owe my bf over £400 due to being unemployed a month ago and couldn't pay my rent, he would like me to spend Christmas with him, I just don't know if I can afford it at the moment, and it's not like I'm being wasteful with my money, there is no-one I can lend money off and I can't bare the thought of being home alone over Christmas and New Year - cue me thinking of bridget jones where she's there drinking and singing along to All By Myself - that's how I think my Christmas & New Year will go while thinking of my bf off in Spain...
Postpone Christmas for yourself then :) like morning glory says. Pretend it isn't Xmas or New Years, then when he is back set aside a day and pretend it is :) that's what I'd do x
I hate Christmas. People get so stressed about it and into loads of debt. It's just another day of then year. Unless your a Christian and believe in Christ, then it shouldn't have a massive significance. It's been over commercialised to make people spend money and force people to spend the day with there loved ones or family.... And usually most of these people can't wait to get away from each other. Personally I have chosen to work every Christmas Day for past 8 years apart from one when I was off on maternity leave. If I was you, I would either have a Christmas Day with your partner before or after Christmas when you have a chance to be together. Won't put stress on yourself to find the money or borrow money in Time for Christmas. You will just spend the next six months paying it all off.
Passport... that's what the island gets for refusing to join Schengen ;)
State holidays are usually highly annoying, and being SomewhereElse™ is key, and in the era of penny flights it's trivial to do if the will is there. Even if money is tight enough not to allow for hotel extravaganzas, it's just as easy to go tenting somewhere wild. I always make myself scarce this way, preferably to EASTASIA since that's the time to be there — but I have volunteered for overtime work a couple times otherwise, that is if travel was not an option.
We are downsizing Christmas this year, parents still get spoilt but we're saving summer holiday funds instead, less pressure on us both and still nice food and smaller treats.
Just remeber it's one day... that's all just a day and no big deal. watever you don't borrow money or get into debt over it. when your bf gets back you can spend the whole day together and do what you would have done if he had been home for christmas. I spent the whole of christmas week in hospital once and came out in the new year. we had christmas dinner, gave presents and watched a film when i got home. we just did christmas on another day.
Is there no way he can come to you for christmas hun? xx
He will be going to Spain on the 20th till the 5th so it's not like it's just the one day... He currently lives near me - but is planning on being away for Christmas.
Just going to try and save as much as I can. Rather not be alone over the holidays...
And doing Christmas on another day isn't really possible due to myself working nights and he works days... We don't see each other a lot as it is....
I hate Christmas when everyone on FB shoves their perfect happy lives in your face, which is why I have not been on FB for 8 months, this Christmas will be my 1st living on my own will see family but then back to my empty flat so will see how that goes, I am a pretty strong person and do like my own company but Christmas is always a time when I do miss having a special someone. I have few single friends so we may end up doing something together - like going the pub!!! lol Hope you manage to sort everything out in time and get away x
Why is he going to Spain for Christmas? If he has family there.......entirely justifiable........if he doesn't then clearly he puts a holiday and a good time ahead of you! If its family I completely get it.............if not............only you can decide how much he thinks of you!
Probably best you two start communicating and quick!
Why is he going to Spain for Christmas? If he has family there.......entirely justifiable........if he doesn't then clearly he puts a holiday and a good time ahead of you! If its family I completely get it.............if not............only you can decide how much he thinks of you!
Probably best you two start communicating and quick!
He is going there as he told me months ago that he was going it was my own fault for being stupid and not saving up... Due to his own personal reasons he needs a holiday and I get that as I know he has a lot going on at the moment, and he keeps saying he really wants me there with him but he doesn't have the money to pay for me.
I just don't like the thought of being alone over Christmas, but hopefully I will have the money... I won't be going out and buying cheaper brands of food and just trying to save as much as I can... Fingers crossed...
