Just another update for you all and we are sorry to be a pain, but we really would like to ask your help again, seeing as you have all been so helpful so far and given fantastic advice....
Let me try and put you in the picture...............
The moment we started talking about letting my wife sleep with another man, the first thing I did was stop working.
I hated my job, it made me a (shall we say) not such a nice person because I was so stressed out and we have (for the 1st time in 12 years) starting spending alot more quality time together and all of a sudden after a 12 year steady relationship, we cannot keep our hands off each other and our sex life has gone through the roof, which has never happened before.
She has been doing online webcams and getting a huge amount of attention, I have also been giving her comliments, making her feel good and we have obviously discussed her sleeping with someone and she has been chatting to them online.
But what is bugging me is what has caused this to make this happen to our relationship and why am I feeling like this?
I don't know if I like it, but I think I do because all these positive things keep happening, so really stuck as to whether or not to let this go ahead?
Because obviously 3/4 things have changed, but we can't put our finger on what it may be?
You probably all know by now that I like using my ''analogys'' but if someone were to blow on the back of your neck and you liked it, but couldn't work out where it was coming from and couldn't see it, how do you grasp what it is that is happening and keep hold of it?
Does that make sense?
Obviously things have changed to a certain degree, but because it's more than 3/4 things, WHAT is responsible, especially when you want to keep hold of whatever it is?
It sounds rather psychological, but kind of stressing us out a little bit.
It's obviously a good thing, but is it one thing, is it 2/3 things, or a combination of everything?
Have you ever had something good happen to you basically and couldn't work out where/how it was coming from, so therefore how do you put your finger on it?
Any help, greatly appreciated and thanks for your understanding. :-)