Hi!
I’ve only recently started to enjoy great sex, I only ever orgasm through clit stimulation, and I never ‘cum’ the orgasm is great but I wondered do you women always produce some sort of bodily fluid, I always use lube and have to keep re applying in between as I don’t seem to self lubricate that much.
I just wanted to know do all you girls 'cum’m
Hi Rachel - hope you don’t mind a guy offering a response. 
Squirting and/or gushing is talked about a lot these days. It’s seen by some people as a goal to aim for, even (alas) as the sign of a “proper” orgasm. There’s a worrying tendency, fuelled by porn, for some folks to get the idea that unless a woman is soaking the sheets, it doesn’t count as “the real deal”.
It’s not true. Wind the clock back a couple of decades, and hardly anyone was talking about this, or if they did it was seen as something exceptional and exotic.
So, just for the record: not every woman squirts; most women who do squirt have had to learn how to achieve it: that it only happens to them if they’re stimulated in a particular way; an orgasm is first and foremost a sensory experience - you can have a totally satisfying orgasm without creating a pile of extra laundry! 
From your description of your own experience, though, it sounds like your body doesn’t produce much in the way of lubrication. Unless this is causing you soreness and distress, so long as you’re enjoying sex with aid of lube products, I wouldn’t worry about it for a minute. There’s nothing abnormal in your sexual response and nothing inadequate about your orgasms. You said it yourself:
Enjoy!
I don’t mind at all thanks for your response, I’m not at all convinced about the ‘squirting’ just wondered if every woman produced any kind of fluid everytime. I have no soreness and quite happy with the lube…thanks very much!
I think pleauredrone has it spot on, before I got with hubby I didn’t even orgasm let alone cum with previous partners. They just wasn’t able to pleasure and satisfy me in the way it would to make me to cum, squirt and orgasm. Hubbys the only one to make me do any of those, I suppose it’s down to him hitting and touching in the right places and that we’re more compatible. And the way he makes me feel in bed, the closeness and passion. I never had any of that before hand. With hubby, for him it’s not just about getting his leg over, it’s more than that.
If your referring to the natural lubricant produced during arousal (eg. Getting “wet”) then whether you produce it or not can be dependent on alot of factors including age, hormones, health and whether your properly hydrated.
I personally do get wet when im aroused. But if you dont theres plenty of lubes out there so its not a big issue.
I find hybrid lubes are great and means you reapply them less. Water based ones tend to dry up pretty quickly for me.
If your not using silicone (or another lube sensitive material) in your toys, there are lubes that last alot longer out there. Including oil and silicone based ones.
If you were talking about squirting, no i dont most of the time. Take a lot to make me squirt. Its usually something that happens when im g spotting in particular positions.
I do tend to get ‘wet’ when I’m aroused, I was thinking you get like a gush of something when you orgasm but obviously it doesn’t happen for everyone.
Talking about g spot…I never orgasm just through penetrative sex…any tips?
My current ‘partner’ shall we say is quite big and we do lots of different positions but I still don’t get a good orgasm that I do with a rabbit
Not everyone can orgasm just from penetration alone. I think its only about 20ish% of women can or something. So if you need clit stimulation during sex, dont feel shy about asking for it or doing it yourself. Sex is a team effort after all.
G spotting is all about getting the angle of the thrust right. I know some positions hit it alot more than others. Shoving a cushion under your bum in missionary works well for me. If you search the forum theyll be a ton of threads on it.
Toys or fingers are the easiest way i think.
For me, getting lots of foreplay is definitely a big must.
Whats the g spot orgasm like compared to clit stimulation…any better?
You will find that there are many ladies that don’t orgasm through penetration. I am sure there will be lots of replies to assist you with getting an organism. Good luck and welcome to the forum. @rachelg09
Try not to keep comparing yourself to others, as easy as it is. Some women gush, squirt and squeal at the top of their lungs, but others don’t. It’s all good. I haven’t experienced gushing/squirting either, but it doesn’t mean that I still don’t enjoy the orgasm I do get, even though I also need toys to get there. It sounds like you are enjoying yourself otherwise, which is great, so try and get out of your headspace, relax, and enjoy the moment. X
I’ve just discovered that anal plugs help me along. Changes the angle and rub 
Learning and experimenting is all part of the fun!
Different, but still really good. I personally find them very intense. Though everyones different, to really answer that question you’ll have to try it yourself as we’re all wired differently and have our own likes and dislikes.
@Baby_Jane great suggestion. Theyr definitely worth a try if you think theyd be up your street @rachelg09
Theres also The position of the week list, there should be some good options in there to try
Personally I get way more from an orgasm than squirting, I was reading the other day there’s only a small percentage of woman who have squirted I think it was 20%. I daint think it was possible but it magically happened once n now it happens with certain toys or hubs own utensils lol.
With coming there’s no gush of liquid for me, more a bit of added lubrication added.
I agree don’t compare yourself with others as long as you’re enjoying the feelings you’re getting that’s all that matters 
I (have recently ‘taught’ myself to) squirt with a g spot orgasm, which is nice, but I find clitoral orgasms much more intense, and they don’t make me squirt!
As long as you are enjoying yourself that’s the main thing!
My wife when she is horny gets really wet down there and when we have sex in certain positions like her on top does orgasm and cum. She produces a substance similar to mans cum all over my penis. It is only in that one position when i penetrate deep. My wife does not produce cum in any other position.
Again from a male perspective - many think male orgasm and ejaculation are the same thing - they are not many men ejaculate and never have an orgasm in reality.
As previously mentioned it is not a competition. relax and enjoy your pleasure and forget about comparisons.
Thanks wasn’t really a case of comparing more of a wonder
Mrs. Val never squirts at orgasm. She usually gets wet during sex and usually from oral. I would say 98% of her orgasms are dry and more of a pulsing wave of muscle contractions. She used to squirt when we were married 22 years ago… pretty rare nowadays.
Also, her strongest and fastest orgasms come from shallow and quick thrusts coupled with a manual stimulation of the clit with either a 2-4 finger swipe across at a varied pace or with our new bullet. She likes the clit play and still has no extruded fluid upon orgasm.
Sometimes I am jealous as I make a massive mess. I was under the false impression that once I had a vasectomy that cum would end. It hasn’t and we keep a towel on hand. She doesn’t mind when I blow on her chest or inside her as she likes the warmth. She doesn’t typically take one during oral but it wouldn’t hurt my feelings if my loads were non-existent… purely post-sex clean up preference…
@valbowski77, the fluid comes from the prostate, testicles produce sperm - from someone awaiting their prostate being reduced and been told that I will probably have no ejaculation post op.