I don’t even know where to start. So much has happened between me and my now ex partner of 10 years.
We broke up last Oct. He developed an addiction and it completely changed him. Lost a load of weight ( that’s why he started taking them apparently because he struggled to lose weight any other way) talked to me like shit 24/7. Started completely avoiding each other. He became a total stranger physically and mentally and I got to the point that if I didn’t do something it would cost me my life because I just couldn’t do it anymore. FFS crying already n not even started.
Anyway I asked him to leave… I felt so guilty because he would have to go to his mum and dads. His mother has never had time for him. But I got comfort in the fact his dad was his best friend so if he needed to vent his dad would always listen.
I’ll get to the point in a min… So a lot has happened. He was arrested bailed for 3vmonth but couldn’t have contact with me unless it was to do with our LO. We had contact all the way through he would sneak up and stop over. Leave early. Etc
Feb - sadly his dad passed. The man who I described as more of a father than my own at times and couldn’t even go to the funeral. I’ll tell you why in a min.
March - got a random FB message. Hi I’m *** I’ve bin with ** 8 month and I don’t want to be a secret anymore. Wow wt actual f
Anyway. Met her. Told her we’d been trying sent her messages between us etc.
They apparently finished it but???
So we’ve been trying, arguing, falling out then the cycle starts again. Viscous arguments and we still can’t resolve any of the issues because as he says 95% of his problems are because of me and I disagree. I won’t bow down. He doesn’t like my friend’s because they are a bad influence… They gave me confidence.
THE POINT we are still sleeping together. He stops over maybe twice a week. I’m paranoid as f*** wondering where he is the rest of the time.
I’ve noticed he doesn’t ejaculate inside my vagina anymore?? He does everywhere else.
A few wk ago we had a CNC night. Great! cuddled. Just as we were falling asleep an argument came out of nowhere n he left. I can’t really explain. Yes it was consensual but I felt used and abused?
We made up. About a week later we went out for a drive. As he was going to get in the shower I said about putting something nice on so he said yes. (I’d bought a nice Lil number from LH) stocking suspenders the whole shabbang. Did a little dance for him then… Nothing. Not even a f patbon the head. I was humiliated … I still am. He’s apologised about it on several occasions but doesn’t mean shit to me.
Last night id had a new delivery. We had a bit of loving. Butt plug for me which he used. Anyway I had a facial n he said I couldn’t wipe it off. Brill… My turn… He got up and came downstairs for food?? I have no other words… Been up all night crying. He’s apologised and excuse is he thought I liked doing it on my own? Yeah when he’s not here!!
Points to consider
I love him
I melt when I see him
We were together a decade
We have a child together
Give it to me straight. What do you think? And I’m so sorry for the loooong post