Finding a girl to experiment and do the girlfriend things with

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What else could you do until you can work your own hours or closer to normal hours

How do you start conversations and how do you ask and get a yes

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You get what you pay for. If he you go for the cheaper options in relation to escorts expect to meet some dodgy people and potentially catch some infections. If you go for a cheap dating website, the same, but also don’t expect security to be great.

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I said it before and I’ll say it again! Only YOU can make changes happen, we can suggest but if you keep finding obstacles in those suggestions, there’s not much anyone can do.

If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting - in life and in these posts!

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What is it exactly that you are looking for @daisy202027 ? Is it a sexual relationship or a friendship or even a relationship? You haven’t been very clear only saying that you want to hang out with girls and where to hang out. If you can tell us exactly what you are looking for and expecting out of it maybe we can offer you the right advice.

If you are looking for friendships then I would say at the gym or hobbies/ clubs etc but if you’re after something sexual or dating then online or out in bars or even friends of friends would be your best bet.

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I suspect English is not your first language, but your list of requirements comes across as impersonal and creepy to be honest. Women are human beings and not souless automatons there to provide you with “the girlfriend experience” .Also copying and pasting the same topic and keep reposting it as if new, and expecting different answers is pointless.
Working in hospitality should make it easier to meet people not harder.
If people in other professions that entail long unsociable hours can form relationships, so can you if you if you stop thinking of them as some product to provide you with an experience.

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Sounds like you really want a friend with benefits or straight up a girlfriend, so have you considered joining up on any dating apps to see if you connect with anyone through that?

Alternatively try seeing if there’s any social groups in your area to make friends and see if it flourishes.

For a short answer there isn’t an easy route to take other than actively finding the real thing. Escorts might be a quick fix but realistically remember it’s a job for them and they’re paid to be whoever you want them to be regardless of feelings or real connection.

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First of all I would suggest you stop looking for a girl with just the intention of sex. You did mention doing some social activities but it does appear sex is the first port of call when looking for a girl.

As a “Boomer” as you class us-Hate that term-We would meet partners by going to night clubs, parties, social drinks, meeting other people through friends, work colleagues, meeting through different clubs. Before the internet that was the only way, it was difficult but worked well. I used to worked 12 plus hr shifts and still managed to date women, I am sure you can.

You can try a dating app nowadays or one of those online dating agencies, which are used by a lot of people who find it hard to meet other people in a social setting. There are also dating sites that cater for people who want to meet to full fill certain sexual experiences but they are hit and miss as to how genuine those sites are, google will help you if you do some research.

If you opt for a dating site then go in wanting to find a g/friend first and foremost, sexual fun will come along when it’s time and it does take time be patient.

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I know it’s already been suggested but I think the idea of going an online route makes a lot of sense. You can be upfront and detailed about what you are looking for and ensure that anyone that shows interest knows exactly the situation to cut down the amount of time you waste pursuing something that might not come to fruition. This also means that, with Covid concerns, you only have to meet people when you’re fairly sure it’s worth your time.

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Do want a girlfriend which those benefits that are said.

Obviously you start small but how would you do it in a small town

That however isn’t impossible though

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A lot of events seem to happen on weekends and am always working

Because of living arrangements what would you do about isolating separate from the other members if any of the girls happen to come from hot spots if you don’t have your own facilities yet

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Also just keeping eyes open for right girl

Also want companionship as well

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:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

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I hope you find what your looking for ive a male friend looking for a similar experience may someday it will work out for him. I met my wife at thr right point in my life. She drives me mad and i her but shes unreal :heart_eyes::heart_eyes::heart_eyes:

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You might want to compromise on certain aspects of your life. If you’re not looking to leave your job for another 3+ years, perhaps cut your hours at work, but this may impact your saving to buy a house. However, not meeting escorts or paying webcam models could go towards savings.

You can’t do anything about accommodation, so why not ask a lady if they could accommodate for an evening once you get to know them? You cant expect a woman to just appear and be up for your terms of a relationship, dating apps are upfront about hook ups or FWB’s, I’m wondering if this is best suited for you?

May I suggest going for the FWB route and if you find a lady , then meet socially for a couple of dates, then if you both agree to a little more, go halves on a hotel room.

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Wow @daisy202027, we’re here again?

