Being in hospitality am usually working weekends and holidays which seems that’s when most events happen
Perhaps just stop looking someone will come along when its meant to be ?
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Have you asked co-workers in your situation what they do for a social life and for a relationship?
People house-share and work 12 hour shifts and manage to find time for both. It’s a juggle but can be done.
Good Luck
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Thanks going to need it 
Also what is best way to ask a friend or a friend of a friend that’s single if they’re ok doing it in a way that’ll get you a yes and incase chance
And it is a lot harder when working when everyone else has off however is not impossible but it’s a lot harder, what could be done until you can work closer to normal hours and/or work your own hours
Best abstain from feeding trolls.
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Hello @daisy202027 . I’m a little confused to whether you’re after a relationship with someone or just sex? I’m medically retired now but used to work shifts and over all the stat holidays (was a nurse) so never got to meet people socially at parties. I was also very shy in my younger years. Hubby and I met through online dating (as did 2 of my sisters), so if you are after a relationship, then online dating worked for us… though we are going back nearly 20yrs and some of your dating aps today seem to be more about hook ups for sex only but it all depends what you’re really after. I wish you luck, it can be very hard socialising and trying to start conversations with people you’re interested in. However asking if they want to go out for a drink sometime may be all it take. Good luck 
What else could you do until you can work your own hours or closer to normal hours
How do you start conversations and how do you ask and get a yes
You get what you pay for. If he you go for the cheaper options in relation to escorts expect to meet some dodgy people and potentially catch some infections. If you go for a cheap dating website, the same, but also don’t expect security to be great.
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I said it before and I’ll say it again! Only YOU can make changes happen, we can suggest but if you keep finding obstacles in those suggestions, there’s not much anyone can do.
If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting - in life and in these posts!
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What is it exactly that you are looking for @daisy202027 ? Is it a sexual relationship or a friendship or even a relationship? You haven’t been very clear only saying that you want to hang out with girls and where to hang out. If you can tell us exactly what you are looking for and expecting out of it maybe we can offer you the right advice.
If you are looking for friendships then I would say at the gym or hobbies/ clubs etc but if you’re after something sexual or dating then online or out in bars or even friends of friends would be your best bet.
I suspect English is not your first language, but your list of requirements comes across as impersonal and creepy to be honest. Women are human beings and not souless automatons there to provide you with “the girlfriend experience” .Also copying and pasting the same topic and keep reposting it as if new, and expecting different answers is pointless.
Working in hospitality should make it easier to meet people not harder.
If people in other professions that entail long unsociable hours can form relationships, so can you if you if you stop thinking of them as some product to provide you with an experience.
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Sounds like you really want a friend with benefits or straight up a girlfriend, so have you considered joining up on any dating apps to see if you connect with anyone through that?
Alternatively try seeing if there’s any social groups in your area to make friends and see if it flourishes.
For a short answer there isn’t an easy route to take other than actively finding the real thing. Escorts might be a quick fix but realistically remember it’s a job for them and they’re paid to be whoever you want them to be regardless of feelings or real connection.
First of all I would suggest you stop looking for a girl with just the intention of sex. You did mention doing some social activities but it does appear sex is the first port of call when looking for a girl.
As a “Boomer” as you class us-Hate that term-We would meet partners by going to night clubs, parties, social drinks, meeting other people through friends, work colleagues, meeting through different clubs. Before the internet that was the only way, it was difficult but worked well. I used to worked 12 plus hr shifts and still managed to date women, I am sure you can.
You can try a dating app nowadays or one of those online dating agencies, which are used by a lot of people who find it hard to meet other people in a social setting. There are also dating sites that cater for people who want to meet to full fill certain sexual experiences but they are hit and miss as to how genuine those sites are, google will help you if you do some research.
If you opt for a dating site then go in wanting to find a g/friend first and foremost, sexual fun will come along when it’s time and it does take time be patient.
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I know it’s already been suggested but I think the idea of going an online route makes a lot of sense. You can be upfront and detailed about what you are looking for and ensure that anyone that shows interest knows exactly the situation to cut down the amount of time you waste pursuing something that might not come to fruition. This also means that, with Covid concerns, you only have to meet people when you’re fairly sure it’s worth your time.
Do want a girlfriend which those benefits that are said.
Obviously you start small but how would you do it in a small town
That however isn’t impossible though
A lot of events seem to happen on weekends and am always working
Because of living arrangements what would you do about isolating separate from the other members if any of the girls happen to come from hot spots if you don’t have your own facilities yet
Also just keeping eyes open for right girl
Also want companionship as well
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