It all depends on how aroused I am and how stressed I am in general. It can take anywhere between 1 minute to 1 hour. It varies so much lol. Positions also make a huge difference too for some reason but my husband is the same way. Anyone else find that some positions delay things?
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Absolutely! We definitely have positions that are the best for quickies (from behind, with her prone face down and butt in the air - I can be in and done under a minute), or when she wants to get off hard and fast first sheāll get on top. I can last almost indefinitely in missionary and hold off until she cums and pulls me over the edge. And then we have positions that feel great and are very fun, but donāt really get either of us off and so are more transitional in their use.
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I can get to my orgasm in a couple of minutes if I want with fingers and dildo but usually Iāll take longer and have a session around 15 minutes, especially if in bed at night on my own. With my wand I canāt get last much longer than a minute or two.
My boyfriend usually cums quickly, especially once he is inside me and is usually done in a couple of minutes 
. Need him to last longer!
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Difficult answer ā¦.
It dependsā¦
Partner or kinda chemia can do all different
Then set up ā¦.
State of mind
State of amount drugs n alcohol
Way she can trigger ur skin
Way u can trigger her with visual effects thatās drive u so high
Taste
Special momentsā¦. Thatās hard to understand but so easy to feelā¦.
Depends on what you meanā¦first orgasm, or feeling completely satisfied? I can get my first one in seconds. Satisfying me takes a half hour or more.
really varies, when solo with toy 2-5 mins, with fingers 5-10.
with other halfā¦ he likes to tease me so is often purposefully delayed to make it bigger with clitoral stimulation.
If I sit on him he hits my g spot and I play I will cum 60 secs of riding if nicely warmed upā¦ works every time and the most intense
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Depends on what part of my body Iām using tongue fingers cock and where Iām using them
With a vibrator a few minutes if I want to but I find that a bit boring so I usually play for longer. Unless Iām in a hurry, in which case off I go!
During sex it varies a lot. Sometimes minutes, sometimes half an hour regardless of if itās oral, penetration, petting etc.
My partner can cum in minutes in any situation lol which Iām quite jealous of. But usually heāll hold back since he also likes to wait rather than just give in.
I must say i am so jealous of most of the replies here. Never been able to do so PIV even with toys and clitoral takes forever and even then is super short duration and not what i understand to be full potency. (Not partner fault as was same with other as well). Been trying a few toys with no success. Open to suggestions!
Donāt give up;) if u look u will find it .
Sometimes itās really silly things that can change ur world ā¦.
U r already in good place trying to discoverā¦.
Worst thing is closing your mind ā¦.
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With toys it can vary depending on how horny I am, if Iāve been fantasising a lot before, so anywhere between a minute and 15.
Without toys anything up to 45 minutes. I find my mind wanders off easily, which is why I occasionally use porn, to stay focused.
With my husband and no toys I tend to worry about how long Iām taking, whether heās bored, tired or if he is turning off, which makes me take even longerā¦itās so frustrating 
However, recently Iāve started using my Womanizer with him and this takes the pressure off.
I blame my ex for this complex that Iāve developed. Having him fall asleep during oral a few times and generally just looking bored/uninterested in getting me off, wasnāt exactly great for making me feel sexy 
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Feel sorry to hear thatā¦. Canāt imagine falling asleep during intense pleasure or be aroused , even if Iām alone n have dirty things in my mind will not allow me to sleep.
Great news that u find fix for that 
I have exactly the same thoughts! I find it helps me sometimes when Iām struggling to say āIām not sure I can cum, but donāt stopā and then I cum cause I feel like I donāt have to 
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Itās very common for women to not cum during penetration alone. 
so donāt feel like this is unusual in any way!
Just do what feels good. Iām 34 and two weeks ago I came during face sitting for the first time in my life. Never been able to do that before but suddenly it just clicked. :))
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How strange!!!
You need to change your mind setā¦ you werent the problem, he was!!!
Im really sorry you had to suffer that man.
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@gmcc72 Iām the same as you. Definitely jealous of most of these answers. Just keep experimenting with toys youāll find the right ones. You have to be relaxed and in the right mind frame too which is easier said than done for me personally. So I understand.
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If going solo it Takes me anywhere from 30secs to 5min. Iāve never used a toy (itās on my to do list ). When receiving oral I never really check on the time but I would assume about 15min if I donāt try and last. I find it very hard to relax and enjoy oral (which is a shame because itās my absolute favourite) - I can pinpoint the exact reason this is. When me and the OH were young and just getting to know our bodies and ourselves, he was giving me oral once and I guess I took too long? But when I finally orgasmed he got up wiped his face and said āthat was way too longā and stomped out of the room. He wasnāt a nice person back then 
Anyway, thatās all past and we are both better people but that one comment has lingered in my head for about 15 years nowā¦
Well, Iād go all night if I couldā¦ it is my absolute favorite and you could never take too long in my books. Iād wear you numb before I got boredā¦!
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Sounds like a dream haha
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Hubby usually oral/ hand job anywhere from 5-10 mins, PIV 2-3 mins.
He doesnāt play with me, alone it takes me 45- to an hour with a womanizer
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