Hi all,
Well its been a long time since ive been on here.
I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice?
I have been seeing this guy for about 5 months. I've been in quite a few relationships, but this one is the best ive ever been in! Sex has been great we were seeing each other twice or three times a week. We live about hal f an hours drive away from each other. As i dont drive, he didnt mind coming up for me rather than me catch the bus.
Now all of a sudden, he has decided that its seemed to have been all one sided. I've before a few times have offered to go on the bus or say i give some money towards petrol. He's worried about money as he plans to do a lot of motorbike racing next year and he hasnt been able to do it the past few years. I have said if you give me a chance, i will show you that i will keep to my promises and give you money for petrol sometimes and go by bus. Another problem is that i live with my parents and my mum doesnt believe he should sleep in my bed, alothough i sleep in his.But he hasnt given me proper answers! And as i suffer from anxiety, i once called him everything under the sun! and i apologised. And then he said he's got no feelings for me.
I find that hard to believe, we use to text all through the day everyday etc, say we love each other. I don't know whats changed. and when he was worried about it all he was crying down the phone to me saying i dunno's. I dont think hes got another girl as hes not the type and only had one girlfriend before me. But i think its just his parents as when i was at his i heard his mum saying something 'you cant afford it'. He's 27 yrs of age for goodness sake! We have had a conversation after a few days of me not texting him so i gave him breathing space. i asked him would you like to meet and chat, and he said not just yet..so thats not really a no. Then i gave it another few days to say hi how are you, and no answer.
Going to work has helped me, but this morning i woke up crying and shaking with this anxiety. ![](upload://f8zGclFeQx35HwZLqJ7J1rFzQ0n.gif) even work can see im not right. Just as well dr has given me chill pills!
So about me sending him a gift, not sure if i should. I know there is something that he been looking for for a while. But i thought maybe sending him a gift will be better than just phoning and texting show him that im not so selfish as he thinks. But there again he might think im a bit stalkerish and if he dont reply i might feel worse? But if i dont get a reply i should just know to leave it at that. It be like a man sending a woman flowers init.
Its been about 2 weeks since the start of the arguement. I asked him if he gonna dump me say so and do it preferably to my face but he hasnt even done that. Not sure how much longer i can wait before i go potty and call him things again! I need to talk to him as i can say he can sleep on the bedroom floor like he suggested (i didnt really like the idea) but it might mean break from his parents and his parents wanna break from him too. and say the fact he has been the best boyfriend so far and that hes not all them things i had called him at all, he just dont know what he wants.
Thats probably a lot to read there, sorry and thanks for listening!