I think if you read the content, there really has been plenty of advice, and as you seem to repeat the same questions, I’ll repeat my last answer for you:

If you don’t try to change anything, nothing changes.
If you are unable to host a girl at your house, then find a girl that is able to host. Unfortunately the clocks cannot be wound back, and society has evolved, and even more people switch to online due to Covid. I would expect though that online dating/hookups would be far more ideal considering your own hours and circumstances. Yes it can be hard work, but as others mentioned, being honest and open is your best way forward.
If you are just looking to socialize, there are group meets for multiple hobbies and such like on apps like MeetUp.

Believe it or not, you will not be the only person with these circumstances. However, it seems that what you’re actually wanting is for someone to do the hard work for you and provide the answers (and a girl) on a plate for you.
Insanity, my friend, is repeating the same behavior and expecting different results!

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Not shure what the COVID stuff is like across the pond. Hear in the states things are kinda back to normal. If you don’t put in the work to find some one and to make it work it will not happen. In my late teens early 20’s was in a long distance relationship. Three hour drive to see her. Made it work. In my mid 20’s to 30’s worked 10 to 12 hours a day six days a week still made time to go out.

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Now wife and I still work 50’ish hours a week and “date night” is us going to local bar having a fue drinks and a meal. Little flirting and touching then we come home and fall a sleep :sweat_smile:

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thanks am going to need it :grinning:

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hi everyone.

just wondering what is best way and how would you find a girlfriend to hang out with while you are working every weekend and every holiday when most people are out and about having fun which makes it hard.

plus what could you do in a small town to find a girl and what could you do when you dont have your own living space to have privacy.

am wanting a girl to hang out with but dont have living space yet and it could be 10 years away plus am working when most are out doing stuff.

sometimes am feeling like that have no one when talking about that.

what are the clues that people experience to know when it may be time to leave a job and what can they do to try and hang on until their current boss gets out.

have been in the food industry for 15 years and am tired and worn down and had enough and missed out on a lot because of that and want to get out.

what do yous think are reasons why people got out as it reopened again after the shutdown.

am thinking following

  1. people had to try different jobs during shutdown and they realised they can earn same or more money elsewhere in half time and probably easier work.

  2. people are probably tired after nearly 20 years in service (definitely over 10 years) and the work is historically hard and has gotten harder and harder.

  3. people want a better work life balance and used the isolation and lockdown as time to do extra training to get out.

  4. people close to pension age retired earlier.

  5. probably everything.

also what is the reason for current hospitality staff shortage, would it be because people are tired of it after so long giving up your life and time and because of that people leaving causing shortages where theres not enough workers so more leave.

how would you find a girl and have privacy without your own living space until you can afford to buy your own.

am not yet in a position to get own living space even though itll probably make it alittle easier and waiting until am able to buy rather than pay as much to rent as you would to buy and not being able to do things you want to place.

also how would you get more time to enjoy or do the things you want to do and have a better work life balance until you are able to get out of current job and into a easier one.

also got cousins and a aunt and uncle that live 3 hours away from me who always organises each others parties but all cousins have got more brothers and sisters plus they have partners now.

do yous think that would have anything to do with it, would that be what you get for having more brothers and sisters or a friend (or only work normal business hours and having more time to go out and make friends) or your own living space to have catch ups.

but the only family that live in same area as me are older people and wondered if its different generations that would have anything to do with it?

wondered what you could do to get same chance your cousins get if you dont have enough brothers or sisters or a friend until you can change jobs and only have to work normal business hours and/or work your own hours.

what are clues that it may be time to change jobs and what can you do to try and hang on for the old owners until they get out.

place am working at is up for sale and am getting a move on with next goal because most businesses take about 2 years to sell but it could sell quick no one knows but wont be staying long if at all.

when new owners take over what is a professional way to say that you have moved on or leave once you found something else and how long should you stay with the new owners once they take over if you do stay only until you found something else as have worked at same place with old owner 15 years.

where theres a ideal time you should try stay at a place you work before moving on and not looking like a job hopper is it the place/business you work at that counts even if it changes owners or is it the owner that counts where you should try stay with new owner for a certain time even though you did same thing with old owner 15 years.

also what are clues that its time to move into own house and what could you do until you can buy which could take atleast 10 years with property prices way they are.

what is a way to find people who are like fathers to you which is one reason for the girl as she could have a good father as well, the only person you can think of whos like a father will in next few months be having chemo for something and you dont know how long before he will be able to do those things if at all plus is also at age where you dont know how much longer he will be able to do those things.

just feel worn down and tired and want answers

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also going to buy a basic electrical test and tag machine that just does basic testing to start off with as you can always upgrade later and most people start off small and work up as need something for now but dont have a lot to spend.

after a time you can always upgrade later