Do you talk Dirty?

Sex Tips & Talk
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The one thing I love about my husband, is that despite alot of his quirks and his uncertainty when it comes to sex and sex toys, he is willing to give things the old college try. Me on the other hand, have always been very.. free spirited shall we say.. so most things don't phase me.. .

except dirty talk.

I can write about dirty stuff, I love doing dirty stuff... but when we get down to it, and my OH is whispering naughty things in my ear.. I can't help myself but giggle and think it sounds so corny, cheesey and like i'm in a bad porno.

It's really good to see him trying new things, especially as in the past he's been quite prudish, but thanks to LH and the wonderful toys on offer, he's certainly getting as open as I am. But this has stumped me.

I cannot do it. And anything I do say just sounds laughable but I know he finds the idea of me talking dirty to him quite a turn on, but I just can't do it! What on earth do I do?

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Read erotica before! That's what's helped me. So I have a few 'stories' in my head and I make us the main people. He loves it. Even if I repeat it he loves it. I've had some awkward mind blanks before bt not since I tried that (on the advice from someone from LH, when I joined and posted a similar kinda thread!) xx

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Ohhh I have this problem. Seriously, I spend most of my day thinking, talking, writing about sex, sex toys, sexuality and I can't dirty talk! lol

I have got a lot better at this recently by discovering that when I thought of dirty talk, I was thinking of it in the porno sense. Whenever a guy has talked dirty to me it was always the cruder the better in his opinion, I think. but it didn't do much for me.

Then I figured out that I don't have to unload a trail of swear words to be dirty talking. Thing is, with those words, you only have a certain amount to choose from and they get old quick. I now think of it as "Thinking out loud" rather than "dirty talking" and realise it can be so much hotter to sit and say things that are not outright rude or vulgar.

We have a little BDSM element going on, and me being in control helped me massively to start speaking. Like these ideas:

Asking questions:

Do you like it when I.....

How does it feel when...

Would you like me to put this in your...

And what would you like me to do to you....

Do you want me to touch you riiiiiight......here?

Demands:

Lay still

Shut up

Bend over

Beg me

Teasing or 'flippant' remarks:

You have/you are making my ...(Dick/nipples hard, pussy wet)

I bet you would love if if I just slid my fingers/tongue.....down.....here (Tracing your fingers downwards)....Oops, nope, maybe next time!

Well, don't you look cute all tied up and waiting. I like it. Maybe I should make you wait more!

Getting them to talk dirty to you (Genius!!)

Tell me what you want me to do to you

Tell me how it feels when I do.....this

What does it feel like inside my.....

You want to fuck me? Oh, Okay.....Tell me why you want to fuck me and I will think about it.

Describing the situation:

Do you know how much I love it when I see your....or when I hear you....or when I feel you.......(Insert whatever...throb, twitch, get wet, moan etc)

Its so hot watching you....

Every time I kiss you I feel your...

Etc etc. Then maybe when it gets more intense you can add a little more of the porno style "Yeh yeh fuck me ohhh yesssss" chat in there too.

I am still not great at talking dirty, but I just try to avoid talking dirty and aim for "Tease the crap out of him with some choice words and demands instead" method! lol

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Wow fluffs... I'd best start doing my homework!

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Im not great at dirty talk. Id love my wife to do it more often but she feels a little self conscious. Its hard not to sound corny. I will try some of fluffbags suggestions though

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It's not something I would be any good at as every other word would be a swear word. Blame that on the Irish blood in me.

But I like it when the oh does it.

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Even though it sounds like a cheesy porno my husban loves when I talk about his "huge throbbing cock, filling up my little wet pussy." Sometimes making the dirty talk can make or break an ordinary encounter to the extraordinary encounter. Everyone's OH likes to know they are pleasing you! I am a squirter, and had figured out how I control my orgasms so we can cum together, but I can also make it happen on command because my kegels have done me justice! Sometimes telling them how it feels is just what they want, or you tell them what you want... "Bend me over and fuck me as hard as you can doggy style and don't you dare stop until I cum twice" sometimes giving commands and telling them they can't cum until you have adds to the lovely toe curling orgasms because they hold and hold. I have found some of my best sessions are when I tell him my feelings my sensations and my wants, as well as commanding. It's ok to sound like a cheesy porno, if it makes them hot now they will remember it fondly later ;)

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The things that mak me think cheesy porno are repetition of the same line, excessive dirty talking or blatant attempts to recreate a scene.

The repetition drives me crazy and is one of the things that cause me to shy away from pornography, the creepiest is when the male says it 3 or 4 times without a pause. It is pretty typical for the female to have one or two 'i am gtting fucked so hard' lines which they use all through the a scene which spoils the mood fast.

There is only so much dirty talking before its stops being about what is happening in a bedroom and a conversation. We are supposed to be having sex and there are only so many things you can say that are naturally inspired by the situation. So if your talking alot you either have a script (weird) or ...

are more interested in your own words, perhaps becausee they take you to a different place, or change the situation for you... change it into a cheesy porno mabe. I don't know, but I will have lost interest.

