Alicia4Ever
wrote:
Elsie-Jay wrote:
That's absolutely fine and clarifies my thoughts as to how the forums work! Thank you. I'm not looking to build relationships but was confused as to why I could be friended but not messaged. I've already gained a lot of advice and hints and tricks while just reading, but while I've been browsing have gotten the distinct impression some members know each other well and I wondered whether that was through messaging.
There is not much in the way of conversation on the threads, but you can end up responding to other posters several times on some threads, so after a while it does kind of seem like you know each other to newcomers, but the main way people tend to end up getting to know each other a bit, is through the "rant" thread. if you have a read at it you will see why.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/off-topic/1527023-get-it-all-out-thread-warning-rants-will/page-198/
Also if you ask for help, like now, people will respond, and you can make a connection with someone who goes out of their way to help you, you can end up replying to each other several times, as they ask for more info, so they can better help you. At that such times one or the other clicks the request a friend.
But you also get many people who come on and just friend request people they have not had any kind of post responses from; to which I don't respond, as it makes me feel uncomfortable.
So it takes a bit of time to get to know regular posters, many people come on and post a few times and are never heard from again, there are not many regular posters. and every so often a number of regulars just stop posting, for one reason or another; most of the time you never get to know why they stopped.
I don't post as often as I used to, as many of my "friends" have gone, or post infrequently; that and I'm going through a bit of a tough time personally, as a trans woman.
Alicia4Ever
wrote:
Elsie-Jay wrote:
That's absolutely fine and clarifies my thoughts as to how the forums work! Thank you. I'm not looking to build relationships but was confused as to why I
There is not much in the way of conversation on the threads, but you can end up responding to other posters several times on some threads, so after a while it does kind of seem like you know each other to newcomers, but the main way people tend to end up getting to know each other a bit, is through the "rant" thread. if you have a read at it you will see why.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/off-topic/1527023-get-it-all-out-thread-warning-rants-will/page-198/
Also if you ask for help, like now, people will respond, and you can make a connection with someone who goes out of their way to help you, you can end up replying to each other several times, as they ask for more info, so they can better help you. At that such times one or the other clicks the request a friend.
But you also get many people who come on and just friend request people they have not had any kind of post responses from; to which I don't respond, as it makes me feel uncomfortable.
So it takes a bit of time to get to know regular posters, many people come on and post a few times and are never heard from again, there are not many regular posters. and every so often a number of regulars just stop posting, for one reason or another; most of the time you never get to know why they stopped.
I don't post as often as I used to, as many of my "friends" have gone, or post infrequently; that and I'm going through a bit of a tough time personally, as a trans woman.
I too don't like new people immediately friend requesting me, I look at their profile number of posts whether they've joined years ago and not posted anything, reviewed anything etc