I've been feeling sad today, possibly dwelling on things too much but I really wanted to get something off my chest.
Earlier this year I split with my partner of 6 years, my decision, we were like friends there was no excitement and I decided that I would prefer to be single with the chance of excitement than miserable and trapped.
Now just a month after splitting I met someone, they swooped in, wooed me, promised me the world, was passionate and an incredible turn on, I'm not talking looks but he was so arousing and kinky, I found it easy to be open and filthy with him and that side was perfect. However we live 30 miles apart - not the greatest distance but he has responsibilities and we just never had the time, after 5 weeks of not being able to see each other he ended it saying the stress of not being able to see me was too much and that he didn't see he would ever have the time. Now the thing is I understand and I know that even though I was clinging on to the relationship in the long run I thought it may have not worked and I couldn't have dealt with not being able to see him regularly. Annoyingly I wish we could have at least got the chance to play out some of the fantasies we discussed.
I've felt sad all week but okay, I thought it was because I'd lost him but it isn't that. I've been talking to a friend about dating and I know in my profile I've said I'm happy being single but it dawned on me today that it's more that I'm afraid of heartache again. I was all prepared to do my own thing and be single this year but now I feel that there is more of a fear aspect to it all. It's leaving me feeling quite vulnerable and not in a good way, I know 33 isn't that old but I do feel a bit left on the shelf.
I know that some people suffer much more heartache than this but I just feel cheated in some way. I feel a bit reserved and concerned. How do you get over something like this? The worst thing is it feels like it was just the icing on the cake rather than the sole thing to make me feel like this. I just feel rejected.
I hope you don't mind me getting this off my chest.