Hello
I'd like to start by saying that I'm in a happy relationship and I really do love the girl I'm currently seeing and we're planning on having a baby. But...
2 years ago, I was chatting a lot with a different girl and it had been for months. I thought she was amazing and that she was 'the one'. I had fallen head over heals for her and I would of done anything to be with her. She's intelligent, funny and smoking hot, but she lived a good 100 miles away. The distance wasn't a problem for me because I was more than happy to jump on the train and go see her, which I then did.
That's were things started going downhill. The date we had set up didn't go too well. It was freezing cold so we couldn't go out for long. We sat in a nice little café for a while, killing a bit of time with some conversation, then we moved on to have a meal.
Now, normally I struggle to socialise with people. People have always said that I'm shy, but it's not that. I just don't like talking to people face to face and it takes several meetings for me to really come out my shell. So as you can imagine, I'm sitting opposite this girl who I've pretty much falling in love with, trying my hardest not to blow my chance, so to say that I was nervous is the understatement of the millennium.
Going forward several hours and after saying goodbye, I know that my nervousness had put her off and I'm absolutely devastated. The following months were really hard for me. I would go to work, finish the day then go home and sit there not doing anything, contemplating ending it all. I think it was only the pain that I would have caused my family that stopped me from doing anything. I've always thought suicide was a bit selfish.
But as time went on, things stopped looking so bad. Life went back to normal. Fast forward a few more months and I meet my current girlfriend. I've moved in with her, built a bond with her daughter and things are looking good. But it started going weird this morning.
On the way to work, for some reason I started thinking about all my ex girlfriends (there really aren't that many) but this one girl has just stuck and I've been feeling a storm of emotions.
Now as I've stated earlier, I'm happy in the relationship I'm in at the moment. But I haven't been able to get this girl out my head all day and it's destroying me inside. What the Hell am I supposed to do?
I can't just forget about her and I'm not sure if looking her up on Facebook will be the best idea in the world. Taking to my girlfriend isn't an option, she's always been a bit paranoid because of the large age difference between us and she's been a bit on edge recently.
I really need some help on this. Any and all suggestions welcomed greatly.