I've been trying for years but never really could and wanted to ask men on hear in detail how exactly do you do it. If i have this right there are 2 ways:
1) Orgasm and ejaculation and being able to somehow do that again imedtatly.
2) Having dry orgasms without eejacualtion, skiping the refactory period, and being able to do that multiple times.
I honestly just want some real answers on how real people are suposed to do this?
I can achieve multiple dry orgasms through prostate stimulation with a prostate massager. I favour non vibrating massagers from aneros and highly recommend investing in one. Take your time getting to know you body and how to use your new toy and you will find a whole new aspect to your erotic pleasure you didn't know existed. There is much advice on line of how to use aneros toys but the essence of it is relax and use your pelvic floor muscles to move the massager to stimulate your p spot. It takes practice and patience but once achieved multiple dry orgasms are the reward. Good look on yor new adventure and enjoy.đź‘Ť
I've recently been exploring prostate play - and as mentioned above, this is probably the best route to multiple orgasms.
However, regarding regular penis orgasms: if I hold my foreskin down, and stimulate only the head of the penis using lube and a masturbator toy, I can reach a slightly different orgasm that produces a small amount of cum. Then if I carry on straight afterwards with "normal" full-shaft stimulation, I can reach full orgasm with larger amount of cum.
Not sure if that made any sense, or if it would work for others. It was quite a weird experience when I first did it by accident.
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I'm not sure how helpful this will be Curiosityx, but it might be. Alicia gave you a great answer about 2, but this is about 1.
My husband can often do 1 (Orgasm and ejaculation and being able to somehow do that again immediately). He did it the first time we shagged, and I was amazed. I've always loved feeling a cock pulse inside me, and with him, I can often feel that a number of times in a shag. That makes me happy.
He doesn't know exactly how he does it, but here are a few things we've learned over the years of looking at this.
1. Either his or my hands (no pussy or ass) always produces one large orgasm.
2. He can do multiple small orgasms in my pussy or ass, but each orgasm produces only a small amount of cum (ie the total cum load across the multiples is the same as one large one).
3. He doesn't go soft between the orgasms. If he does go soft, then the multiples are over, and we're on to recovery time.
4. The harder he is, the more likely he is to be able to do multiples.
5. It is all about how his cock is stimulated, where it is rubbing etc. Even subtle shifts of position can change whether he does one or multiples.
6. If he uses something like porn, or reads and erotic story, he is less likely to multiple. If he just looks at my body and plays with it, then he is more likely to multiple.
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7. He can feel the difference well before he cums. Sometimes he can ask me what I want, and will adjust things accordingly. Other times, by the time he realises, any change of position will not change the outcome.
8. Something to note is that his recovery time is amazing. Even if he gets really hard for ages on shag one, he can often be ready to go again in 15 minutes. In this case, it will be multiples.
9. One thing that does have an affect though is masturbating. If he masturbates too much (and it is quite a low threshold), he seems to reduce the chance of multiples. (I'm not talking about having a play, I'm talking about masturbating to orgasm). Obviously, I don't want that, so that is why we did a deal so that if he wants to masturbate or otherwise stimulate his cock, he comes to me. More often than not, we'll shag instead, and I'll get the benefit of his multiple orgasms.
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10. If he multiples, he's more likely to make me cum hands-free. Take last night for example, he came a small amount a couple of times, was still rock hard, and then found a position and a rhythm that was working my clit and generally feeling great. The fact that he'd already cum a bit meant that he could stand a lot more stimulation, and therefore keep going in that position and rhythm for a long time. He knew he'd found the position. So did I, and I had a massive orgasm, so big he had to stop for a minute whilst I recovered. Then he carried on and came a few more times.
So in summary, he doesn't really know how it happens, but he's learned to manipulate it a bit. I don't think he thought it was anything special, but believe me, it is. Unbelievably, his ex didn't like it and always wanted one and done. I'm the other way - the more times I can feel the pulse the better.
I hope that helps Curiosityx
Hi Alicia,
I've had a theory that it is all controlled by his mind. When I said how much I love the multiples, he seemed to be able to up his game and give me more. We have a little joke that if I ask him for cum (after he's cum a couple of times), he can often give me a bit, and I joke that he is so obedient. But the fact he can often do that I think suggests his mind, even if it is only his subconcious mind, is in charge of his orgasms.
His ability to read my body is incredible, and he won't tell me what gives me away, but I think he is so focussed on that, staying hard (for my benefit) and managing and playing with the physical sensations that is makes it easy for him to control the orgasms.
We know for a fact that the way his cock is stimulated does have a bearing, but that is more of a technique thing, but his control is elsewhere.
Regarding the last bit about the submissive mindset, there are a couple of points here. If I'm pegging him, he won't multiple. That and the hand job thing would point to you being correct about the submissive mindset and just letting go. We might try the experiment see if he can get it working. But interestingly, if I'm riding him in Reverse Cowgirl (which I'm rather addicted to at the moment), he can still multiple, but not as much.
defam wrote:
I've recently been exploring prostate play - and as mentioned above, this is probably the best route to multiple orgasms.
However, regarding regular penis orgasms: if I hold my foreskin down, and stimulate only the head of the penis using lube and a masturbator toy, I can reach a slightly different orgasm that produces a small amount of cum. Then if I carry on straight afterwards with "normal" full-shaft stimulation, I can reach full orgasm with larger amount of cum.
