Dominant wives comparing notes

Hi I am fairly new to this but my husband is currently in Chasity and I am looking for some tips on games I can play with him.

I really like this subject but don't have any experience to offer. You could drive him crazy by dressing up in some kinky atire pvc maybe,get him really worked up by certain acts, but don't relieve him. And if he asks for it, a few spanks but nooo sex, until you know he cant contain himself anymore.
Im sorry if that's not much help. I've no experience there, I'm sure you'll get some fantastic suggestions from other members. *♡*xx

I agree with Slinky tease and denial .Dress very sexily to show what he's missing ..If he touches you punish appropriately !

Teasing him is a great way to make him appreciate being in chasity, but also make sure you praise him for doing well :)

Well he has given me ideas as to what he likes, which helps massively I have also read a couple of posts on here in regards to the journal he loves the humiliation of me reading it. We came up with a system with dice that basically helps me with the amount of days he is in Chasity so it doesn't make me feel horrible if he completes those amount of days he gets to cum however if he argues back with me about something I make him role the dice again and he has to complete his remaining days plus the added extra from the dice depends on the situation as to what he gets.

Basically I think it is sexy as hell and seeing how horny he gets is a massive turn on I'm just not use to doing it but love what it does to him. I would love to hear of different ways in which to tease him and drive him crazy.

Well if you want a guy's perspective (I've never been in chastity, but would love to try), I'd want to be tormented!

Straddle him naked and grind yourself against his cage, maybe insert the tip inside you (but he won't be able to feel it). Or tie him to a chair, and make him watch you masturbate. When you've cum, just get dressed and release him. He'll be sobbing inside!

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I agree with the above . You know better than us what your guys favourite teases and touches are. Just do what comes naturally in your for play ,except keep in in chastity .

Do sexy striptease for him , that would get me going and knowing I couldn't finish my woman off .

As a bloke who is in chastity a lot of the time I know what does it for me - not sure if your OH would like the same but here goes:-

I love it when she wears stockings and short skirt and give me the ocassional flash.

It's a huge turn on when she rides me, rubbing herself against the cage until she cums

We recently bought a strap on face gag & dildo - It's something else when she rides that and I'm so close to her watching it slide in and out

Edging - when she takes the cage off and brings me to the verge of cumming & then stops. She will do this for about 15-20 mins and then put the cage back on. If I'm lucky sjhe's restraind me too.

This all might be a bit extreame for you both but there are plenty of chastity websites out there which hacve other ideas

Ever since I met my wife we've played orgasm denial games. Although we've only recently discovered cages and similar toys.

It all started with a porn movie, where the man was strictly instructed to only cum when he was told to.

What she discovered is that this allowed her to orgasm until satisfied and then tell me to cum. Which worked for both of us. What took a bit more convincing was that for me an orgasm was a rather abrupt end to the pleasure. Being tormented and frustrated is bizarrely enjoyable.

It did take her some time to fully embrace the idea, but now finds my frustration erotic.

Our play isn't chastity, it's about me being denied until she sees fit to let me orgasm and the more she teases and torments, the more fun we have.

When caged, one of her favourites is for me to massage her back, while she masturbates.

So the other day whilst playing I guess I wound him up a bit to much and he made a mess which was naughty.
So due to this I made him get my paddle out and wait on his hands and knees naked upstairs for me to come up which I totally dragged out by about 40 minutes .

When I finally went up OMG what a yummy sight.
I delivered 6 beautiful spanks to each butt cheek which made it a delicious shade of red by the time it was over I made him thank me for the treatment and stood up after I said he could I could see that he was embarrassed and horny as hell.

Well let's just I had a fantastic time that night and if that's the reaction I am going to get hell yes to spanking.

Only thing being it seemed to be over to fast does anyone have any ideas how I can drag this out to add to the fun for both of us.

shelby14 wrote:

So the other day whilst playing I guess I wound him up a bit to much and he made a mess which was naughty.
So due to this I made him get my paddle out and wait on his hands and knees naked upstairs for me to come up which I totally dragged out by about 40 minutes .

When I finally went up OMG what a yummy sight.
I delivered 6 beautiful spanks to each butt cheek which made it a delicious shade of red by the time it was over I made him thank me for the treatment and stood up after I said he could I could see that he was embarrassed and horny as hell.

Well let's just I had a fantastic time that night and if that's the reaction I am going to get hell yes to spanking.

Only thing being it seemed to be over to fast does anyone have any ideas how I can drag this out to add to the fun for both of us.

Introduce corner time and make him stand in a corner with his nose against the wall like a naughty school kid if you like.When you think he has had long enough summon him back and make him stand to attention in front of you. Then walk around him and drag your paddle over his body. .cup his under carriage with your paddle but be careful! You could also gently spank his manhood as well .Then carry on with his paddling. You can always split his punishment up with more corn er time which will lengthen your session. Just make sure perhaps over drinks before you have the session that there isn't anything there that will freak him out. I have done a similar session on the Mrs during a student/teacher scenario so I know it does work

Good luck .

That sounds awesome but it's not him I'm worried about it's me he loves it all and it's still new to me

shelby14 wrote:

That sounds awesome but it's not him I'm worried about it's me he loves it all and it's still new to me

Just keep calm and introduce it in small steps .Perhaps have some drinks before to help settle any nerves.My Mrs will be doing that when do the Headmistress roleplay sometime. I don't know who is more nervous me or her ! She usually plays the sub and me the dominant. So its a big change for both of us!

Sometimes a new outfit can add to your confidence. Perhaps black themed lingerie .Don't forget new routines are  exciting as well.

Another tip is when he is not around practise barking orders in a mirror. What your looking for is to be sexy but strict at the same time.

Go on you can do it !

What's more if I can do it so can you. And I am truly bricking it as I have never been dominated properly before and endure a bit of humiliation at the same time. I am usually the one dishing it out.

So no excuses ! Lol

This is great advice just about to try out something else should be fun