Why is the subject of this thread "debate"? Goodness I thought maybe someone was running for President of the forum or whatnot.
I understand being curious about others and I have no issue sharing but I hate to get into "the grass is always greener" type of situation within your own relationship...
the ugly truth is sometimes I may go a week or even two without sex due to travel, illness or schedules, etc.
Other times I may have sex 3-4 times a week, but on average 1-2 times. That is partner sex, I obviously use toys at times solo as well.
Post baby - once in the last year! (On pelvic rest during most of pregnancy and then it was 6.5 months postpartum before resuming our sex life last week).
I would like to get back to at least once or twice a week but its tricky!
I may sound dull... but for us it's quality not quantity and also being spontaneous ... we may have sex once a week for a while, then 4 times the next week then we may not have sex for a few weeks but do other things :-) What will be will be in our book :-)