Good luck MG
I've just read through the thread and I would pretty much echo what the others are saying, but then you have to do what's right for you.
Hopefully things will settle down and you can come back. You'll be missed x
I spoke to my mum about it and she said to say no to him. Actually she said the exact same thing you have all said. I am going to tell him now that I won't do it. So I'm afraid you will all have to put up with me still :P xx
I'm so pleased you're not going :D
My email is on my profile if you want to chat xx
xmorningxgloryx wrote:
I spoke to my mum about it and she said to say no to him. Actually she said the exact same thing you have all said. I am going to tell him now that I won't do it. So I'm afraid you will all have to put up with me still :P xx
Excellent news! Good luck today.
delilahxx wrote:
I'm so pleased you're not going :D
My email is on my profile if you want to chat xx
I am too :) I knew it was the right thing to do to say no to him. Using LH makes me happy and I should be in a relationship with someone that wants me to be happy not someone who takes things that make me happy away from me. I just wish he didn't give me the ultimatum so I could have had both :( xx
Going to miss him so much though 
Your being very strong MG hugs for you xxxx glad your sticking around :)
xmorningxgloryx wrote:
Going to miss him so much though
glad you're staying :)
hope he sees sense too.
x
Oh babe. Email me if you need to. We are all here for you. It will be hard at first but it does get better xxxx and like someone said above, he is gonna feel silly saying he lost you because he was being a dick about you using a forum! Sending lots of hugs and love xxx
Im so glad you are staying. Mums are so good!! Xxx
from past experiance i know it hurts now and its hard but you have one life to live sweetie and that life should be lived with you doing what makes you happy not what makes others happy
i had 9 years of my ex controlling me abusing me he took me away from my friends my family and the person i once was til i was nothing but a shell who depended on him needed him could not live breath without him i worshipped the ground he walked on and he knew he had the control over me id do anything to make him happy even if that meant losing all i had that made me happy
in no way im saying that your oh is anyway near my ex or is like my ex but he also started off with things like this not wanting my pics on fb or other sites even though they were not naughty he then wanted to check my phone then it went to wanting me to remove myself from groups forums internet chat then he wanted me to not have any friends and not see my family at the time i saw it normal but its not normal behaviour for a man to want to take everything away that makes their partner happy
and we all know you do nothing wrong coming on here talking to everyone and doing reviews everything you have written is in full view for him to see all i can say is if hes like that with this forum what might he be like in time with other things
I wish you all the best sweetie and i hope that he sees sense
Please get out while you can, my first husband was an emotional control freak, it was all right for him to disappear for days on Benders, but if I mentioned going anywhere, unless shopping it was you never spend time with me ect hugs lots of them.
xmorningxgloryx wrote:
I spoke to my mum about it and she said to say no to him. Actually she said the exact same thing you have all said. I am going to tell him now that I won't do it. So I'm afraid you will all have to put up with me still :P xx
You are brilliant remember we are all here for you, now if he gets worse get rid, your mental happiness is at stake and no I'm not being dramatic ten years ago I was entering ten months of hell in which I wished I'd died on the table during my retina op, four years previous I was heading for a breakdown, please please do not go there yourself xxxxxxx
You're not choosing a website over him. If you haven't gone/don't go, you're choosing not to be bullied into something because of his insecurity. Enormous difference.
He's the one who set up the ultimatum. Please don't reward such childishness.
Thank you so much for all your support. I have spoken to my bestie now and she has said it's the right thing to do too. I don't think I would have been strong enough to stand up to him without everyones encouragement so I really am so greatful. It's this support you all give me that I don't want to give up. I am really dissapointed he's done this though, I really wanted us to last xxx
good , im glad youve stood up to him . i didnt put in my opinion as in a relationship i KNOW how hard it is to see when youre being unfairly manipulated but taht sounds like he was doing exactly that , and as much as you may have wanted/want to last , in the long run this one concession to him would have inevitably led to more demands on his part until it reached a breaking point anyway . youre a great gal from what ive read on here , and yeah , youll miss him and it will hurt but standing up for yorsef when you know youve done nothing wrong IS in no uncertain terms the best thing for you to do xxx
Good girl! Glad your staying. Never let a man control you'd
Just think you've had a lucky escape and I know it doesn't seem that way right now but you have your friends & family & also everyone on this forum! My heart was pounding thinking oh shit she's left! You've done nothing wrong at all. I saw your post about the obsession he had with porn the other day. You are a very strong lady! Chin up and chest out girl. Sending massive hugs!
blonde vixen13 wrote:
Good girl! Glad your staying. Never let a man control you'd
unless you're into that sort of thing ;) lol
Good for you :) If he wants to be with you, he should take you for who you are, and what you like. We're not a seedy forum, we're your friends. Good luck x