I am planning to get my partners bum into play this weekend. We do anal and all sorts usually but his bum is off the cards, until now. What advice do you have as a beginner for anal play on a man?
For the first time I would suggest lube and maybe just your finger. If you think he is a bit more receptive, I would suggest a small anal toy or beginners butt plug.
Start off with something small and build from there
make sure he is in agreement first!
Talk to him about it. Warm him up using lube and fingers and then toys if he agrees. Communication is key!
+1Just Jenson wrote:
make sure he is in agreement first!
Has he agreed to you doing this...I hope so, otherwise it'll definitley be a surprise for him....and not a very good one. If you've had a chat about it and he's agreeable then your finger and lube will be enough to start off with x
Total agreement! I'm not crazy haha. We have tried a bit finger play but not full on. He actually finds less lube helps. Maybe we are crazy haha. Thanks for the advice xxx
If you have agreement with him and he wants to go into it more, then small beginner plug would be the best next step after you try fingers. I would still do like 2 or 3 fingers before going for a toy, but after that a small plug, or a very slim dildo or vibrator. But if it does not have flat base, make sure that you hold the toy so it does not slip inside him fully.
Terri JJ wrote:
Has he agreed to you doing this...I hope so, otherwise it'll definitley be a surprise for him....and not a very good one. If you've had a chat about it and he's agreeable then your finger and lube will be enough to start off with x
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Hiya you have been given some great advice. I do suggest you use plenty of lube! My OH won't let me touch him down there. I'm always telling him he doesn't know what he's missing lol.
Have fun. x
Absolutely make sure he is okay with trying this and talk is key. I just asked my partner what he suggests as he was introduced to it fairly recently and he said just take it slow and listen to him because the last thing you want to do is be forceful without realising you are. We started by just teasing around with fingers and used lube so it was easier. Also used a mild vibrator (nothing to intense). It got his inquisitive curious head on and then introduced small butt plugs then vibrating ones and on to dildos. Obviously not all in one night 😊 lol x
Try a slimline plug, there are a few on LH only marginally thicker than a finger.
Maybe slowly insert it while giving him head, and he can wear it while you have regular sex.
Here are a few ideas for first time toys that perhaps you could move onto after he can manage a finger comfortably x
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30704
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8649
Thank you All for the advice. He is definitely in agreement as he is begging me to do more!! Haha xx