Hi I need advice regarding how I can last longer in bed.i get really over the excited and cum very quickly sometimes I don't even make it to penetrative sex just touching can lead me to me shooting my load it is really getting me down my wife doesn't say much but I bet she is frustrated I would love to have a long session and maybe try toys or dressing up but it will take us longer to get ready than doing the actual deed,any tips or advice please.
You can buy delay cream/lubricant in "Essentials-Better sex for him" :)
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/better-sex-for-him/delay-spray-cream/
hope you find something that works for you
Could you masturbate before having sex ? :)
One of the complaints put forward about pornography is that it desensitises you, physically and emotionally. So... naybe more porn and weirder porn will do the trick?
I could masturbate before sex but what if the sex is spontaneous and I have tried delay creams before they didn't really have much effect
How about a cock ring to help maintain the erection even after youve cum?
My husband is very similar, he just spends a long time on foreplay and we use a lot of toys. We bought a delay solution as recommended on here, but I'm pregnant and you can't use while pregnant, so will be a while before we can try that out. But we tried delay lube, delay condoms, and a cock ring. None particularly worked, cock ring made him last a little longer, but honestly get one anyway, makes his cock look amazing!
Having you tried edging yourself? You know, masturbating until you're super close and then not letting yourself ejaculate? It may help! Also, pelvic floor exercises - trying to stop a stream of wee during mid-flow - helps. Maybe someone else knows more about these?
JM88 wrote:
How about a cock ring to help maintain the erection even after youve cum?
+1
i have the same issue, best combo yet has been the LH three ring rubber set (balls, base of cock and behind the lot). Slightly desensitised but lasted long enough for some fun and thrusting before spilling the beans with the bonus that the largest ring was rubbing her clit nicely.
Desensitising gels and cock rings work well together or if you know you are going to see your other half have a play yourself before you go round there and that could help things last longer too...
Make masterbation a daily exercise, do it until you feel as if you're about to cum then stop and let it subside then start again just keep doing it, repeat as many times as you can and try exceeding the last time. Postpone cumming for as long as you can, you have to make this a mental exercise as well. You'll soon be doing extra minutes and fractions of an hour if not an hour.
If you feel as if you are about to cum when you're both together, try changing positions and take advantage of the break then start again. Treat it like your exercise, stimulation then rest. You don't have to rest completely just do something else together.
Enjoy.
I was going to recommend delay creams as I have tried a few please feel free to read my reviews on them.
Brumguy that is an awesome idea and I shall have to try that out ;).
TBH I wish I had that problem sometimes.You havn't mentioned if you use condoms . If you don't then perhaps give them a try . Normally when we use condoms my partner places it on me. In your case I would put your own on to prevent shooting too soon .Despite what most manufactuerers claim they are no where near as sensitive as not wearing one. Might work in your favour in your case as a short term solution.
For a longer term solution then I would recomend what Brumguy has said .
No I don't wear condoms as I have had the snip,it is really getting me down and I feel frustrated with myself because I feel I am letting my wife down.
Not to worry . Just do what Brumguy has suggested . It will get better for you in the medium/longer term .
Main thing is to keep lines of communication open with your Mrs as well.
To keep the session longer you could perhaps "work " on your Mrs. A long sensual massage massage works wonders especially as we are about to get a heat wave as well . Nothing better for one of those hot summer evenings..Just remember to keep the oils away from her intimate area. When working on this area switch to a water based lube but leave this until last and when you feel its about time to make love.
You could try a hollow strap on with your wife. This means that if you ejaculate prematurely that you can use this to continue with her.
Here is the full range:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/strap-ons/hollow-strap-ons/
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=1601
Or even a vibrating hollow strap on
Don't I want to go down that route,but thanks for the suggestion
HappilyExperimenting wrote:
Having you tried edging yourself? You know, masturbating until you're super close and then not letting yourself ejaculate? It may help! Also, pelvic floor exercises - trying to stop a stream of wee during mid-flow - helps. Maybe someone else knows more about these?.
Both are excellent practical suggestions. Edging works! Also masturbating befor sex should give you more time. Try masturbating then giving your wife oral sex. This will give you time to relax and recover and enjoy pleasing your wife, before you have sex.
A cock ring is a good suggestion.
Does your wife have any toys? Make her orgasm as many times as you can with oral sex, vibrators, dildos, and after you have cum once or twice while pleasuring her you will be ready for her and she will be gagging to have you inside her.
Dont get hung up on time and concentrate on pleasure.
I totally agree with FunLouise, the pleasure as your focus. My OH can cum almost instantaneously. But he always focuses on me first. I take a LONG time to climax. Sometimes he starts me off, and we come back to it hours later. Works great for both of us. The toys help too.Fun Louise wrote:
HappilyExperimenting wrote:
Having you tried edging yourself? You know, masturbating until you're super close and then not letting yourself ejaculate? It may help! Also, pelvic floor exercises - trying to stop a stream of wee during mid-flow - helps. Maybe someone else knows more about these?.
Both are excellent practical suggestions. Edging works! Also masturbating befor sex should give you more time. Try masturbating then giving your wife oral sex. This will give you time to relax and recover and enjoy pleasing your wife, before you have sex.
A cock ring is a good suggestion.
Does your wife have any toys? Dont get hung up on time and concentrate on pleasure.