Hi just wondering how other couples spice up a sex life in a long term relationship.
My wife and I have been together for 29 years and we both have admitted that things have got routine and a bit boring just a quickie under the sheets every few weeks.
So we decided to do something about it ! We talked openly about what we like don't like etc we have started to watch some porn films my wife gets turned on by lesbians with big natural breasts
We have also purchased some sex toys and we now have erotic chats about our fantasys mostly about another woman joining us for sex.
Just wondered how other couples spice things up
Talking about it is the best start. We tried one of these for a bit of a laugh, got us in the mindset of trying things:
We recently each made a list of things we'd like to try, or do again, and are slowly working our way through them. Some are spontaneous, some require a bit of planning where the build up and anticipation just makes it better.
Weekend away have always been a good one- forced out of your routine of getting home, watching telly then going to bed. Last time we also tried pretending to meet for the first time. Each wore new outfits and I went to the hotel bar whilst she got ready. She came down, completely blanked me and sat at another table. Tried my cheesiest chat up lines then spent the evening talking like we'd never met. Went back to the hotel for a 'one night stand' (something neither of us have done as we got together when we were quite young). Was a great night
Me and my wife have been together for 11 years. Still very active in the bedroom. New positions, new toys, role play, new outfits etc. Talking to each other and enabling each other to fulfil their fantasy is a must imo as you will never get bored
Me and the wife been married 20 years and we've had a great sex life. Got introduced to lovehoney and it's taken us to another level we was always a bit shy talking about sex toys and fantasies we liked not anymore.Our relationship has gone from strength to strength.
We're coming up to our 44th anniversary and, to be honest, although we have sex less frequently than we did when we were younger (2 or 3 times a week now) it is now far more stimulating and exciting than it has ever been. largely due to the progressive introduction of toys, machines, anal play and anal sex in both directions.
Interestingly we have never been particularly forthcoming about our likes and dislikes although this is gradually improving too.
1000% write a list. Sometimes I think it can be difficult to suggest something you might enjoy doing or trying, the list makes it feel a little less daunting.
I buy lingerie and sex toys on LH and hubby gets to appreciate them 🤣
We talk regularly about what we like/don’t like, things change. Just recently he moaned about not enough foreplay (him performing oral on me which we limit as he has a disc disease in his neck) so we’ve switched things up a bit and have tried different ways.
We get the LH position of the week suggestions and give some of them a go. Some are impossible for us (not strong, flexible enough or we don’t match up as I’m quite short!) some are very fun.
We also try new things once a month or once every other month and if we liked it we bank it and use it again, if not we talk about what we didn’t like and try something similar.
Talking and discussing sex is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. Just keep the channels of communication open :)