After recently confessing to my wife that I am bi, it has got me wondering how many men out there are bi and married? How's does this dynamic work within the marriage? Doe your wife know? What was her reaction when she found out?
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There are lots of topics on this subject, if you read through the forum you will see lots of questions asked and answered.
There are many men who are Bi and married, some have talked about it with there partners and some not so. It is a difficult thing to talk about to a partner be it you a male or female, after all you do not want to think that the person you are in love with is going to leave you.
There are many men, and women, who are Bi but keep it a secret so as not to upset there partner. The fact you have admitted such a thing to your partner, maybe you could be the one to answer your own question when other males/females ask for advice?
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Sorry didn't realise, how do I change the title of the of the post?Scoob wrote:
You're probably going to have to open this up to everyone, so "How many people are married and bi". Forum rules
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Both my husband and I are married (obviously) and bi (well pan actually). Obviously we know and we have rules we work to, and it works well for us. I also know 2 other couples where one or the other is bi and it works. I also know of some now former couples where it didn't work.
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T00n13 wrote:
Sorry didn't realise, how do I change the title of the of the post?Scoob wrote:
You're probably going to have to open this up to everyone, so "How many people are married and bi". Forum rules
You can't I'm afraid. Once it's up it's locked in. But as long as people know it's open to everyone then it's fine. 👍
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Married and pan, wife is bi. But we are married to each other regardless of what our sexual attraction to other people is. We can always roleplay and switch things up in the bedroom to have a different experience though. As our saying goes, "It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home"
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I came out as bi a few years ago and my wife’s been amazingly supportive about it. She says she was worried I was going to run off with a man, but that’s never going to be the case!! As other posters have said, we can role play in the bedroom. I guess one day we might go to a swingers club and see what happens. But I expect it will have to remain a fantasy. I suppose I see it like, if I was heterosexual, I might be attracted to other women, but I’m committed to my wife, so would never act on any attraction, and I guess that goes for my attraction to men too.
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Well you know all about me from a previous thread! My OH knows nothing about my Bisexuality and the fact I had a gay relationship before we got together, I had tried to tell her by introducing gay/bi porn in to our collection but she shot the idea down by saying that 2 men together doesn't do anything for her and she finds it quite repulsive! Which surprised me as she actually thought she way gay before we got together!! Fortunately a have a female best friend who knows all about my Gay/Bi life and I can confide in her my frustrations of wanting cock all the time!!T00n13 wrote:
After recently confessing to my wife that I am bi, it has got me wondering how many men out there are bi and married? How's does this dynamic work within the marriage? Doe your wife know? What was her reaction when she found out?
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I’m bi I told her almost right away. It made it a lot easier bc I I love bi/gay porn and there’s certain things that I like to incorporate into my sexlife regularly so it made sense. Shes so frigging awesome shes been so excepting of everything I’ve told her. Lets just say the sex part if my brain works 24/7 365 I’m very adventurous I’ve done a lot of not do basic stuff in my life and shes complete opposite but shes excepted that and over the years has found ways for me to be me and has made every effort to understand a lot of it and explore those things as well
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My wife has suggested im bi, im not sure though, i think i am but dont know how to bring it up
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My wife mentioned it a few times to me over the years that she thought I might be bi, it took a long time for me to accept it, but now, after opening in up to her, our relationship is stronger and much more open.
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I’m bi and my husband is straight. I was open with him from virtually day one and he knows that I will look at both sexes with lust. We are not in an open or poly relationship so for him it doesn’t make a difference. At he end of the day it’s him I go to bed with and although he doesn’t admit it I think he quite likes that I look at women as well 
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I’m only bi in theory. Not practice
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I think om gonna bring it up next time she pegs me and get the converaation going from there
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I thinks its def a good idea to bring the subject up, but maybe bring it up when your having a sex talk . I was surprised by how understanding and encouraging @FoxyLea87 has been, (shouldn’t have been really, she is amazing). Good luck with whatever you decide 
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Like i said i think she has an idea, she one said (while i was joking about someone else) that i need to come out as bi, i was taken aback as i hadnt thought about it but i dont know if she was joking or not, she’s also said things about me liking cock in my ass but we refer to the strapon as her ‘cock’, so i feel like it’ll go well but still worried about bringing it up. We’ve been together 11yrs and i’m worried her insecurities will get the better of her again and she’s going to think i’ve been thinking about others when i’ve not
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Hi @damodude6
The thing is - whether you are bi or straight, you could potentially be looking at or thinking about another person if you wanted to; no matter whether they are male or female.
But I do think that it is a possibility that your wife may ask why you are telling her now, she may wonder if you’re not happy, do you want things to change, are your needs not being met - so you may want to consider the answer to that question, maybe you just want to feel like you can be completely open with her.
You’re married so as long as your wife feels like you are committed to her, then it shouldn’t negatively effect your relationship as nothing will change.
If it was my husband, I’d be totally gutted if he kept this from me and felt like he couldn’t open up and be him self - but that’s just me.
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Thats what i mean, she’s strughled with insecurities for a while and sometimes still does but we manage it and i dont want to add to it. I wish i’d thought more about it when we first got together so i could tell her from the start but we were 15 so i didnt even think about my sexuality amd i kinda feel that this many years down the line is going to make her question me and my loyalty. Im 1000% devoted to her even to a point of fighting my family for her (long story but they were wrong and have since seen that). I do want to be open about it with her but the combination of her worrying about whether i’ve considered straying (i haven’t) and my issues with myself not being able to let anyone in because of past traumas makes it difficult, she’s the only one i can talk to (that i know personally/isnt anonymous). I just want to tell her without her feeling like something in the relationship’s wrong because its not
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