Not sure if that made any sense, or if it would work for others. It was quite a weird experience when I first did it by accident.
I'm sorry i should have seen this sooner, and others have kind of jumped on this techinque, doe this mean only a sesnative (non circumised) penis can have multiple orgasms? Because i am circumsised and have very little sesativity.
I have no personal experience of this, but there's a recent Lovehoney blog about it that might be interesting?
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2019/10/03/multiple-orgasms-for-men/
That just talks about the steps you take (increasing kelgel strenght etc...) it doenst mention on what actually happens. E.g. when to squeeze and when or real experances people have had.
My boyfriend masturbated very frequently before but since starting to take an anti-depressant earlier this year he found he doesn't need to wank anywhere near as often, probably once or twice a month now.
It also take him a lot longer to cum and he has found he often has a dry orgasm. He says he still feels the orgasm but just doesnt squirt. His ejaculate seems to dribble out an hour or so later when he is relaxed again. It seems a bit different to before but he has got used to it.
i have heard many stories about this and have friends who can do this well.... i still dont really understand when and how to use the muscles to achieve this properly, but i will keep trying
There is also the unfortunate reality that simply not everyone can. It's usually a huge mental thing that requires a lot of patience, practice and the right mindset, and not everyone can strictly commit to doing it. It took me two years from when I first tried to when I first had one. Then I realized professionals at kink groups can do it for you and that experience helped me realize how better do it myself too.
I have recently been able to do 2 wet ejaculations in a row whilst having sex. There is no exact science to how it’s done but there are definitely a couple of things to be aware of. Firstly you have to get out of the mindset that you can only do it once (this is kind of in built with men so is why it seems odd). Secondly don’t try and time your first ejaculation to your partners orgasm. Just let that happen when it happens. Try to do the first one in a non vigorous way (no hard pumping or thrusting). It’s good to talk beforehand and let your partner know you’re going to be trying it. When it comes to the actual sex you need to be in a position where you don’t remove your penis after the first ejaculation. You need to keep it inside and as deep as you can. Take very slow movements after the first - being in the spoons position and “rocking” seems to work well but other positions might work. Enjoy the feeling of your penis going slightly softer and then building it back up harder. If you keep going you’ll get to a point where you can ejaculate again. You could try and time this to your partners orgasm but don’t focus too much on that especially when you’re first trying it out. It helps to do it if you’re highly aroused to begin with so refraining from sex/play for a few days before can help. For me personally I don’t think it’s about muscles, breathing as much as it is getting into a mental state where it seems “normal”. Hope that helps and good luck. As always practice makes perfect so I’d say just keep trying and you might surprise yourself. Also - might not happen every time so don’t get down if it doesn’t.
Mr John always stays hard after he cums. He doesn't believe me that most men need some time to recover. Last night prime example. He came from a BJ and then straight away straddled my stomach to go again over my DD's. I do love it.
I've had multiples a fair few times & really curious to try for more after all your lovely advice!
It's kinda hard to describe the hows & why’s for mine but here goes:
I was really turned on to begin with each time, but took everything really really slowly, and mostly mindful of both mine and my wife's bodies, and enjoying lots of foreplay. There has to be tons of buildup for me.
I was somewhere between really hard and semi-hard for most of this time. After over a half hour, the sensitivity and sensation changed and PIV felt super relaxed, and easy, like it could go on and on.
The orgasms themselves built up really slowly, and when I peaked they felt much more full-bodied and spine tingling, but yet relaxed, and afterwards everything stayed rock hard. Coming again after a few minutes felt less intense, but still pretty heady and way more intense than a quickie orgasm.
I've been in this orgasmic state a couple of times without ejaculting, though there's usually precome involved throughout the whole thing, so not completely 'dry'.
Mmmmm! Happy memories...
MK7 wrote:
There is also the unfortunate reality that simply not everyone can. It's usually a huge mental thing that requires a lot of patience, practice and the right mindset, and not everyone can strictly commit to doing it. It took me two years from when I first tried to when I first had one. Then I realized professionals at kink groups can do it for you and that experience helped me realize how better do it myself too.
For me it requires me not to 'pump' on orgasm (so it is both mental and physical), leads to an intense feeling in the tip (for me) and I can continue again and again.
Have never done it more than three times in a row but I think that is more to do with us both being knackered.
I am not sure if I have multiple dry orgasms, when I play with my prostate I feel like it brings me to the point of orgasm and basically lasts for as long as I can keep going (until my arm gets tired from going so fast) I guess I am still learning but it feels amazing anyway, as for wet orgasms once I ejaculated my sex drive takes a nose dive so I have never tried, maybe I will give it a go
OH used to be able to do dry orgasms but can't now, think it's an age thing.
He described it as when he began to feel 'cummy' he had two choices, speed up and ejaculate or slow down and stop moving to have a mini orgasm/dry cum. Very nice for him but not as intense as a full cum, and he didn't produce sperm. He could then keep going for quite a long time until he felt cummy again. He'd do it when he sensed I was getting close and didn't want to cum too soon.
When young he was apparently able to ejaculate and as long as he didn't withdraw his penis, keep on until he had another ejaculation. He'd lost that ability by the time we met.