It kinda reminds me of the tale of Jack & his mighty bean stalk.
Cleverly disguised as a kids fairytale, it’s actually a coming of age story about a young man and his growing …ahem… “bean stalk”. (Yes it’s a phalic symbol if you didn’t know)
The big giant rumbling and shaking his “beanstalk” represents the monstrous out of control libido of a young man and climbing the beanstalk represents the climb towards orgasm / climax.
Since he lives at home with mum, the story explores the changing dynamic between a mother and son, as he becomes a man, his needs are changing and mum is the main female character of the story so… well it’s a very Freudian take…LOL
Not saying every young man wants to plant his mighty “stalk” in mummys “garden” but Freud believes that kind of thing is the basis of male sexual psychology. It could just be a panty fetish, who knows…
It’s a controversial psychological debate but an interesting one.
Yeah I think you’re being a tad naive, I can’t even imagine how that’d make me feel. You’re almost normalizing the actions, geez a 21 year old adults masturbating into your lingerie n you said yourself that “I wish it had had that effect on my partner” . Aren’t you worried this could be an unhealthy relationship going on n you’re not addressing it, only laughing it off n saying things like “wish my partner reacted like that” ! I find this very concerning in all honesty, almost sounds like you’re enjoying the unhealthy attention n if this is what your son is seeing no wonder he’s confused.
I’m sorry if I come across as harsh n maybe I’ve got this completely wrong but this really needs addressing. A serious chat needs to follow to try n nip this in the bud, you don’t want to encourage this behaviour n the fact you’ve seen him multiple times and allowed it to continue had to stop. Consents huge, how would you feel if another family member came to you feeling violated saying “when your son slept over this weekend I caught him masturbating into my lingerie n am very upset”!
Please address this situation it’s not healthy n I don’t see anything good coming of i it. I agree about going about addressing in a min-judgement way n saying he can have as much lingerie as he wants of his own, not other people’s. However if it’s other people’s he desires there’s a market for that where it’s consenting adults making trades.
Hope you’re all ok
If that was a child of mine masturbating into my lingerie I’d of binned everything, certainly wouldn’t be wearing something I’d seen this happen with regardless of them being washed.
All of this. This is in no way an amusing or flattering situation. Regardless of how open-minded a person is, the behaviour described, given the familial relationship, is very concerning.
In all honestly, when I first read the original post, I did wonder if it had been written by someone getting off on a made-up fantasy of such a scenario (and therefore trolling us all) because it sounded too blasé, almost proud. I’d have been devastated and disgusted but the OP seems quite flattered.
Call me a cynic but I just can’t imagine anyone being so chilled out about if they genuinely caught their grown son masturbating to their underwear unless (in a massive coincidence) they too had a similar fetish. I imagine the gut reaction from the vast majority of people would be absolute revulsion.
I apologise if it did actually happen but I was so struck by the strange, incongruous tone of the post that it definitely set my Spidey senses off.
Thank goodness someone else said it. This thread has been making me a bit uncomfortable and urrrgghh since it was posted.
Sounds like a “story” to me, again could be wrong but as a boy Mum if I discovered this I wouldn’t have aired it this way.
I notice usually someone joins, posts something attention grabbing and doesn’t participate in any other topics if it’s trolling. Sometimes it’s blatant sometimes not so much, and i like to give the benefit of the doubt.
Apologies for making anyone uncomfortable. @WillC appreciate the benefit of the doubt @Alyssa646@DreamsOfChi@Mrs.John I often use humour to soften a difficult conversation, sorry if that came across the wrong way.
I have not seem him do it since I posted so maybe it’s something he got out of his system.
In that case I’m inclined not to say anything.
“Mums the word” is actually a phrase I use alot LOL
