I was just sat here wondering as it came in up in a conversation earlier
When you have solo fun do you think of your partner? I’ll be honest I don’t, very rarely anyway.. don’t get me wrong it’s not that I don’t fancy her, I really do and we have a great sex life but I don’t know I’ve always thought of wanking as a fantasy rather than over what you have done the night before or whatever. It’s far more likely to be over someone I think is hot... mainly a celebrity or whatever who I think is hot than my Mrs
is that less ordinary or do people think more of their partners?
Not afraid to say I either fantasis about cock when having solo fun or my OH's best friend, we were fuck buddies when both our relationships failed, it ended when I got back with my OH but it doesn't stop me fantasizing about her!!
I used to fantasise about porn I'd watched (or simply watch porn) but since we got involved with the whole Lovehoney thing I now find myself thinking more about my wife in all the different lingerie she's worn, and all the different toys we've played with. There's been some really memorable experiences that really trump anything I've seen on pornhub. 🙂
Think fantasies have 2 sides, beautiful and healthy or the wrong side when it's acted out in secret. It's a powerful thing and can damage a relationship if it's not under proper control. Can you imagine the state of shocked when he make love to you and you started to cursed and swear at him as if he's raping you. An ex-schoolmate once said, I never knew a gentle lady turned into a wild animal on the bed! Not long they parted. So sharing them with your partners creates a healthy sex life and is always the best medicine in a relationship. What do you think?
Personally I never think of my OH when masturbating. That time is just for me to indulge in my fantasies of other people and scenarios . I don't necessarily feel I should share all this information with him although if he asks I'm happy to tell him about some of them .
Me personally, I think fantasies of celebrities or people you wouldn’t ever actually fall in to bed with are fine. If my husband said he fantasised about a friend of mine I’d be offended. If he can fantasise about them then why not me?! A celebrity (Rita Ora in my husbands case) is more acceptable for me to understand and process
I fantasise about my husband mostly, what he had done, what I’d like him to do etc. It works for me! 😂
I normally fantasise about particular sex acts or scenarios, and the women in the fantasies are not real people - just random fantasy women.
Occassionally I will fantasise about a specific person - either somebody I know or sometimes a character from a film, etc.
I do sometimes think about my wife during masturbation. When I do, it's probably a 50/50 split between remembering things we've done and dreaming up things I'd like to do.
I'm like wildflower- I never think of my partner when masturbating. That's my own personal time to get into my fantasies. I'll usually pick something up I've seen or read in the past or go from there or just imagine my own scenarios.
I'm not sure what or if I was dreaming last night but I woke up wet fantasising how I'd love to get pregnant again. But the guy was a work colleague, not my husband - who already had the snip.
Ive discussed this in a previous thread. Im not even in my fantasies let alone the Husband. I generally think of three way scenarios, often including a guy who's sexual needs aren't being met in his marriage who gets to share a friend's wife. Its not a specific guy but sadly I do have a few male friends in that situation. I try to think about other things but I normally have to go back to the MMF to finish. I do like remembering things Ive done with my Husband but more as a way to wind myself up before sex rather than a solo turn on.
I never think about my wife when having a wank and I've told her so. I've also shown her the porn I look at. She never thinks about me when she's having a wank!
I like to remember that fantasy is just that, fantasy. Fantasies about porn performers, celebrities, or people that you know, are all ok in my book. I just like to be careful to respect my wife, and not make comparisons, 'cos her love's for real. She's actually the one who lets me act on some of my wildest fantasies!
Personally, If I close my eyes and think back, I can picture some amazing times with my wife, and remember what it felt like. Can be as good as porn for me!
Porn's totally a performance, using (usually) real people to show a fantasy version of sex. It's shot in multiple takes, usually edited out of sequence, and often not a realistic depiction of most people's sex lives. Celebs are not usually real people, they're an edited highlights version. All good fun fantasy stuff though!
Taboo fantasies are mostly pretty ok too in my book, but definitely best kept as fantasies, or acted on as roleplay, another fantasy!
I fantasise a lot while playing. My wife with my mate is the top one. Also fantasise about female friends if ours. Also the thought if wife going out and meeting young guy or girl (20-25) is such a turn on.. Oh damn knew I shouldn't have thought about it 😉😁😋