Boyf and I have been talking about and arranging threesomes since we met last August. Had one threesome, amazing! But would have liked a deeper connection with the woman.
How do you organise meeting beforehand? Or do you prefer to just meet for sex?
The first woman we met separately, then had a group chat and met for the first time all together for sex. I think it would be fun to meet as a three for the first time too, interested to see the flirty dynamics of them getting to know each other too.
Do any of you who unicorn like to meet a couple together at first or each individual separately?
I joined a swinging site and meet couple’s and ladies from there, albeit in swingers clubs for my safety and if they’re no show’s, I can still enjoy an evening socialising. It’s not for everyone, but it’s what works for me.
Different things work for different people, so it’s about experimenting and seeing what works for you.
I’ve been part of a couple and the single female in that situation (as well as mmf situations too). I’ve had mixed results with meeting together and separately as well as meeting for just a social chat, a social chat with the possibility of going further and meeting just for sex.
Meeting a couple separately helps me establish if I have enough of a connection with each of them, but meeting them together also gives me an insight to their reactions to each other and me (ie are they annoyed with flirting or is one of them clearly the one driving this).
I think it’s definitely wise to do everything together in this type of situation. Hopefully this will prevent the other person potentially feeling left out or jealous or like they are missing out on something.
Myself and OH joke about threesomes as we’re building up to wed to get us both hornier. I’ve never had a threesome before! I’d love to try one at some point, but not sure what I’d like more to be honest, another man or woman. Think I’d have to speak to the OH and see what she would like.
I have had 2 threesomes with different people and both times we have just met for sex. I am currently planning a 5 person orgy (for once lockdown is over) and we are making a gc so we can all chat little beforehand.
I’m not sure how old you are but were all 19 years old so love a good group chat but I suppose if it’s just 3 of you then maybe meeting up for a drink just to get to know each other a little better. But knowing me if I did that we would just end up having sex after a few drinks.
We always meet as a couple. We’ve experienced mainly MMF threesomes and the odd MMMF. In this instance we mostly just meet for the sex. These meets are just about our F being a greedy girl and craving lots of attention. Any couples we’ve met, we meet socially first, ensure there is some sort of attraction/dynamic for all involved and then discuss the options of meeting up once we know we are all happy. We’ve yet to experience the MFF threesome. Our F is slightly bi curious so it will happen one day, but no rush.
Obviously with the C word going on at the moment any play time is on hold.
Personally never had a threesome but did once somehow get involved in a gangbang about 8 years ago by chance. OH has had a few threesomes and moresome meets before we got together and loved them.
We signed up to a swingers site just before covid hit so other than camming or chatting not had chance to take it any further.
I haven’t had anything that I would necessarily call jealousy as such but I’ve definitely had some odd interactions with couples.
My very first time with a couple ended up not happening after the wife changed her mind on the day, before I actually met her (she actually said she wasn’t feeling well but I’m not sure I believe that). She insisted me and her husband still spend the time together (they played together or separately). Nothing happened between me and him as she left us feeling really awkward. When she came back she was pretty hostile towards me (I’d offered to rearrange etc and definitely wasn’t forcing the issue). They were experienced swingers so not really sure what happened. I’d had more interaction with him though so it did leave me feeling that I needed to speak with both parties properly.
If you are unsure about it then you both not ready yet. Both of you have to 100% with any situation you enter, if not questions will be asked thoughts will consume you and I’m sure you see where I’m going ?
Talk about why you both want the 3 way to happen in depth.
If the green eyed monster could show up at any time don’t go there it will ruin what you have. Just my little bit on the subject
Hope all goes well if you go ahead. Post about it if you do
, I’m sure more than just me would like to hear about it ?
@AWB1955 you won’t find much at the moment as swingers events aren’t happening right now.
Probably better to wait until everything has, settled down a bit then start looking.
You might find some info on the fabswingers website.
The unicorn thing is an odd one, because I know so many women who love the term, and so many women who hate it because it feels fetishized. Some want to own their status and some want to just have threesomes. The swinging world is so very complex at times
See my husband hates the term swinging but what we were discussing last night basically involves us going abroad , going out to a sex club and if a girl were to approach us to allow her to do whatever she wanted with either and both of us. He wasn’t happy with a man being involved at all.
So what would she be ?
I’m happy with his new ideas as beforehand he wasn’t keen on involving anyone else to play as he said it could ruin the marriage but I’d be absolutely fine with seeing him with another woman, it’s quite exciting considering it ! He was just ok with that other woman being with me so long as he got to join in …
He explained how far he’d be happy with me going whereas I gave him green lights to it ALL.
So basically MFF but it’s not swinging is it ? It’s a threesome yet it seems most likely to happen at what is deemed as a swingers bar.
Personally I just call it all fun or play, I’m not big on the word swinging and only really use it in the context of actual swingers groups. Outside of it I still stick to threesome. But then my dynamics are very detached from the notion of being a couple, having the third person be an addition etc. I and my subs/boyfriend just look for friends and people we’re close to who are open minded to be a third. It’s all very laid back and casual and platonic to the point we don’t even bother with any sort of terminology. That’s just us though.
