Hi everyone, I'm getting a little curious and need some advice. I really love sex and have recently been introduced to light bondage (which I'm loving). My partner keeps dropping hints about swapping, which I've never tried but I'm getting more curious about it and about being restrained and having other people see me and touching me. Should I bite the bullet and try it?
Hey blonde and flirty, great that your having all the new experiences and finding a love for sex. Before you start swapping you need to think is it just the porn scenario your both thinking about or do you genuinely want to try swapping, would you both be comfortable with your partner being touched or even someone else touching you etc. My suggestion would be to have a proper discussion about it and if your both wanting to try it and feel your relationship will be safe then why not try something new? If you tried bondage and loved it then maybe this will be the same. Just remember that getting others involved can lead to a lot of feelings and thoughts which may not be repairable after so lay down all the rules before you go ahead.
I may have used the wrong term, swinging not swapping
Hey B&F the same would apply even in a threesome, swinging is one of them things which a lot of people have as a fantasy. The feeling of being wanted by multiple people and being in a room of multiple men or women wanting to have their way with you, but in a relationship you have boundaries as it’s two peoples feelings in the way. If you both genuinely want to try it and experience it then set some ground rules and go to a swinging club, a lot of these places will allow you to go along and watch the action without getting involved and you won’t have to do anything. This is one of the best ways to see how it feels in reality as finding couples online has a few issues such as finding a place to go, what the people may actually be like etc. We’ve had fun with a few of my partners girl friends and it’s been absolutely fine without any issues, but I know what the boundaries are such as no kissing etc. Swinging, swapping and cuck type scenarios all sit on the same emotional ground. All people involved need to be comfortable and know exactly what’s going on. It’s fun and sexy and adds a new dimension to your relationship, if your partner is dropping hints then talk about it and make it happen ☺️
Thanks for your input Lil Known, good advice about going to see what it’s like. Maybe we need to discuss this further along with discovering what fantasies we share.
Just remember fantasies and reality can be two very different situations. Dip your toes in and see if it feels right, if it doesn’t then don’t try again but at least you can say you gave it a go ☺️
You should definitely try it, your partner is a lucky fellow 