I suggest practising by yourself. Choose an object (teddy bear, etc) and practise saying whatever comes to your mind. Try this a couple of times and you won't feel nearly as awkward when with an actual person!
We'll I tried it tonight.. And it seemed to go down well lol
basically just told him how much he turned me on, told him he could do whatever he wanted to me, and how much I loved his... You know...
it seemed to do the trick LOL
I still felt a bit silly and awkward but I guess it means we just need to practise. A lot. Every day ;)
Fluffbags wrote:
Ohhh I have this problem. Seriously, I spend most of my day thinking, talking, writing about sex, sex toys, sexuality and I can't dirty talk! lol
I have got a lot better at this recently by discovering that when I thought of dirty talk, I was thinking of it in the porno sense. Whenever a guy has talked dirty to me it was always the cruder the better in his opinion, I think. but it didn't do much for me.
Then I figured out that I don't have to unload a trail of swear words to be dirty talking. Thing is, with those words, you only have a certain amount to choose from and they get old quick. I now think of it as "Thinking out loud" rather than "dirty talking" and realise it can be so much hotter to sit and say things that are not outright rude or vulgar.
We have a little BDSM element going on, and me being in control helped me massively to start speaking. Like these ideas:
Asking questions:
Do you like it when I.....
How does it feel when...
Would you like me to put this in your...
And what would you like me to do to you....
Do you want me to touch you riiiiiight......here?
Demands:
Lay still
Shut up
Bend over
Beg me
Teasing or 'flippant' remarks:
You have/you are making my ...(Dick/nipples hard, pussy wet)
I bet you would love if if I just slid my fingers/tongue.....down.....here (Tracing your fingers downwards)....Oops, nope, maybe next time!
Well, don't you look cute all tied up and waiting. I like it. Maybe I should make you wait more!
Getting them to talk dirty to you (Genius!!)
Tell me what you want me to do to you
Tell me how it feels when I do.....this
What does it feel like inside my.....
You want to fuck me? Oh, Okay.....Tell me why you want to fuck me and I will think about it.
Describing the situation:
Do you know how much I love it when I see your....or when I hear you....or when I feel you.......(Insert whatever...throb, twitch, get wet, moan etc)
Its so hot watching you....
Every time I kiss you I feel your...
Etc etc. Then maybe when it gets more intense you can add a little more of the porno style "Yeh yeh fuck me ohhh yesssss" chat in there too.
I am still not great at talking dirty, but I just try to avoid talking dirty and aim for "Tease the crap out of him with some choice words and demands instead" method! lol
This is one of the BEST posts I have ever read on here! I hope you dont mind if i print this out and hand ot over to the OH ?!
The dirtiest thing anyone has ever said to me was by a girlfriend who bent over a table, looked over her shoulder and said "Do me"
Yep we love it. Mainly hubby likes to tell me what I slut I am and naughty etc...I like to tell him what I'd like to do to other people. He loves it, and so do I ;) x
Whats the dirtiest thing you have said and at the beginning are you cautious what to say
Just Jenson wrote:
Fluffbags wrote:
Ohhh I have this problem. Seriously, I spend most of my day thinking, talking, writing about sex, sex toys, sexuality and I can't dirty talk! lol
I have got a lot better at this recently by discovering that when I thought of dirty talk, I was thinking of it in the porno sense. Whenever a guy has talked dirty to me it was always the cruder the better in his opinion, I think. but it didn't do much for me.
Then I figured out that I don't have to unload a trail of swear words to be dirty talking. Thing is, with those words, you only have a certain amount to choose from and they get old quick. I now think of it as "Thinking out loud" rather than "dirty talking" and realise it can be so much hotter to sit and say things that are not outright rude or vulgar.
We have a little BDSM element going on, and me being in control helped me massively to start speaking. Like these ideas:
Asking questions:
Do you like it when I.....
How does it feel when...
Would you like me to put this in your...
And what would you like me to do to you....
Do you want me to touch you riiiiiight......here?
Demands:
Lay still
Shut up
Bend over
Beg me
Teasing or 'flippant' remarks:
You have/you are making my ...(Dick/nipples hard, pussy wet)
I bet you would love if if I just slid my fingers/tongue.....down.....here (Tracing your fingers downwards)....Oops, nope, maybe next time!
Well, don't you look cute all tied up and waiting. I like it. Maybe I should make you wait more!
Getting them to talk dirty to you (Genius!!)
Tell me what you want me to do to you
Tell me how it feels when I do.....this
What does it feel like inside my.....
You want to fuck me? Oh, Okay.....Tell me why you want to fuck me and I will think about it.
Describing the situation:
Do you know how much I love it when I see your....or when I hear you....or when I feel you.......(Insert whatever...throb, twitch, get wet, moan etc)
Its so hot watching you....
Every time I kiss you I feel your...
Etc etc. Then maybe when it gets more intense you can add a little more of the porno style "Yeh yeh fuck me ohhh yesssss" chat in there too.
I am still not great at talking dirty, but I just try to avoid talking dirty and aim for "Tease the crap out of him with some choice words and demands instead" method! lol
This is one of the BEST posts I have ever read on here! I hope you dont mind if i print this out and hand ot over to the OH ?!
I don't mind at all xx
I just want to say. Thanks fluffbags :-)
Wow. You are welcome. I did not realise my post was so helpful lol. I may have to jot this down and blog about it at a later date. Thank you for feedback people xxx
P51 wrote:
The dirtiest thing anyone has ever said to me was by a girlfriend who bent over a table, looked over her shoulder and said "Do me"
I love saying this to a bf
Mammame wrote:
...I like to tell him what I'd like to do to other people. He loves it, and so do I ;) x
Another good one I enjoy sayin to a bf
Love love love talkin dirty, only thing is it makes the oh cum much quicker then im left hanging and frustrated, lol
I think it's a sign of a deep sexual connection between you and your lover when you feel both confident and aroused enough to say dirty things to each other during sex.
Sometimes I feel too shy. Other times it feels too contrived. But when you naturally get it right, it's very powerful. Just a well-timed and spontaneous "fuck me" can be enough.
A very interesting thread. Up until a little while ago, my bedroom sounds were restricted to "ooo" "mmmm" "yessss" "oh god!"
I tried the whole dirty talk, and just to lay it out a little it was with an ex who had handcuffed me etc before, and he said he'd enjoyed it, so it happened to slip out...I was on top and bent down and whispered "I want you to tie me up and fuck me, I'm yours"
Now, take out the tie me up, and turns out he loved it. Instead of a positive reaction, HE STOPPED and went "oh...er...I don't really want to do that now, I just like this"
Not the best reaction!
Very helpful post though Fluffbags :)
I love hearing it but the wife is a little reserved. When she does its a real turn on.
Just bumping this. Classic good info from Fluffbags!
everyone should read this post!
I love really dirty talk, particularly when it speaks to my submissive side. I turn me on enormously it when my lover orders me around in very crude term, and I enjoy referring to myself with extremely derogatory words.
It's only very recently, with my current lover, that I have been able to relax enough to be able to talk dirty; earlier it would have made me feel more vulnerable. I was not easy to start, but now I can spew out obscenities like a champion.
we love dirty talk, at first we felt really uncomfortable but the more we have experimented with things introducing toys, new lingerie etc it came naturally.