Has anyone had any experience of this? Thinking of allowing my wife to exchange naughty messages with men/couples
Personally no we rather exchange messages between each other for a scenio or role play
If it’s something you’re a hundred percent sure about, set boundaries and talk things through with her completely before hand. This is definitely a common fantasy that lots of people explore but it doesn’t always work as well as planned. Sometimes a person thinks they’re going to be fine with it and that ends up not being the case. No one else can really help you decide whether it’s right for you or not as we don’t know you both although have a search for some of the past threads cause I recall there being a few on such topics and that might give you some ideas for moving forward :)
Great advice from NatandTom a really deep discussion if want to persue
Ok so I have a really random suggestion. Purchase a pair of ver cheep mobile phones and have them just for sexy messaging. Create an ultra ego for your sexy phone and live a role play situation through that phone.
It will give you an idea of how brave you can be and what your actually happy with, it also allows you to be more forward/adventurous/naughty than you would normally be with your partner, but still have the safety that the only person who sees those messages is the person that you love and trust.
Worth a try before introducing other people into your sexy message world.
I think things like this are best on swingers sites ect.. that way you don't actually know the people your messaging.. If my partner was to send dirty messages to someone he knew I would be hitting the roof. However i find strangers on these sort of sites don't seem to bother me..maybe it's knowing that he's never actually going to meet these people.
Personally for me, it isn't something I would entertain at all. I feel talking to other people, no matter how harmless it may seem to be the same as cheating and I know my husband feels the same way. I'd much rather send him dirty messages and photos so that I can get excited for his reaction when he is home.
Each to their own though! If it's something that interests you and no one will get hurt go for it!
Just a few thought on this:
1. it would depend who the messages are with, random strangers or people you actually know where the messages could turn into something more?
2. As a woman, I tend to be turned on more by flirtation / mental stimulation (I prefer to read erotica vs. watch porn for example) so if this is a form of stimulation to her it could be a positive thing is she acts it out on you
3. If this is a way to introduce other people into your relationship you need to talk openly and honestly about ground rules.