I think that I fantasize a lot during sex ... at least I think its a lot, because I'm not sure how much other people do. If the GF and I go at it hard & fast, my mind doesn't wander. However, if we have a longer session (>5mins) I usually do. I think about a wide variety of things, e.g. group-sex, interesting locations, sexy things she has done before, etc. It's not that she doesn't satisfy me or that I'm not attracted to her (she's hot, we have plentiful varied sex, and she is a regular feature in my fantasies during self-pleasure), but I often need fantasy to climax.
I'd say I fantasise quite alot, mainly during blow jobs. Sexy scenes in pornos I've seen, previous amazing sessions with the wife, the wife screwing herself. Occasional I drift off to a a particularly sexy girl I've encountered/seen during the day. Normal I think.
I love my wife dearly, i think 12 years of being faithfully together speaks for itself. I think a healthy imagination is nothing to be ashamed of. We are both open and can appreciate how sexy others are and often point out 'eye candy' for the other.
Imagining this & that can add a spice to loveaking without risking another partner. I often tell the wife to imagine her favourite girl (Jo from Viv Thomas) is eating her pussy as I'm licking her & there is deffinately an extra buzz for her. Try it, you might like it!
Actually during the act my mind tends to be focused on her. However while masturbating I do think about people other things. Usually its what weve done and her doing naughty things but other times it porn stars or other people. Imagination is good as long as its only a fantasy
I don't really with the bloke. If he's dirty talking I obviously fantasise about the scanario, but appart from occassionally screaming 'dirty slut' or something equally derogotary but sexy in my own mind, I tend to be pretty much focused on whats actually happening.
Fantastise a lot when masterbating though. I don't think fantastising is a bad thing though- gives me new ideas!
With past partners I've sometimes fallen back on a memory/ something I'd like to try to hurry myself along (ahem).
When i was with my ex, i used to fantasize all the time, and it was mainly because i was kind of bored, lol.
But with my current bf, im too busy enjoying how hot he is and how hot everything we're doing is, but when i'm on my own, i fantasize alot, about him and having fun time with other girlies, hehe ^_^
That's just too hot Crayola and Morbidia, methinks you two gals in a hot hot hot DVD would break all box office records, but then l am just an incorrigible pervert and probably wrong!!
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Yep Crayola dear, l know, l know, but don't shatter the image just yet !!
Yeah, well i've been buying toys from LH for aaaages, but only recently got my laptop working after an obscene amount of time of it being broken, because besides using my laptop, we've only got a PC in the family room, and thats not so good for posting on such a forum, hehe.
A few years ago before children a female friend of ours made hints and then asked to join us in bed but then backed out at the last minute which is fine. Since then I know my bf fantasises about her as she is very different to me in looks and personality, ie I am shortish ,curvy, experienced, have had kids ,she is thin, unexperienced and has none.
My bf has told me he fantasises about the physical side of making love to her, ie how it would be different, I think more of the overall experience how it might have been ,how we would have felt etc...
I like the idea of us sharing this experience especially as it is highly unlikely that the real event will not occur ( well for at least the next 16 or so years ! ).
Ha ha Frenchie, seems one hell of a long time to have to wait to me. If you did have to wait 16 years, or even only !!! 8 how could the poor girl ever hope to live upto your combined expectations. Wouldn't you b better off working on perfecting your techniques over all that fabbie opportunity time. I am guessing she maybe backed out by phone or text but not face to face. Given she made the suggest in the first place l might try the come round for dinner routine or failing that a hotel dinner, and after dinner drinks back in your room- four poster or not !!
Yep is was a back off by phone, the initial suggestion was made over dinner we think she may have been a bit merry. We saw her over the holidays ,which is largely what put the memory back into our heads, Unlike me she looks no different to 5 years ago. I wish I could turn back time some days but since we have kids now we have agreed that there won't be any 3rd parties ( except artificial ones! ) in our bedroom unless they are away or a lot older.
Maybe one day we can leave the kids with the grandparents and arrange a dinner party.
Frenchie definately go for the away thing. I was put in a position where l was offered two hot things, and possibly two more on top of that when a mere stripling of a lad. I was really too immature to take it up at the time, and it has haunted me as one of my life's greatest missed opportunities ever since. I have developed it into the story in the erotic book section - Friends together for a Shared Experience if anyone wants to read it...
I have just got back into rowing after many years away from the sport in a bid to turn back the clock in terms of my body shape which used to be pretty awesome even though l say so myself......
Go for it Frenchie!!!!!
Fantasies do have a lot going for them, but only upto a point.
I've never fantasized during sex but have fantasized during foreplay but usually my partner guides me through it. I dont really have an ideal fantacy maybe i need to experement more :P