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I agree with Stacey in that, if you are going to talk a lot, you best make sure your partner gets off on that, because some people don't. My partner loves hearing me talk, but I don't really enjoy being dirty talked at. I find it distracting.

I disagree with the "There is only so much dirty talking before it stops being about what is happening and becomes a conversation" because, if this were true, phone sex and cyber sex would not be so thrilling to people. They are thrilling though, because words stimulate the imagination and get people fired up. There are definitely people out there for whom, the more chat there is, the better. I think if you only use so much actual porny sweary vulgar dirty talk, and focus more on teasing words, describing fantasies and putting naughty images into the other persons head throughout, it is kinda hot. I must admit that I have noticed talking throughout is more prevalent in situations like BDSM, where the dom/me will use words to control the situation and have the sub eating out of their hands, or will tease them or mock them with words, but I guess these situations, with chat throughout the sex, really work for some people. It just isn't for everyone.

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I love when my other half is in the mood for dirty talk as it usualy leads to more fun and naughty sex. It also makes me feel she is comfertable with me.

I think the main focus is on building up the dirty talk as you get into it, more dirtier towards the end near climax.

as for fluffs suggestions, "Tell me what you want me to do to you" is some of the sexiest words that can come out my oh's mouth along with "have me however you want".

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Fluffbags wrote:

Ohhh I have this problem. Seriously, I spend most of my day thinking, talking, writing about sex, sex toys, sexuality and I can't dirty talk! lol

I have got a lot better at this recently by discovering that when I thought of dirty talk, I was thinking of it in the porno sense. Whenever a guy has talked dirty to me it was always the cruder the better in his opinion, I think. but it didn't do much for me.

Then I figured out that I don't have to unload a trail of swear words to be dirty talking. Thing is, with those words, you only have a certain amount to choose from and they get old quick. I now think of it as "Thinking out loud" rather than "dirty talking" and realise it can be so much hotter to sit and say things that are not outright rude or vulgar.

We have a little BDSM element going on, and me being in control helped me massively to start speaking. Like these ideas:

Asking questions:

Do you like it when I.....

How does it feel when...

Would you like me to put this in your...

And what would you like me to do to you....

Do you want me to touch you riiiiiight......here?

Demands:

Lay still

Shut up

Bend over

Beg me

Teasing or 'flippant' remarks:

You have/you are making my ...(Dick/nipples hard, pussy wet)

I bet you would love if if I just slid my fingers/tongue.....down.....here (Tracing your fingers downwards)....Oops, nope, maybe next time!

Well, don't you look cute all tied up and waiting. I like it. Maybe I should make you wait more!

Getting them to talk dirty to you (Genius!!)

Tell me what you want me to do to you

Tell me how it feels when I do.....this

What does it feel like inside my.....

You want to fuck me? Oh, Okay.....Tell me why you want to fuck me and I will think about it.

Describing the situation:

Do you know how much I love it when I see your....or when I hear you....or when I feel you.......(Insert whatever...throb, twitch, get wet, moan etc)

Its so hot watching you....

Every time I kiss you I feel your...

Etc etc. Then maybe when it gets more intense you can add a little more of the porno style "Yeh yeh fuck me ohhh yesssss" chat in there too.

I am still not great at talking dirty, but I just try to avoid talking dirty and aim for "Tease the crap out of him with some choice words and demands instead" method! lol

Omg that is sooo helpful hun! I am so shy when it comes to talking dirty but I know my man would love it if I could. I need to try and memorise everything you have just wrote lol! xx

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I managed to squeek out omething like "naghty girl" once when Mrs Kebert was shuddering away after taking the wand off me.

She didnt here.

Its not been repeated.

In short, no.

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I'd love to dirty talk more often with my boyfriend but it is rather cheesy, the only time we do is durin role play xx

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I have a few phrases but need some new ones, some great ideas here...

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ive always , like the OP found it feels like a forced cheap porno line whenever ive tried , its just not my style , i dont mind if my partner says stuff to me .. id just rather not talk BACK to them .

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Love it and love it being said to me . I love Fluff great work saving that

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KinkyFuckery wrote:

Love it and love it being said to me . I love Fluff great work saving that

lol youve seen the balls i coume out with on here KF .. can you imagin if i started chuntering away during sex ??!! it would end up SUCH a palarva .. i KNOW id unintentionally make it a comedy sketch . MOOD KILLA !

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Im the same as Fluff cant stand it whilst having sex as i find it distracting but equally texting can be fun and i can sex text but once it comes to doing it in the bedroom i get kinda nervous but my partner really does love it when i do.

If im really horny or had a drink i can go with it other wise i know what to say but i just cant get the words out.

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I find it kind of hard sometimes and like others in here it feels a bit forced but thanks to Fluffbags post i think i'll try it some more. Thanks Fluff

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i love taking dirty to my oh and she loves it just as much, i enjoy being talked to dirty also