After being with the most perfect man I've ever met for 2 years and even being engaged to him, he broke up with me. I lived with him and his mum, and his mum turned out to be a pshyco bitch and she was treating me like crap, so I moved back in with my parents, and he broke up with me. I'm now sleeping on an airbed in my little sisters bedroom, and he's refusing to give any of my possessions back. Including my two bunnies. (and everything I've ever bought off this site) I'm just so fucking heartbroken he'd do that to me. He was my soulmate. I don't know if I can even function anymore, everything hurts so much. I gave my all to him. I'm never going to love anyone as much as I loved him, I don't know what to do :'(
do not let the b get you down i suggest you go round when his mum is in and ask for your stuff back take somebodey with you and if she refuses tell suggested by a friend to take tham to small claims court and it wiil not cost you anything because the losers have to pay and she says you got a very good case by the way i have no idea about this but it sounds good ane may convince them . ps you can ask her what use he has for a vibrating dildo .hahaha
Im so sorry this has happened to you, it feels like a part of you is mising when someone you love that much leaves you.
If his mum is a psycho then maybe its her thats stopping him giving your stuff back? Do you have a friend you can go with to try and get it? Maybe at a time you know shes out but hes in?
*Hugs*
Nothing ever feels like it will get better until it does. It sounds like a truly awful situation, and I'm so sorry you are going through this, but it will pass. Definitely bring a friend and try and reclaim your stuff.
I'll be thinking of you, and I hope that you're okay (with 'okay' being a relative term)
Stay Strong x
oh and when i say he wont give my bunnies back i dont mean sex toys i mean actual little baby bunnies :'( nor he or his mum works so i cant go in at a time they're not home, and i already tried going with a friend, they just wouldnt let me in. we never argued or anything, our relationship was perfect i cant believe hes done this
What ugliness. You may need to walk away from your stuff and just move on? Would local law enforcement help escort you to get your things?
Im so sorry to hear this has happened to you. I had my savings in my ex's safe and he refused to give it back to me. I threatened to phone the social servises on a few things he should never have done. He soon ran up the loft and gave me it.
Maybe threaten them with the police or something because its your belongings. And just by the way. Google common law wife.... you had been woth him long enough so you are entilted to half of everything he owns so remind them of that as well maybe.
I know it sounds horrible but to get your stuff back you have to get savvy and then repair yourself after. two bad relationships and two nasty break ups in less than two years taught me that.
Thats just my opinions and people may disagree with me. But honestly common law wife. Keep that in your head and even if you go to small claims saying that will give you an extra bullet in the gun so to say.
Im wishing you all the best and i hope you get your belongings. So many hugs and thoughts go put for you hun xx
Really sorry to hear this I know you must be hurting at the moment but it is probably best you find out now rather than later. It sound like the mother has issues with her son having a relationship with you rather than only having one with her it might even be the case that she has done this in the past. As for getting your possessions back have you thought about the Citizens Advice Bureau they may be able to help you.Hope you start to feel a bit better soon.
thedevils-little-helper - I went through a similar expereince a long time ago and unfortunately I never got my stuff back. Others have given you good advice about Citizen's Advice Bureau and Small Claims Court. You should definitely consider this. You are entitled to your things.
In my opinion, the most important thing you can do is take care of yourself right now - Metally, physically and emotionally. It's very easy to let this experience overwhelm you and end up hurting yourself even more. I know the kind of pain you are feeling, but I promise it will get easier if you give it enough time. Until then, take care of youself. xxxxx
Honey IF he was your soulmate he would not treat you like that.
Im guessing youre fairly young?
When youre younger it seems like your world is ending. Like you will never love someone again as much as you do them.
When youre older and have someone that deserves you, you will think "wow, what did I ever see in that arsehole?" I have asked myself several times. lol. And only now im 34 am I happy and do I know what true love is!
I'm so sorry that happened :( I'd go to Small Claims Court like tider suggested even if it's just to get the bunnies back! Not fair for him to be holding on to your things in spite x
Is it something the police would help with? The rabbits would be particulary important for me to get back. Surely withholding someones items is technically theft?
Dali256 wrote:
Is it something the police would help with? The rabbits would be particulary important for me to get back. Surely withholding someones items is technically theft?
I'm sure they could escort her there and wait whilst she collects her things? that might be a faster option than court x
Regarding the rabbits you could probably include the police and rspca if there's any chance their welfare is compromised
The RSPCA is a good idea. I know stuff is just stuff but at least it would give you a bit of closure to sort things out.
Hugs you must get your rabbits back other stuff can be replaced loads of massive hugs, you'll survive this I know it doesn't seem like it you will, now tiny treats for your self if you can.
He sold my bunnies to someone else. I found out who, told the woman I would give her back the money she paid for them and buy her replacements, but she refused. I'm so so so so upset, I lost my beautiful baby bunnies, my fiance, and everything I own :'(
What has he done with the rest of your stuff?
Breakups are hard but don't let it ruin you.
Honestly if he is being so harsh about it then you are way better off without him. He is not your soul mate if he can hurt you and be okay with it.
Honestly take the time now to figure out what you want now. Everyone handles breakups deferently. The best thing you can do is focus on making yourself Happy right now and finding happiness with yourself before you go searching for the actual Mr right.
I know it hurts and words can't heal the pain but it will get better in time! Love yourself and find your own happiness without him. (: