I find since finding here I am becoming more open and expressive with sex / foreplay and fun. Prior to here I wouldn't say I was prude but embarrassed about myself physically and emotionally and taken time to unwind. I still have a lot to learn and realise but reviews being done hahah and learning a lot. Can't wait to see what next I learn Anyone else felt sex to be taboo and how did you overcome it?
I've always said to new members "ask ANYTHING " you won't be judged yes some subjects may be off limits eg anything with animals but generally you'll only get honest answers even if you don't agree? I like a fist up my bum , would you dare ask if anyone 'else' likes it too implying say you might, but just ask don't worry.
Many sexual subjects are taboo. I was never vocal about sex until I joined this forum, now I can speak of it as if it were a game of golf. Nothing to worry about, everyone has their own quirks so feel free to ask anything without judgement 😘
I think the anonymity of being online really helps. You can pour your heart out or admit your deepest darkest desires and not have to worry about looking anyone in the eye. I also think that a lot of knowledge gets shared on this forum and learning more about anything makes your feel more comfortable talking about it. Everyone here is a nice bunch so you don’t get the personal attacks that you can get elsewhere online (i know it’s a rule but some rules you see get broken semi regularly [and dealt with excellently by Leanne, Jess and other Lovehoney staff], whereas this one doesn’t seem to all that much). People tend to stay out of the conversations they aren’t comfortable with.
Depends on the person I think. Some are very open about sex, some aren’t. I think it also depends how they view sex and how open minded they are to new ideas. Some people are very traditional in their thinking and some people are very kinky. I do think that being around other open minded people on this forum can help people become more inclined to try new things or accept that other people like and enjoy them though. I love that there’s no kink shaming on this forum :)
I never felt sex to be taboo, but certain topics were, certain kinks were. I do struggle at times to talk about certain kinks - I think it is because the taboo is so ingrained in polite society that there is still (for me) an overriding process to be done. That is one of the reasons I started writing blog posts - to help me to become more comfortable about discussing certain topics. My husband and I do literally talk about anything, and being on here (first as a lurker, and more recently as a participant) has helped me a lot.
There are some good posts on here, regarding some people being possibly shy & others being more open about things ? But, the main consensus is that, on this Forum, you can ask any question or seek any helpful information, on anything, without being judged, which to me, is the most important thing.
I find it really nice to be able to read through some of the topics, not necessarily joining in, but getting answers or information on something which could be on my mind ?. It is the same, when it comes to people's reviews & opinions on the items we buy from Lovehoney.
Without the input, we see on Lovehoney Forum, most people might struggle to make an informed decision on their query ? So, to ALL Forum members, thankyou for your input, helpful recommendations & info etc...............it's nice to see people care about others........Keep It Up..May It Long Continue !!
I think it depends heavily on your surroudings, who you're talking to etc. This forum is a fantastic place to let it all out and seek advice on topics that in "real life" may not be deemed acceptable to ask. Finding comunities and similar like-minded people is super comforting (and super super fun) and it's something I've opened myself up to. I now have plenty of friends who I can talk openly with, discuss kinks, ask for advice on certain sexual topics etc, however I'm aware which friends, colleagues etc aren't so open and so conversation stays clean.
I believe in most situations it’s fine to be quite open about sex and sexual practices, but just be aware of people around you. Some find the talk of sex to be embarrassing or stressful and that can be upsetting. So in real life I’m open and happy to help and discuss things with friends, but I’ll always test waters with new friends and strangers. Online I’m happy to discuss whatever with anyone and I feel on this forum it’s safe to be open about everything and anything, as long as it’s legal and safe then it’s fine to discuss. Even if it seems embarrassing, we’ve all been in situations and dealt with things in a vast number of ways so sometimes it’s best to be more open and get the answers your looking for. Iv been here for over 10 years and I was very quiet at the start but over time Iv learnt that sex is just human nature and we all like different things. I’d never shame anyone for what they believe or enjoy, just because one person doesn’t like another persons kink or preference it shouldn’t matter. We’re all really accepting here.
I agree that anonymity is very important. It can, I think, be particularly difficult to discuss sex with friends especially ones of long-standing. A very good friend of mine had a prostate op. some years ago and, from some of his off-hand remarks, it was clear he was suffering the ED issues that commonly result from such ops. Having had some similar issues myself I thought it might help him if I sent him some links to (slightly kinky) ideas that I had found helpful. I felt it important that he didn't think I was just being needlessly nosy about his problems so mentioned that I could vouch for the effectiveness of the ideas.
From the email that came back he was clearly totally shocked and horrified by them and I felt I was diminished in his eyes for what I was prepared to get up to! We are still good friends but the topic has never been raised since.
As they say - no good turn goes unpunished.
I agree with anonymous and people being unaware who I am - I mean my best friend could be a user on here but we couldn't face to face speak about what we do on here - especially knowing our relationships partners etc. I have learnt so much from here so far and it's great to find out more
It'll come as no surprise that I'll happily talk to anyone about anything. 🙂
Hell yes there is. It depends on your confidence really. Some happy to talk about anything some will not even talk about sex full stop.
I do find it quite funy though for years I kept my love of **REMOVED OFFENSIVE WORD** transgender porn (not meaning to offend with the first word as I know some do not like it - THEN PLEASE DO NOT USE IT - MODERATOR). Finally admitted it to my wife after years in the last six months and now don't bother with it.
I’ve never felt confident talking about anything sexual.
Hahah your part of the furniture here I think lolIan Chimp wrote:
It'll come as no surprise that I'll happily talk to anyone about anything. 🙂
Cb1987 wrote:
Hahah your part of the furniture here I think lolIan Chimp wrote:
It'll come as no surprise that I'll happily talk to anyone about anything. 🙂
I think I'm still considered rather new round here, so if I had to describe myself as a part of furniture I think I'd be something amusing but easily replaceable, like a unicorn-themed throw cushion. Or maybe one of those cheap pound-shop shoe racks that looks like it'll be useful but it actually turns out to be far more trouble than its worth. 🙂
Hahahaha love it maybe as we relatively new too lollIan Chimp wrote:
Cb1987 wrote:
Hahah your part of the furniture here I think lolIan Chimp wrote:
It'll come as no surprise that I'll happily talk to anyone about anything. 🙂
I think I'm still considered rather new round here, so if I had to describe myself as a part of furniture I think I'd be something amusing but easily replaceable, like a unicorn-themed throw cushion. Or maybe one of those cheap pound-shop shoe racks that looks like it'll be useful but it actually turns out to be far more trouble than its worth. 🙂
Think it depends on the situation. As many have said already that the use of forums/internet chat rooms where you can express yourself without fear has helped people find out if their particular link is taboo or not.
there will always remain the social taboo topics (animals/kids/incest (to some extent, seeing lots of stories online based on it)) that will remain taboo, but as a whole becoming more tolerant of the topics that were once considered tabo o.
just my thoughts on it.
I have found most subjects raised you don't get judged on and honestly advice given and opinions now which is good
I'm happy to talk about anything to anybody, but I guess I moderate myself according to the other person, as i don't like to unnecessarily offend people. Sometimes I might push a bit, but only of I sense there's something that a person needs to say, but hasn't quite plucked up the courage. I do find that most people (in the outside world) are much more reticent than I am. I'm just as open out there as I am on here.