I've been with my boyfriend for a few months now and he is the first real relationship I've ever had before, I've never had a relationship prior to him and the guys I was with previously were just very brief and was more sexual than anything else, no feelings really involved like I thought there was. But with my boyfriend, I'm really in love with him and he's the same way with me and there's so many feelings in our relationship.
But I just can't seem to get used to it at all. Like the sweet things he says to me and how he looks at me and the compliments and the romantic gestures. I just don't know how to get used to it or really accept it because I just get embarrassed and I blush and go quiet because I've never experienced anything like this from a guy I have real feelings for. Any advice?
Oh that's great. I diagnose an incurable dose of love. Try to let it happen, it's all part of the magic of falling in love. These things are what you will remember fondly in the future.
Fun Louise wrote:
Oh that's great. I diagnose an incurable dose of love. Try to let it happen, it's all part of the magic of falling in love. These things are what you will remember fondly in the future.
Lol that made me smile, thank you :)
I say embrace it and enjoy every moment hun - I'm so pleased you have found such happiness :) xx
Thats great your guy in this day and age is quite a rare specimen . He sounds to me a romantic gentleman.
All he is doing btw is treating you with respect and the right way. Its becasue its new to you that you feel it a bit strange. You need to recipricate and act like a lady when out with him and enjoy it. i am not counting any chickens and its early days but my gut feeling is that this could be a long lasting relationship , But enjoy and just relax and perhaps say thank you to him ocaasionally it does help and trust me he will appreciate that as well !
And take your time with the sex side of things . Only do it when both of your are right and take things really slowly you will enjoy it much better IMO .
Have you got plans for Valentines day then with it fast approaching ?
Hello Kittycat,
You sound like your just feeling the little insecurities we all had with our first love. Not knowing how to react to things they say and do are common problems when your new the art of giving your heart to someone. Just try to appreciate that someone feels enough for you that they are doing and saying these things as I'm sure there just expressing how they feel and how you are the one that can make them feel like that.
It seems like your boyfriend really sees your beauty and is showing you that he does, so don't worry about blushing or going quiet because that's ok, just try to let him know that you love the things he does and says by showing him how you feel in anyway that's comfortable to you.
Not the greatest advice I'm sure but there are no hard fast answers when dealing with love and feelings, just go with your heart. X
That's all really helpful advice, thanks guys :) I do appreciate it and he knows that and I reciprocate a lot, which is difficult for me because I'm not used to doing that at all and he knows that too and he's being very patient. We still haven't had actual sex yet either because I'm not ready to and I don't feel comfortable with going all the way with someone right now, even though it's been two years since the last fiasco lol. But he understands and doesn't pressure me at all, I feel really lucky :)
Kittycat102 wrote:
That's all really helpful advice, thanks guys :) I do appreciate it and he knows that and I reciprocate a lot, which is difficult for me because I'm not used to doing that at all and he knows that too and he's being very patient. We still haven't had actual sex yet either because I'm not ready to and I don't feel comfortable with going all the way with someone right now, even though it's been two years since the last fiasco lol. But he understands and doesn't pressure me at all, I feel really lucky :)
Well with what you have said I think you are also doing the right thing.
Its good to see he's not putting any pressure on you as regards sex and it maybe better when your ready to initiate it, rather than waiting for him, as I am guessing he may be a little nervous of initiating it too soon . I can relate to being in this position myself.
Again if you need any help on that subject just ask .
But sounds very promising its nice to hear of some good news .
mysteron wrote:
Kittycat102 wrote:
That's all really helpful advice, thanks guys :) I do appreciate it and he knows that and I reciprocate a lot, which is difficult for me because I'm not used to doing that at all and he knows that too and he's being very patient. We still haven't had actual sex yet either because I'm not ready to and I don't feel comfortable with going all the way with someone right now, even though it's been two years since the last fiasco lol. But he understands and doesn't pressure me at all, I feel really lucky :)
Well with what you have said I think you are also doing the right thing.
Its good to see he's not putting any pressure on you as regards sex and it maybe better when your ready to initiate it, rather than waiting for him, as I am guessing he may be a little nervous of initiating it too soon . I can relate to being in this position myself.
Again if you need any help on that subject just ask .
But sounds very promising its nice to hear of some good news .
Well I know he's quite nervous but I'm probably more so lol
Yes but the difference is he will be waiting for you to make the first move and probably expecting it at some stage , which means you will be calling the shots and therefore with that knowledg that should settle your nerves a little
But we can always talk about how to make the first move nearer the time .
For now enjoy yourself and try to be more relaxed in his presence. And don't forget a goodnight kiss on the side of the cheek as a token of your appreciation when he escorts you back safely or to the door of an awaiting taxi. Good etiquette .