So a few of you may remember I posted a while ago about problems with my wife and after taking advice on here things did get a bit better for a time but recently my wife has been diagnosed with depression and anxiety which does explain a lot of why she seemed so distant and unable to communicate her feelings ,she has been on the implant since September which to be honest the problems started not long after ,she has spoken to her doctor about the possibility of the implant causing this but the doctor just said there's no evidence to suggest a link ,so therefore my wife won't have it removed I'm convinced it has something to do with her depression so does any of you have any experience with this or how to help person through depression ,I've tried reassuring her that that I love her no matter what and told her I understand it's not her fault what's happening but deep down I feel so helpless and almost pushed out .
Sadly with depression there’s no quick fix. Some days will be better than others and she may go through phases of feeling totally fine for a few weeks then something completely random might trigger a down spell. The only thing I can say is it will mean the world to her for you to keep doing what your doing by reassuring and supporting her. Encourage her to open up to you about what’s going on in her head or for some it can be difficult to do that with a person they’re close to in fear it might push them away ect.. so perhaps mention about going to see a therapist. You can get referrals by seeing your doctor or see if there’s any charity runned mental health support centres where you live. Waiting lists tend to be long but you can get rushed through by expressing urgency to see someone. Another option is to see your doctor about antidepressants.. they’re not miracle cures but they help to balance the chemicals in the brain. Also perhaps ask around to see if any other ladies ha e had the implant and gotten depressed from it.. Hope this helps 😌
I was on the implant. I had one for 3 years no problems... got a second one and I was so down it was unreal! After 18 months I finally put my foot down and got it removed ( even thought the docs didn't want me to ) and it took me a good 12-18 months to start feeling better.
Your doing all the right things. Have they gave her someone to speak to? Sounds silly but have you asked her if there is anything that you could do to help?
What about showing her this post once a few have replied ..So she can see that she isn't alone in feeling like this.
Sorry I don't have better advice & I Hope your both feeling better soon as i can imagine this isn't great for either of you
First how supportive is everyone in this community? I think it's one of the safest places I visit online. I'm surprised that the doctor won't consider the implant as a contributing factor. They alter the hormones and I know for me at least that has a huge impact on my mood. I can't take the pill as everyone I have tried has caused me to feel anxious and low (with often nausea). It sounds like you are doing everything you can to support her, keep it up even when it feels like you aren't getting anywhere. When she comes out the other side it will mean the world to her.
Hey Sam
Personally, I had an aweful time on the implant. My first one implant was amazing, but my second made me moody, sad, uninterested in sex and I bled constantly. It was a nightmare.
The good news is (for me) having it removed made me feel so much better almost immediately.
I'm really surprised that your wife's GP has told her there is no link between depression and her contraceptive. It's pretty common knowledge that hormone treatment can have a huge impact on overall mood, health and wellbeing. I would suggest she gets another opinion, and perhaps goes to a GUM/sexual health clinic, rather than just her usual surgery.
When I had my implant out, I was so surprised by the change in my mood (and how quickly it happened!) that I posted about it here in the forum. You and your wife might be interested to read through the thread together and check out my and other people's experiences.
I'm not saying that having the impant out is a quick fix - depression and anxiety are far more complex than that - but it could certainly help her to lift some of the fog and feel lighter.
Here's the thread: Implant Removal = Feeling Happier?
Hi there sorry to say this but I went the exact same when I had the implant the doctors said it wasn't linked to that but I was convinced it was so I ended up going a family planning centre to have it removed and after a few weeks I did start to feel slightly better not fully myself but I noticed a change I'm still suffering with anxiety and depression 2 years later most u can do is just make sure ur there for her as it is a horrible thing to go thru my partner at the time was useless just kept telling me to cheer up etc. I hope this helps but I was certain the implant caused mine even if docs say no xSam1002 wrote:
So a few of you may remember I posted a while ago about problems with my wife and after taking advice on here things did get a bit better for a time but recently my wife has been diagnosed with depression and anxiety which does explain a lot of why she seemed so distant and unable to communicate her feelings ,she has been on the implant since September which to be honest the problems started not long after ,she has spoken to her doctor about the possibility of the implant causing this but the doctor just said there's no evidence to suggest a link ,so therefore my wife won't have it removed I'm convinced it has something to do with her depression so does any of you have any experience with this or how to help person through depression ,I've tried reassuring her that that I love her no matter what and told her I understand it's not her fault what's happening but deep down I feel so helpless and almost pushed out .
Sorry to hear all those suffering with depression. My girlfriend has been on antidepressants for many years, and although outwardly appears ok, she suffers badly, sadly due to grief she will never feel ok. Im always there for her & spoil her.
Has she had depression or anxiety previously? It may not be related to the implant but more a case of the black dog rearing its ugly head if she has. I would advise her not to medicate until its looked into, hormones can play havoc on the body.
Depression is awful. Sadly many people don't give it its due but luckily, any good sex community does, like here. Personally, given my depression was largely a culmination of romantic disappointment and poor body image, I feel it impacted my sexual ability, not just my willingness to try and have it. When I finally did have sex (late bloomer here), I struggled to maintain an erection, or to cum, despite rarely having problems when masturbating. Antidepressants do not help on this front, I warn you. It just takes time and care. Remind her how much you do care and adore her. Maybe talk her into an evening where it's all about her O and you'll do anything she asks. As the depressed partner, personally, I found that focusing on her would take my mind of other "deficiencies" - maybe it will work in reverse 😊
My wife had battled depression mostly with anxiety once in a while most of her life . She is disabled even with medicine , she has a very hard time . I have had anxiety since about 1962 after heart surgury , but kept it at bay until leaving firefighting , rescue diving and emergency medicine in 87' . When dealing with doctors , always remember there is a reason they call it practicing medicine . Many doctors do not like myself and others with medical knowledge because we question them . As others have suggested , you should seek aditional medical help by specialists . As a spouse that supports a wife with depression I feel both of your troubles and I hope you have some luck with getting this problem properly addressed . It can be quite wearing on spouses and family , I know all too well . Good luck .
I had a very bad experience on the impant, almost an instant depression, my anxiety was so bad I barely slept, I was on the verge of a breakdown but I knew it was the implant it was the only thing in my life that had changed, I had it taken out and a couple of days later I was back to normal
I'm sorry I don't have anything to help, but my girlfriend has just started anti depressants and she has been told by her doctor to come of the pill just for a couple of weeks so they can monitor her blood pressure.
Dealing with depression as I partner I would say just be there for her and make sure she is ok