Hi all!
Hope you are well. So I’ve consulted Google and as usual it’s useless
When I got together with my OH I remember he was never bothered about “finishing” and was always so focused on my pleasure, this was pretty alien to me but selfishly I quickly just took it for granted - when I’d had enough that was it too he’d happily just roll over and go to sleep, no helping hand or anything.
It kind of became something I just accepted and occasionally he did cum, but not often, and sometimes he’d say he orgasmed but didn’t cum.
He says he can cum easily when having a quick wank, but when there is the build up of foreplay and sex, it’s more difficult or impossible.
Obviously I’ve assured him and said it’s not essential to me, I only want to make sure he is okay and he is having a good time.
He admitted it is annoying sometimes - so I’ve done what I do best and started researching!
It could be something called “retrograde ejaculation” apparently where a man ejaculates but it goes back down the eurethra the wrong way and into the bladder… We’ve talked about it and I’m not sure it’s this, athough he has reported the “dry orgasm” there is also “death grip” syndrome where you’ve wanked too hard and lost some sensation… Again not sure it’s that as even some time of trying to help himself does not do the job.
Obviously it’s frustrating, for us both… Although strangely more me (I’ve asked if he has seen anyone or googled it, both was a no)
It does kind of take some of the fun out of it, great lasting power, but when you give a BJ or anything with no finale… It can go on forever…
A tad random for Monday afternoon, but I thought I’d see if you lovely people had any ideas, tips or similar experiences!